Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I just wanted to write in a say a little something. First i want to say is that this situation touches home a bit for me. Very recent my mother dropped the bomb that my father was not my real father. Now my mother has caused alot of grief for our family when it concerns my father. My whole life has been that way mind you i am 26 in a loving relationship with my boyfriend and our  daughter. I was devastated. Not by the fact that the man that i grew up loving may not be my real dad, but by the way my mother went about it 26 years later. For 2 weeks we were on pins and needles waiting for results, my hurt was at the fact that there was no compassion from my mother. As far as my dad was concerned he will always remain the father in my life.Things were not easy in life but he will always be dad. At no time in the waiting of results was money an issue. Not even from my fabulous stepmother, who by the way has been struggling along with my dad to pay child support after all these years.

On the show i do feel for the Miss identified father ,but at the same time he and his wife are extremely selfish. I do not believe that they handled this in the best interest of the child. it should have never resorted to not seeing the child. She never asked for her parents. And that is the problem. Mia and her husband should not be pointing fingers the other way. they are the ones who from the beginning pushed this child away. not her mother who by the way is taking full responsibility for her wrongs. you folks on the other hand have made it very clear what the most important issue is to you. MONEY, and that is the saddest part of this all. You did not stand by her. You just made her feel unwelcome in your  heart over money. Love is what makes this world rotate. First thing first he should of had DNA a long time ago.its to late now. you should feel blessed that you have had her in your lives for this long. If you want to do anything to help her and to support this child you should have never caused her to feel terrible for something that is not , or ever has been in her control. My father would have never done that. The first thing he said to me when i told him the accusations from my mother was "O don't you worry honey you are my daughter, nothing will ever change that" . I feel so bad for this girl that Mia And her husband have been punishing her for someone Else's mistakes. They truly need to put on Selena's shoes. Now how do you feel?

This situation was very sad because of all of the pain inflicted on Selina and Enrique. What is even more sad is that in Selina's mind she is blaming Enrique and not her mother for what has transpired. Selina's mother is a deceitful person who does not deserve to sit on that stage and play the role of the victim. In fact, she should be ordered to pay restitution to Enrique for his child support that he has already payed as well as for mental anguish. I hope that Selina can one day see who the villian was in this situation and redevelop a relationship with Enrique.

It seems like this type of situation is occuring too frequently. Laws should be in place to protect the children.......even if that means conducting paternity tests on all children born, especially to unwed mothers.

I am a women....I normally support Gloria Allred's causes but she looked like a complete idiot yesterday.  The mother should be sued and have to pay back any and all child support and mental anguish for this.  The little girl is who is being hurt here and the mother is mostly responsible.  The dad should have never abandoned that little girl so he too is at fault. 

That be said...  he should not "have" to pay child support but if he loves that little girl he should want to make sure she has whatever she needs, but not court ordered. 

He should resume relations with her and try to repair the damage going forward. 

What the mother did was dispicable and she should have to pay damages..

Just my 2 cents..

    i found out at age 47 that "my father" knew i wasn't his and punhished me all my life with inuendoes and unkindness but never admitting that he believe i wasn't his.on the day he died he ended his phone conversation with me as always "i love you honey'. within a few days i was the only one of his 4 kids to be required to take a dna test. if i was his...i was included, if i was proved not.... i was excluded. well he was right. but what i lost was so much more than money. somehow  i lost my whole identity. questions about why he would have waited until after his death. how did that benefit him? was i so unworth his love that  to prove a point ,he didn't care that i had no one to ask what the true story was,that my mother  had died the year before and as a family we were still  mourning her. my brother and sister fought about he money in his will and included me in this war....but i am nobody left with much less than a money war.i would have rather been disinherated and left my sense of self. i can never know why a father would want to punish  his child[biological or not] with the purose of making a point .