Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I can't believe how easy everyone was on her.  She is a lying cheating wife.  That wants money.  I can't believe men still have to pay when they find out the child is not theirs.  Women like that make me really sad that she is a mother.   And if I was the daughter I would be furious with her ( the mother).   I feel sorry for him.  I would be so mad that she didn't tell me about the affair.  Anyway I just couldn't believe that show.  And the lawyer you had on the show Gloria whaterver,  she was the most annoying.  I hate lawyers like her.  Go after the real father.  WHAT AN IDEA.  I just can't believe alot of what was going on.  I'm so upset at the show that lawyer.  It's a bad situation you know why because of that woman no one else should be to blame. 

Dr. Phil,

Your show today was very intersting, as I had a cousin go through the same situation.  He found out after 12 years that the son he thought was his wasn't, and the mother knew it from the start. 

He is still in the boys life and we still consider him family.  Now the situation today is somewhat similiar in the fact that the mother knew, but the difference is the fathers reaction to it all.  I do not believe that he should be made to pay court ordered child support, but that he should still support the child and continue to be a part of her life.  The mother was WRONG! She knew from the beginning and should have bed adult enough to let him know what she did, and the possibility of parternity.  I feel strongly that the real father should be notified, he should be made to pay for his child.  The mother was acting as if she was wronged in this whole thing, and unfortunately Selena is paying the price for the decisions made by the adults in her life.  I wish her the best.  GREAT SHOW as usual.

I'm just 21 i don't know everything but i think its stupid that a man has to pay for a kid thats not his.    court ordered or not i wouldn't pay.

     I do feel very sad for the daughter.  She also a victim to the situation.  I truly hope that she can receive some sort of councilling.  Even though she says that she is alright, I am sure she is not.  I come divorced parents, who I know love me and deep down I know it was not my fault, but yet I still carry alot on my shoulder. 

     I hate that the "dad" left the daughter.  Yes, financially he should not be responsible, but he should of thought about the daughters pain. 

     The mom I feel is very wrong, and she should not expect the man to pay.  I also understand the desperation she must have felt, and maybe guilt for cheating.  You also have to think of what God expects, too!

Why not make it a law in all 50 states that a blood test be given at the time of birth to all newborns to prove parenthood as listed on the birth certificate.  If the father is unknown it would be listed as such on the b.c.  That would stop a lot of deception, maybe make people think twice before hopping into bed with someone they shouldn't.  It's sad that there is more paperwork,  more rules and test and you have to prove who you are before you apply for a drivers license than there is to become a parent.

I really feel sorry for Salina, She doesn't deserve this, But the real blame should be on the mother, She lied and continued to lie for 9+ yrs, And I'm sure the lie would continue id he wouldn't have asked for a paternity test. I feel she should pay the money back that he has paid her all these years, Everyone wants to blame the man for his actions, He was in shock when he found out that Salina wasn't his child, If you were in his shoes how would you react, I think people need to blame the mother she started this, by being unfaithful to her husband and children, My husband and I are in a similiar situation, His ex-wife came to him after dating for 2weeks, with a pregnancy test, and said she was going to have his baby, The man that my husband is took care of his responsibility and married her, Now he wonders if his oldest is really his, But he's afraid to get paternity, he's afraid of the results, HE LOVES HIS CHILDREN...

I hope that Salina and  the man she thought was her father for all these years can get past all the hurt, and maybe one day they can build a relationship again!