Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I think the Dad of 10 years was wrong in the way he told his daughter of 10 years that he was not her biological father.  The mother, the daughter and he should have had a conversation all together.  The father telling his daughter that he "isn't her real dad" is no different than any parents telling their children, at the right time, that they're adopted.  I believe that is the right thing to do. I feel they should be allowed to know who their real parents are.  Women who sleep around should not be married,  women who sleep around should not have children and the woman in this case should have, right from the beginning accepted responsibility for her actions, told the truth about her daughter not looking like her "father" and if this had all taken place at birth or shortly there after NO ONE would be going through so much pain right now.  There should be a law to punish the mother in this instance. She doesn't deserve a penny of child support.  I say, women today want to be independent, let them raise and support their children themselves. In most instances, when women want a divorce, it's because they're involved with another man anyway, so either go it alone and be independent or get the new Mr. Wonderful to support your kids.

 I find it very unfair to insist that a man who has been tricked into believing a child is his when the mother knew or possibly knew it was not his to have to continue paying child support.  The mother should be held responsible and should have to stand before a judge, rather than the man who has been victimised.  The emotional bond is most important and the hopes I think of most is that the man who thought he was the father all of these years could still  keep this bond.  But let's be realistic.  We are all human and seperating the anger and feelings of betrayal from the bond he has created has to be difficult.

I don't believe he should remain financially responsible.  Let the mother find the biological dad and pay the tricked man back his money.  She started the mess.  She needs to take repsonbility for some of the resolution.  The man shouldn't have to battle it out in courts!

You are the one not getting it...  I'm addressing one thing in my post, and you are responding to another.  If what I'm referring to is not evident to you, then don't worry about it.  I certainly wouldn't want you to strain yourself trying to engage me in this lively discussion.

I've read your posts.  You call some people psychopaths for disagreeing with you, and you have written things such as "....these women are ruining our country and need to be stopped immediately!"  This is a direct quote from one of your previous pearls of wisdom.  Who were you referring to, exactly?  How many women are we talking about?...  (Don't bother yourself trying to actually answer these questions, they are rhetorical).  Anyway, you're awfully young to be a misogynist.

Isn't it past your bedtime?  Nighty, night.