Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I don't think Gloria Allred ever answered the question "Should fathers that are proved not to be the biological father continue to pay child support"  .  Everyone agrees that the father on this show was wrong in the way he told the child that he was not her father and for discontinuing visitation with her.  The question is whether he should have to continue to pay child support.  I say "NO".  If the mother wants someone to help pay to raise her daughter it should be her responsibility to find the biological father and sue him for child support.  I do, however, feel that the father on the show should have continue to have the father/daughter relationship with the girl and maybe, hopefully, that can be redeveloped when the girl is ready for that. 

I commend the step-father for stepping in and being a father figure for the girl. 

Where was the biological father in this whole mess?  I would have loved to see him on the Dr. Phil show explaining where he has been the last 13 years.  The mom knows who she had an affair with all those years ago - once DNA officially proved the child was from that relationship why didn't she contact him?

This man is the one that the Gloria Alreds in the world should be pursuing, not the ex-husband whose wife cheated on him.  Lawyers go for the money - obviously the ex-husband has money and is worth going after while I suspect the "other man" is either married, broke or dead.  Not a good target.  It's all about the Benjamins...$$$  How pathetic.

It is very true that the person most affected in this case was the little girl. However, the "father" was also a victim. I understand that he doesn't want to pay to support another man's child, but by the same token, if he loves and cares for the child he would want to make sure that she always has a roof over her head, food to eat, and clothes on her back. I am not saying that he should have to LEGALLY pay child support because he shouldn't. He was lied to, and I don't believe that he should have to pay for another man's child. However, if the mother of that child needs resonable help to pay rent to keep a roof over the head of that child, or shoes for the girls feet, he should graciously provide assistance. If he doesn't he just proves that he doesn't care about the well being of that child. My step father never adopted me and never allowed me to call him dad. I know that he loves me, and even though I am 20 years old and live on my own, when I need help with something he is always more than willing to help. There is no legal obligation to anything he just cares about my well being. I honestly think that's the best policy.

I do think that the mother in this case is trying to nail him with child support so she can use the money personally. I do also understand that the world revolves around money and courts favor the mothers. Mothers want to rape fathers and "said fathers" of their incomes so they can buy things for themselves. That's why I think instead of child support, the court should come up with some sort of method to where the money goes directly to the child. I think they should be required to take the children clothes shopping every so often. If the fathers just took the children shopping for clothes, it would greatly help out the mothers. Think of how much money mothers spend on clothes every year for their children.

Wow , Get some help please.

The phemanist lady is obviousley blinded by her moral thoughts on this subject, the scammed father had nothing to do with this child and when he found out that he was cheated and tricked into paying child support for years he should have the right to take these dna tests and if it is found that the doughter is infact not his own he should be able to totally remove himself from her life if that is what he wishes. although i relize that this is not in the childs best interest, he defiently has the right to.

In a case where the father and daughter are very close and have bonded as father and daughter for years the father should not havet to pay any child support wutsoever but still be able to bond with the child as bassicly a father. if any one should be punished it should be the mother who should be charged with fraud.

If anybody has a different opinion and would like to contriverse about this subject, please feel free to i am open to discussion.

My thoughts on todays show well. I was emailed to tell my story and my husband not beliving in the justice system said he didnt want to go and tell his story. Well I think after 13 years of fighting with his baby mother whos name is Mary we just realised we cant do anything. I mean they did date and have intimate times. He was stationed in Oklahoma in 1990-1993. He left his base in January of 1993 and headed to Germany with 3 years with military documented orders. He was contacted by this women a few months later that she too was pregnant. He had no plans on staying with her. He decided that before he left the states. She still residing in texas claimed to have gone through the pregnancy and how interesting she had the child 13 months later. On March 4th of 1994, she gave birth to a daughter who once she was admitted to the hospital listed the child as Vanessa Yvonne Qaules (or Oaules) clearly written by herself. Well right under that she changed the childs name to  Scott ( last name listed to protect the child). Well we found that out when I requested medical records. I started to see over the past few years that people saying there was nothing he could do. He allowed himself to be listed years prior on Paternity Waiver as this childs father so he is stuck. People this is a sad world. One would argue why am I his wife addressing this issue for my husband. Well I will say this when I married him he told me up front I have been paying child support for a child who I dont think is mine but because I accepted paternity years ago I am stuck. At that time he said that he accepted this mistake but he was willing to pay since he did this.

Now that story changing in 7 years of being with him to countless documents that support he couldnt have fathered this child. He was in another country. He has military orders that support this and nothing reprinted from Kinko's ( I have to joke it helps this not hurt ). A totally different emailed listed on the hospital records.

Carnell Smith is a godsent man. Without his story and constant contact with his website family this would continue to be a topic pushed under the rug. My husband spent 22 years of his life in the air force. He retired with honors and has maintained gainful employment since he retired in 2002. He has dont nothing to deserve this but that he trusted someone he thought was a REAL WOMEN. I was shocked to see the resemblense to his ex in Maria the guest. I mean his ex has the same cocky, smart ass (sorry) screw you attitude. The reality is that she is hurting her child more than she will ever hurt my husband. Yes financially is sucks but god always blesses those that give with no limit. I hope the money she receieves every month adds up to the amount of hurt this child now 13 will deal with. One day she will come looking for answers and there will be a file folder filled with documentation of what we have tried to do. Who knows maybe the person who dated her will read this post. If he does or someone who may know who this other man could be please know in advance we had fought with this women for 7 years and she is unwilling to do a DNA TEST. Something a real women who knows she didnt make a mistake would eagerly do.

Thank you Dr Phil for helping me the wife of this victim see the side of the child. Yes that is truely a concern. I have to say though how can I the other women find it in my heart to sympathize with this beautiful child when her own mother isnt considering her feelings?????????????????