Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

   I feel there should be repercussions for these mothers that do this. It needs to be the mans decision if he wants to father the baby after he knows the truth, so it spares the child for the hurt and the pain that this child is going through. As a single mother that has watched the pain in my kids eyes from having troubled relations with their father, i would have given up anything for them to have a good father. So if these women do this i do not feel these men should  NOT have to pay child support ( unless they choose to help financially) and just continue the relationship that was started. AND I FEEL THESE MOTHERS SHOULD BE PUNISHED JUST LIKE WE GO AFTER DEAD BEAT DADS!!!  So maybe in the future other women will think twice before letting 10 years go by, or just plain deceiving these men and children.

I agree 100% with your thoughts.  As I said in my response to Dr. Phil, I agree the child should come first, the money second.  The Mother should PUT the child first and stop focusing on the money.  Too often, the child support given to these women is used for frivilous things like nicer cars, newer homes, and not always for the true support of the child.  This father should be able to resume his relationship with the daughter and provide her financial support directly if he chooses...and not give any money to the Mother. 

Columbus, OH

Upset after watching today's show (parent trap).  I believe too that biological father should be tracked down.  Personally, our family has experienced the same to a degree. Our oldest daughter got pregnant at 18 yrs and subsequently got engaged to be married.  Fiance' figured dates and tho't there might be a chance this child was not his.  Paternity proved he was not biological father and he cut off engagement.  As parents we were mortified.  Our granddaughter is now 12 yrs old and mother (our daughter) still refuses to admit who the biological father is. 

Because of 'money' and educational issues, Ohio Welfare system picked up the tab for OB/Pediatric care although the father was NEVER determined.  Our daughter would not level with us. We are and have been humiliated too.  Grandpa is the only strong male father figure in this young girls life.  Hopefully, we have stood in the gap for our granddaughter.  Our Daughter went on to utilize education grants to graduate from college with bachelor's degree and worked out of welfare too. 

Women caught in such a lie should be cut off from any financial gain or support from an innocent man.  If paternity is proven then there is a trust fund set up for the child and money dispersed that way.  Mother should never see a dime!  Biological fathers beware.  If mother will not name the father, then there is no public financial aid either.  What a conundrum!  Promiscuity is not as sexy when there is fallout.

Years ago a child out of wedlock meant that the couple were 'forced' to get married. Many did so out of responsibility and owned up to the occasion with grit and maturity.  Now couples just walk away.  Our society pays in violence and anger.  This burden is too great for any child.  God help us all.

If any harm was brought about to the child for her "father" leaving the picture upon learning results of paternity, it falls on the mother, for only her commited any fruad.

It's bull that a man who was victim to her trickery, whether for 10 months or 10 years, must now be a willing participant of her deciet for the child's sake.

The mother put her child in that position, knowingly.  She knew full well what the risks were if he knew the actual paternity, which explains why her mouth was shut for so long.  She should be on trial here by not just the man, but by her child as well. 

Im sure the child will experience anger and abandonment towards who she believed was her father, but again, that falls on the mother.He should not be responsible to the feelings the child will experience that are a direct and predictable result of her mother's fraudulant entrapment of man, paternity be damned.

The mother set up the house of cards, the mother is responsible for the collapse of her scheme, and has A LOT of explaining to do to her child, and hopefully, to the courts.

If the mother is not held responsible for fraud and is instead given right to continue recieving 'royalties' for her behavior, what lesson does that teach the child exactly?  Many children emulate their parents and repeat patterms of their parents.  How does forcing a man, who has been a victim of deceit, continue to pay for a child that isn't his, teach a child anything other than how to emotionally entrap people for personal gain?

It's a shame any children of similar circumstances will have to experience the hurt they will experience.  But unfortunately for these children, it was the mother who willfully put their children on the betting table, and only their mother let the bet ride.

It's too bad society is set up that the odds are in the mother's favor.

Entrapment of men with children/pregnancy is the oldest and most prevalent scam committed.  Women be crazy when it comes to their man and money.  The idea that a mother wouldn't use children/pregnancy for her own gain and/or manipulation is an idea that deserves to be blown to smithereen's.  Its just. not. true.

And so there's no confusion, Im a woman, and today's topic is one of many reasons why women give women such a bad name.  I am shamed by my gender today.

Maybe this show can ALSO be a wake-up call to MEN who just screw with abandon and don't use birth control.  Look at the mess it can cause.

I have raised nine children only three were my natural children.  My husband had six children when we got married we decided to adopt the two youngest, but the older four came with the package.  My point to this is I was able to make my own decision about raising and paying for someone else's children.  My ex never paid a day of child support, but I worked hard to keep me and my children off of the welfare system.  I believe in this day and age a women can take care of her family without a man.  Don't get me wrong I do believe they should pay child support because it took the two of them to make the child.  But the argument over money can damage the child.  The child will grow up thinking all the mother want's is the child support and not care about them and vise versa for father's.  As a woman I believe women should be ashame of themselves for causing just a drama in their children's lives.  Women should think ahead before they even start this type of lie.  What if the child gets sick and need bone morrow or blood transfusion, don't they think the truth will come out.  Or even if the child just starts to going to school and become interested in science to find out why they have black hair or blue eyes when neither parent does.  There are so many factors, but they all come back to the child being distroyed. 

As far as child support the falsely accused parent should be allowed to decide if they want to keep their relationship and help the child on a voulentary basis.  Why add hurt to shame and force them to pay child support for a child that is not their biological child.  I am sure by ten to twelve years or even less the bond is so close the parent will still want to be a part of that child's life.  This whole situation is as bad as mine.  My father divorced my mother when I was four years old because she did not want to move to Louisiana with him, but not only did he divorce her he divorced me.  I have no idea what my father looks like and do not have the means to find him or see him.  Mother's or Father's don't realize what they are doing to that child when these things happen.  My situation is a little different, but the decision affected my entire life and still is affecting it. 

I grew up believing something was wrong with me.and feeling totaly unwanted.  After my mother died I disconver EVERYONE except me knew my Father wasn't my biological father.  Even people that weren't family members knew.  My father told me that my Mother had tricked him.  My biological father didn't want to marry my Mother and she told no one who that was. My father didn't know until the day I was born.  They argued over it and it boilded down to the fact that neither of them wanted me.

How sad to punish me for something I didn't have any control over.  I now don't have any way of finding out valuable health information that would benifit my children as well as me. 

To lie hurts many innocent people.