Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

Hi Dr Phil as a all the time vierwer, I was disappointed with the show today because I so love children but the fact for me is that the woman or women who do such things (cheat or have affairs during marriage or relationships) do hurt first the children and then as I saw it today was given a pat on the back for doing wrong.   I do give a lot of hands up for the young man who was very intellegent on the matter because he has been through it.  I don't think that Mrs. Gloria was making any sense when she tried to down play his wisdom.  He like many others as the other man said are douped into doing things that is not right.  I do pray that the child or children that do go through this do get the love, care and respect that they so do deserve.  The mother that did have an afair was WRONG and it is not right to pat her on the back like that and then we as a woman can then say that when a man do this we lfret and call the men names, two wrongs do not make it right.  Mrs. Gloria I do appreciate all that she did for us as women but today you did not get my vote you were talking to much and saying nothing but trying to make your self look good.  And Dr. Phil I was disappointed for I thought you were more selling her book more than seeing the everyday need as you usually do of every small for lack of a better word or getting down to reality with those who do not have the as much either financially or as educated.  But today this young man showed up for people like me THANK YOU SIR.   Thanks againg Dr. Phil and all the best to your show.

If men were allowed to sue these women, there wouldnt be so much harm to these children!!!! These women need to take responsibility and tell the potential father if he may not be the father. If we had this law in all 50 states then we wouldnt have so many children not knowing who their father is. Its about time to have some rights for the father!!!!!!!!!!!

I only caught the last 20 minutes of this show tonight, but I can say that I formed an opinion right away, just from the little bit I watched. The child should be completely left out of the problem here, and shouldn't even be involved to KNOW that Enrique was not her real father, until she was mature enough to know the truth.

The problem here however, lies with the mother. She was extremely selfish in both having an affair, and then letting Enrique pay child support when the child wasn't his. People really need to learn to be responsible for their actions and to think of other's feelings. She hurt both her child and her ex husband by being a cheat, a liar, and then taking child support fully knowing the truth.

NO man should be forced to pay child support for another man's child.

However, Enrique, should have continued being the father as he always has, and just informed his ex wife that he would no longer support with money. Any monetary support would need to be voluntary.

He should always show his daughter love and be committed to be there for her. You don't  just walk away. It was no fault of the child's that her mother was devious.

No matter how the issue was brought to light.. if the mother hadn't of been selfish, none of this would have ever happened. Karma will always come back to bite those who deserve it. This woman got to be called a fraud on National TV. Hopefully she learned something.

Gloria Allred, has no clue. She was arguing about how men don't pay child support and that is the real problem in America.. Well, Gloria my dear, that wasn't what this show was about. She shouldn't have even been on there, she just made herself look bad.

 

I really agree with you both. the dad should have used more tacted but and i do say but he is not the one who created the mess but we hold him responsable.  i mean we expected him to continue to be dad and support this child emotionally and finanically. if he choses to do so on his own great . but the bio dad needs to be help responsable. 

Just because you have a bitter exprerience with your ex please do not paint all men with the same brush. I t sounds like your bitterness has trumped your logic and sense of decency and fair play. Are you saying that a women who cheats on her husband and commits adultry and lies about it is ok to fool the very man she vowed to love? I have advised all my male off spring to be very, very careful who they see and don't trust any skirt.!!

After watching the show I was angry that Maria had the audacity to ask Enrique to continue to pay child support for a child that is not his.  She should be asking the biological father.  Futhermore, it's ridiculous that Maria puts the blame on Mia for urging Enrique to do a DNA test.  Yes, Enrique had very poor judgement in telling Selena that he was not her biological father at the park.  However, he should be allowed to rebuild a relationship with Selena if she agrees to it.  It's very unfortunate that Maria has caused this pain in her daughter and someday Selena will see that her mother is to blame for her infidelity and hiding her lie.  

Good lord !!! Give me a break !  Always so damn easy to blame the second wife, huh??  What about the fact that the so called mother is the one who caused all of this???  There is NO ONE else to blame here except HER !!!  She is now a proven liar, and whore, and yet, all you can say is the second wife is to blame ?   Or is it that you think the man is to dumb to think on his own??  Is he a puppy that just follows behind the new wife ? He did not seem to be an idiot. Not at all !!!!   You obviously have no clue the devastation these lies the mother told can exact !!  Jealousy???!!!!  NO ------ it's called standing by your husband who has been wronged beyond belief !!

I was apalled at the way so much criticism was heaped on Enrique, and his ex-wife was rather casual about the whole mess which was of her making.  I think Dr. Phil could have come down a little bit harder on the mom and asked what SHE felt her responsibility is in resolving this mess--she deserves to go to the Dr. Phil House for some soul searching.   I take my hat off to Enrique's current wife--she refused to allow this man to be continually made a fool of by his ex-wife who obviously had no respect for him.  Women know other Women, and often times can see through games that some women play when a man cannot see the light,    I think the ex-wife just wanted to keep that child support coming from a "medicine man" rather than the real father who is probably the "milk man".  She had her hooks on support payments from a doctor, and she liked it that way.   Unfortunately in these situations, the child involved has to suffer and that is most unfortunate.  Enrique made a huge mistake in the way he handled breaking this news to Selena, and he should have sought professional help in doing that.  As Dr. Phil said, that should have been handled among the adults involved--including the true father in my opinion.  I'm afraid in that instance, he allowed his hurt and anger to cloud his thinking.  In the State of TN, Maria would have had to forefit child support once DNA proved that Enrique was not the father.   She would have the option of pursuing the true biological father, but she would not have had further claim against Enrique.    This is not just about the money, but the money is also important, particularly for those men who may not have the resources of Enrique.  The average working man may be struggling to take care of his true biological children without supporting someone else's child.  Gloria Allred was SO WRONG when she tried to insinuate that this case was an exception!!--if she believes that nonsense, she is really out of touch.  She had better stop talking so much and listen to  the Carnell Smith's of the world.  That brother was "right on", and he ran circles around Gloria--she tried to talk over him but could not sensibly answer his questions.   I agree with Gloria that there are too many men who are shirking their responsibility to provide for their children, but that was totally not applicable to Enrique's case--Gloria sounded like she was reciting from a prepared script that had nothing to do with this case.  Gloria sounds like she is in favor of holding "any man" responsible--even if it is not the "right" man, just may somebody PAY.  Enrique was NOT a deadbeat dad--the deadbeat is the man "yet to be named" by the mom, Maria.  She should have been ashamed, but she is a golddigger and  by looking at her persona during this discussion, I feel she has NO remorse at all, and certainly no shame.   I feel there is a special corner of Hades  for women like Maria who pull such unforgivable stunts on men and on innocent children.  I hope and pray that Selena and Enrique can heal their relationship as she grows older and realizes that Enrique was also hurt in this matter.  Hopefully Enrique and Selena can one day have a friendly relationship--after all, he has supported her all those years when it was not his responsibility.