Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

Thanks for the comments. I agree that sometimes people marry for the wrong reasons and at the wrong time. You have some very interesting views on love and trust. Love and trust should be inclusive in ANY relationship, not just marriage.

How ever, love and trust ARE two different things. You can love someone, but they don't have to love you! And if someone leads you to believe that they love you and they don't, then you have a distrustful situation. Some people have found out that their mate that they love and trust has a sex addiction, and they have sex(sometimes unprotected with multiple partners).

They may find that they love that person deeply, but cannot trust them any more. That is why I will do anything possible in my marriage to put my wife's mind at ease if she requested me to do so. Some times we may become involved with a mate who has trust issues due to other experiences, and if you truly love that person you may have to do whatever you can to set their mind at ease.

I have lived through this same situation.  My father payed child support for my younger sister for 18 years knowing she was nnt his child.  My dad knew and never said a word to any of us about this.  My mother and father divorced before she was born due to this and my mother made sure that my father was not able to see any of his children (there were two of us that were his).  From the time I was 6 until I turned 18 we did not know why our dad would not visit or want to see us.  My mother lied to us and said my dad left when he found out he was pregnant with my sister, he did not want her.  Once my brother and I turned 18 we went to see our dad and found out that my mother had him arrested 3 times because he tried to visit us.  We also found that there was documentation that he was not my sisters father and still payed child support because there was not DNA back in the 60's.  Even at this time he did not come out and tell us he was not her father.  We found out when my sister was 25, the truth came out right before my grandmother died.  This was over 15 years ago and my mother still will not tell the truth, she refuses to tell my sister who her father is.  At the request of my sister my father took a DNA test and confirmed the truth, he is not her father.  My mother took our father away from us at a young age, hurt my sister to the point where she has not been able to carry on a good relationship with a man.  She seems distant from them and is now possibly facing her second divorce.  My father had to give up his children and pretend they never existed after 7 years of raising us, this had hurt everyone and to this day over 40 years later my mother still will not admit she did something wrong and my father still has a problem with having a relationship with his children.  Not to mention that my sisters true father does not know she exists and she has no idea who he is, this is wrong.  I am a woman and these women that are going around and cheating the real father out of a relationship with their children needs to stop.  The courts are not helping with this.  There is more than just the right and wrong here, in some cases there are true medical concerns that these children should be made aware of and sometime don't know about until it is too late.  Why don't these women have to have some type of "restitution or payment" of truth of financial?  They are getting away with this and in the end it is just a oops I guess I didn't tell the truth.  This isn't just about the  money, but for most of these women - IT IS!

Let the truth be told!