Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

i dont understand  why the mother is so worry about how her daughter an him are doing

when she the one doing it all . if she real care about how her daughter feel she for get the

child sport an let them see eatch other . but she not going to let go of the money . she in it for

her self an not her daughter . she should let him see the kid. an forget the child sport send she

the one who did the wrong . i think the morther out for the money an dosent care for her daughter at

all her will been . the all yell at the men for not being with the daughter i all so think its the monther

too .

I am a law student, I have worked and studied in the family law field I have delt with paternity and child support on many levels.  The point that was missed is that the most important thing is the child and the court knows this.  So after the first two years if the father has not challeged paternity (even if for good reason) the childs interests become more important than the fathers.  This is because the court acknowledges that a child is helpless in this situation and deserves to have the life it would have if it had a full and functioning family, and this includes the same financial support.  The courts assume that adults have the ability to see this and understand that yes there is injustice but that child should not be punished for the mistakes of adults around them.  Therefore the states primary interest is in the child.  However, if another father biological or not steps up and claims that they will care for a pay for that child then they can and will be allowed to take over the payments and to care for the child, but that father has to come forward, the courts do not have the resources to track down every childs biologocal father. The only possible solution to this is to require DNA tests on all babies when they are born, but then there would be an outcry of constitutional violations, this is why it is an option everytime a baby is born the parents can opt to have a DNA test but it is not required because this would be unconstitutional.  So in the end the main point is that the court sees THE CHILD AS NUMBER 1 priority, and their interests come first.

The only true way to stop the epidemic of falsifying legal documents such as claiming the father on a child’s birth certificate is to mandate a simple paternity test at childbirth by law and covered by medical insurance.  It will take out the human factor of guilt, which many mothers are able to use against unsuspecting men at the time of birth.  This may increase the divorce rate.

I have 2 children that their Dad and I both know they belong to him. Since 1995 when he was ordered to pay child support, he still owes 22,000.00. Goes from job to job cons the courts and has never been put in jail, or any kind of punishment. I have went to court 3 times, the judges orders something, but it's never followed thru with BCSE. As for this Dad, he had to have known if nothing else in his heart, and it was just wrong for him to tell the little girl the way he did. I was the child that found out very early, my Dad wasn't my Dad, and at the age of 45 I found my real Dads obit on the internet. So you have no ideal what you do to these children, your were just thinking of yourself and keeping your money. The Mom was very wrong fro not letting him know she may not be his. I have went thru this for 45 yrs. the lies HURT.

Karen Hubbard

I just finished watching the show and had to post a message.  One can't condone what the father

did in this instance, however, to have to listen to Gloria Allred twist the issue of child support and equate it to father's in default of payment was just WRONG.  I knew things were going south when the intro to her speaking depicted one man convicted of murder and the other tried for the same (Scott Peterson and OJ). 

I couldn't agree more with the guest speaker who was defrauded by his ex girlfriend.  He spoke eloquently and with soft conviction (perhaps Gloria should take a page out of the relax book) in defence of the father.

This is not a "one of" as suggested by Gloria and quite frankly, to the contrary...more the norm.  

Dr. Phil -   What  can't be ignored when dealing with family issues is that people react to injustices and hurtful behaviours, often at the expense of children.  It's not an excuse for the behaviour, more an observation.  Is it right - obviously not.  It will always exist given human behaviour. 

It's my opinion that Mom should step up to the plate given her indiscretion  and move aside to let Enrique continue to be the father he is to Selina.   And yes, without a red cent in Mom's pocket!!!!

It is certainly unfortunate that a father finds out later that he is not the father of a child he thought was his. His relationship with the child should not have to change, emotionally. The child may not need to know at a young age.  Whether the father pays support payments to the mother should become his choose. His continued relationship with the child will include providing things she may need or want, not money given to the mother.  Money all too often becomes the main issue, rather than the feeling and future of the child.

I raised 3 children on my own. Their father sometime paid support, and sometimes did not. We struggled financially, but I left the door open for my children to have a relationship with him on whatever level they could manage between them, without allowing money to complicate things further. They thank me for that today, now that they are grown with children of their own. Pay Woods