Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

OUTRAGED! That is the emotions that I felt watching your show. OUTRAGED. I am keeping it nice. the mother showed no remorse or any sort of wrong doing. She was emotionless, heartless and thoughtless, selfish, thief, and some other choice words that I wont go into. How could she as a person live with herself? the nerve of that woman. And the other woman on your show. That Gloria Alred. TERRIBLE. She is a feminist  man hater who came off as so callous to the injustice being done to Enrique. And shes an attorney! Thats the representation that i want from an attorney. What a shame!

Many men hate child support the way it has always been. UNFAIR. This is an extreme example of how much men suffer as a result of the courts actions. It changes the whole dynamics as a man. What we can and can't do as a result of divorce. Many men are the worse for wear after divorce and child support. I have been a child of divorce. and a parent of a divorce.  I know both sides and can sympathize with both sides.

The mother on that show showed no remorse for the situation that she placed her daughter. She was not interested in her daughters best intentions! SHE created a situation to where when the truth came out. EVERYONE would be affected. And yet she is the example her children have to look up to? If she cared about her daughters well being. Then when she became pregnant and had the baby. She should have told her husband about the affair. she should have given him the opportunity to have a paternity test. And to decide his fate before he became attached  to the child. The mother then could have located Selinas biological father to inform him that she was pregnant and had a child.

Here is a solution for her. If the child support wont stop. Then, she should send him back the money! How hard is it for her to be fair to him for once in his life. He deserves that FINALLY! What cowards the mother and father were.  TERRIBLE SELFISH INDIVIDUALS. Its hard to believe that the kids have both of them as parents!

As a man, you know that you haven't fathered a child when you keep it in your pants.  Mothers - let's teach our boys.  You will ALWAYS know that you aren't the baby daddy if you didn't do the do.

What was most striking to me is the way Selina's words matched those of her deceitful mother. I think what Maria did was a horrible betrayal to ALL of her family. Her entire family relationship has been based on a lie. I also believe that though Enrique made a mistake in his handling of this horrible betrayal, Maria is clearly manipulating Selina (and her sister) in a very negative way.

If she truly cares for Selina (and her sister) she would support Enrique instead of leading them to believe they can never trust this man again. She is out to justify herself by focusing attention on Enrique's failure to know what to do in a situation that he probably never thought he'd find himself in. Enrique has expressed remorse and admitted that he wished he'd handle it differently, Maria should be encouraging Selina to forgive and understand her dad's feelings and that she's the one responsible for the enormous amount of hurt and betrayal of her family. She should be focusing Selina's attention on how devestating this is for not only her but her father as well. Instead she is striping Selina and her sister of empathy and replacing it with blame. How would she like it if the girls were encouraged to believe that they could never trust another woman because of their mother's terrble mistake? Maria is manipulating her daughter's to make herself feel better. She is a terribly selfish woman. 

As far as child support, if Maria and her new husband can't support their family, then Maria can go on welfare or find Selina's biological father. Either way, the kids will be fine. Maria made her bed, let her sleep in it.  It's ridiculous to expect child support from Enrique and the girls are being lead to believe that Enrique's support (or lack of it) is some kind of statement of love. It isn't. She's using his desire for justice to "prove" that she loves them more.

The girls should be in counseling to deal with their mother's lie and continuing manipulation. They need to see that forgivness for their father's reaction is possible. By focusing on Enrique they don't have to deal with what their mother did to the family. They need to come to terms with what Maria did and see that it's also possible to forgive her. Fortunaltey, no one's encouraging them to never trust their mom again but she is definately allowing them to think they can't trust him again. I'm wondering if she should even be raising them at this point.

There are certain medical reasons it is good to know your actual biological parentage - diseases such as sickle cell anemia can run in families.  Family members might donate bone marrow, or even organs in cases of cancer or organ failure.

Perhaps DNA testing should come with counseling so people might make better choices on how to act and react to unwelcome news.

The laws need to be changed in this country - too many biological fathers do not support their children, but making other men pay so the state doesn't have to track down the real deadbeat dad isn't a good solution.  The day may come when everyone's DNA is on file and nobody will get away with it anymore.  Big brother!