Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

The child is the center-piece of this argument.  All priorities should be directed toward helping the strain and offering a solution to ease the blow to the being of the child.  That being said, I still do not believe that the non-biological father should have to provide child support, regardless as to how long he fulfilled that role.  This does NOT exclude him from filling a presence role with the child, but not a financial one.  In this case, where the mother knew the truth as to the biological father, she should be required to repay all the child support paid to her from the mis-identified man.  There is no clear right or wrong answer, but I think the common sense factor is pretty easy to see.

First off, nobody can say that what the wife did in this situation was right.  It wasn't.  I don't even think that she was up there saying she was 100% correct.  However, the ex-husband (can't call him the Dad I guess) was totally wrong toward that child.  How do you profess to love a child that you decide after 10 years that you can't be around because they aren't your blood child???  Wow.  How shallow was that love?

The gentleman who sued his ex-girlfriend, just confused the issue.  She wasn't his wife and if he doubted the paternity - I don't know what kind of court made him pay just off her word.  I have a child whose father was THERE for the delivery and STILL didn't have to pay child support until after the DNA test that HE requested.  So, I am not sure what kind of court just took the EX-GIRLFRIEND's word on who the father was, but that court/judge should have been sued.

As for women (mothers) vs men (potential fathers)...I'm sorry but Gloria Allred makes a really good point.  There are wayyyyy too many men out there who ARE the father and STILL refuse to pay child support.  News flash ladies: if a man will quit his job to avoid paying support, the law really can't help you collect.  All of that to say - EVERYONE be more careful about who you lay down with.  And if you are suspicious, get the TEST.

I had always wondered if my son was biologically mine or another mans.  But, for the ten months that my son's biological mother and I were still married, I fell hopelessly in love with that baby boy.  After the divorce I paid child support for four years.  When my son's mother proved herself to be unfit, the courts gave me custody of this little boy.  Without being 100% sure of me being his biological father, I gladly took responsibility for this young life.  For the next three years it was just me and my boy.  When I remarried, my wife, knowing my uncertainties, willingly became his step-mother.  My son's biological mother was absent for most of his life, let alone her paying any child support.  I have never expressed my doubts to my son nor do I intend to.  My boy is now a career military man and has a wonderful family of his own. 

Don't blame the child you have loved.  When it comes to being a father, your kids don't care where the money or the sperm comes from, they only know they love their Daddy.