Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I totally agree, hospital bills are high anyway, what's a few more dollars and it would stop all this confusion! Plus it may even stop so much cheated if you knew you could be caught at the birth of the child!

If you are with in a relationship with someone, you expect the relationship to grow and deepen over time; you expect a heart connection to be made and maintained.  You operate your life based on this expectation.  When your partner in the relationship does not or cannot make an emotional connection, the relationship becomes very painful.  Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight into personality types most capable of repeated infidelity are:

Emotional Blackmail:  When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward AND Why is it Always About You?  The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss

Get Me Out of Here:  My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland OR Girl Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen OR The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders by Joseph Santoro and Ronald Cohen

Malignant Self Love:  Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin MAYBE The Professional Bachelors Dating Guide:  How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho by Dr Brett Tate

Emotional Unavailability by Bryn Collins OR Healthy Boundaries Workbook: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Set and Maintain Better Boundaries by Deborah Deiboldt Legge

Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger OR Overcoming Passive-Aggression by Tim Murphy and Loriann Oberlin

Healing Anxiety and Depression (7 types of anxiety and depression) by Daniel Amen and Lisa Routh OR Getting Help:  The Complete and Authoritative Guide to Self-Assessment and Treatment of Mental Health Problems by Jeffrey Wood

How to Journal for Therapy:

http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm

There are relationships, marriages and families that are so destructive the only option is for a person to get out.  Get out with the little bit of sanity you may have remaining.  Make a promise to yourself to leave.  Leave so you can begin a life of healing and recovery.  Leave so you can learn to live a joyful, peaceful, trusting and fulfilling life.

Hope it helps!

I am discusted with the way Enrique handled the situation. He never took Selinas' feelings into place. Also Enrique had no right to tell Selina in a park that he was not the real father, and then stop visitations. And because he did that who is he to say he is against her adoption???? Mia should have minded her own business. It sounded like she was just trying to cause a lot of trouble for a young child. I hope she never has children of her own!

Don't get me wrong, I feel sorry for the child too. I feel sorry for Enrique because he was lied to for 10 years about the child. You don't know how a man feels to find something out like this. And regardless, NO man should ever have to pay support on a child that is not their's, unless they knew what they were getting into to begin with, without being tricked or frauded.

Do you not think this child has the right to know her biological father? Do you not think the biological father has a right to know his child?? Do you not think Maria robbed both the child and bio dad of a relationship?? What about what Maria did to both of them, along with Enrique?

Where do you get that Mia is another lying defrauder? Seems to me, she is the only one who was honest about anything with him!

"You all want to know why he never did anything about it sooner?  Because for years this woman beat him down to a place where he couldn't fight back.  She threatened parental alienation, once even telling him that she would make sure he never saw that child again.  His parents had not seen their granddaughter for about 8 years -- but gifts and money were always accepted."

I guess that's all okay for the mothers to do this, huh?

I agree with you 100%!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a psychological disorder characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior.  This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of self-identity. 

While less known than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder (manic-depressive illness), BPD is more common, affecting 2% of adults (1-33), mostly females.  Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight are:

High Conflict People in Legal Disputes by Bill Eddy OR Divorce Poison:  Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex

Emotional Blackmail:  When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward AND Why is it Always About You?  The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss

Get Me Out of Here:  My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland OR Girl Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen OR Stop Walking on Eggshells:  Taking Your Life Back...by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger OR The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders by Joseph Santoro and Ronald Cohen

Understanding the Borderline (Parent) Mother:  Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable and Volatile Relationship by Christine Ann Lawson OR Surviving a Borderline Parent:  How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries and Self-Esteem by Kimberlee Roth and Freda Friedman

Healing Anxiety and Depression (7 types of anxiety and depression) by Daniel Amen and Lisa Routh OR Getting Help:  The Complete and Authoritative Guide to Self-Assessment and Treatment of Mental Health Problems by Jeffrey Wood

How to Journal for Therapy:

http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm 

Some of the story is typical:  early family conflicts, abusive relationships, feelings of insecurity contributing to destructive behaviors such as resentment, rage attacks, revenge, manipulations, promiscuity, addictions, self-abuse, and eating disorders.  The extreme behaviors of BPD constitute the high drama in the stories of those who endure its ravages.

Hope it helps!