Quote From: alex629In My Opinion
The only thing Enrique did wrong was involving the children. A married man should wear a condom? He should suspect his wife of having an affair and bearing the child of another man? Really?
Maria is wrong, period. She had the affair, she knew there was a possibility this was not this mans biological child and she did not have the morals to prove Selina was his before she pursued and received child support from him. Maria should be ordered to re-pay the support. Enrique should then invest that money for both the girls future.
I do think Mia should stay home and quietly support her husband. Mainly because I feel her physical presence there, creates an "us against them" environment that can only further the distance between Enrique and Selina.
Some guy out there is Selina's biological father, yes, but as far as we know, not even he is aware of that. Why should he be responsible for back pay? Really, why?
It's sad it's about money, but it is. As all of life seems to boil down to sex and money.
I can speak on this money issue firsthand. Speaking as a mother of 4, two of which we are adopting. Children don't need money to be happy, to thrive, what they need is love, someones eyes they can look into and see nothing but love reflected back, they need a sense of security, they need food, they need shelter, they need clothing. We would be considered poor. However my children have everything they need, food, shelter, clothing, and love. The finances are our problem, not theirs. We could attempt to seek child support from their biological parents, however no amount of money is worth the stress it would bring on the children. We did not take the children on in order to profit financially, we took them because their biological parents finally proved to the courts, beyond all doubt, that drugs were more important to them than the children, and there was no-one else to take them other than DHS or us.
If Maria feels her needs for Selina cannot be met without Enrique's support, I suggest she get a job, or a second or third job, if necessary. Maybe she'd make a better investment of her time in providing what Selina really needs.
One day Selina is very likely to see the injustice her mother is doing her by continuing this battle for money and keeping her life in a constant state of stress.
Women like Maria make me feel embarrassed to be a woman. But then I suppose I should thank her for making me work harder at being the best person I can be.
I continue to be baffled at people just not getting that most (I said most, not all) men simply do not have the connection with their children (biological or not) that women do. They just don't. It's not something they are trying to inflict, and I really don't know whether it's nature, nurture, or, most probable, a combination of the two. I don't think it's fair to expect people to live up to what we think is right if it simply isn't within them.
1. If a man is married to a woman that doesn't suspect her of cheating, why would he question if the baby is his or not? Personally, I don't care if you're married or not, every baby that comes into the world should have have a pat. test done! That way good men are protected from malicious/decitful women.
2. So they track the bio. father down. He is told he has to pay support and back support. How is that fair to him? This woman has robbed him of being in his child's life and then he gets to pay her? This happened to a friend of mine in Ohio. He was served court papers to appear for a child support hearing? He went only to find out that an ex-girlfriend had a baby, which turned out to be his, and never told him. The "baby" was now 7, and had health problems that the government had paid to fix. He was ordered not only to pay back child support but to re-imburse the govt!! He was married and had two kids, they had to remortgage their house for this! How was that fair to those kids? The kicker, he wasn't allowed to see his child. The court found that if he didn't care enough to make sure he hadn't gotten that girl pregnant he didn't need to see said child!!!! What a pay off for that mom, who now lives off of him! What a sad story for the guy, because of the financial strain that put on him, he and his wife split up. Now we have two more kids from a broken home. Yes, he is responsible for the children he produces but if there is a limit on the time you can contest paternity, shouldn't there also be a time for irresponsible mothers to tell the fathers?
(Original Air Date: 10/29/07) Fraud. lies. conspiracy. They may sound like the latest Washington scandal, but these are allegations of exes at war over child support. Dr. Phil's guests claim they became victims of the perfect crime when they were led to believe they fathered a child that was not biologically their own and were forced to pay. First up, Enrique says he was shocked and angered to discover he was not the father of his youngest daughter, Selina, and that she was conceived during his ex-wife, Maria's, adulterous affair. Maria says he raised Selina but then abandoned her to save money. Why does Maria say Enrique's current wife is to blame for the fractured relationship? Next, 13-year-old Selina speaks one on one with Dr. Phil. Will she decide to let the man she once called Daddy back in her life? Then, Carnell Smith, who uses the online moniker, "Man4Justice," suffered a similar fate to Enrique, and but he fought and won. He says he's tired of seeing women trap men and get away with it. A heated debate ensues between him and feminist attorney, Gloria Allred, who argues that men like Enrique should continue to act as the father ... and continue paying! Talk about the show here.
