Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

The solution to this problem is sad but obvious. All babies should be routinely DNA tested at birth.

If the mother on the show was so sorry and so concerned about her daughter, she should have told Enrique, begged for his forgiveness and allowed, even encouraged the relationship to continue and voluntarily give up any claim to financial support.  She even persists by letting that poor child think that this is Enrique's fault. She needs to set that record straight, loud and clear. This is completely her fault and Enrique is as much of a victim as the child is. Enrique's reaction was wrong but unless you are in that position, who knows how violated he must have felt.

This womans lack of ethics and morals is frightening. I have no idea how she could sit on that stage and insist that she lied but that poor man has to keep paying. And for Dr. Phil to say that the child comes first and money second, is easy when it's not his money we are talking about. This could possibly be preventing Enrique to have more children because of his false responsibility to the child who isn't his.

For there to be any suggestion of public policy to keep children like these off the welfare rolls is ludicrous. She is on welfare, it just happens to be being paid by one unrelated person rather than society at large. We can't use men as paychecks. We should be so far beyond that by now and for a feminist attorney to not acknowledge the gross abuse perpetrated by the mother was ridiculous. This is the kind of woman who makes it even harder for honest women to be taken seriously or believed.

Cheers to the man who fought this in Georgia. He needs to keep this fight up till all states recognize the fraud being inflicted on men. And women won't stop playing this horrendous, devastating game, until all of us refuse to accept it as being ok. Women especially need to advocate for the men being treated in this fashion.

I think one point that a lot of people are forgetting is that until approxiamately the past decade, DNA evidence was something that was neither widespread nor cheap. 

That lawyer sounded more like she was on a campaign trail than trying to bring up any points that were valid towards the argument.  Get off of your soapbox and find out how people who aren't making 6 or 7 figures a year live.

There is no way that a man should have to pay for someone else's child.  I do understand that people need to be careful of hurting the children as they are after all innocent.  But to make the man pay for the child support is ridiculous.  You don't think that there are women out there who could possibly have 4 or 5 different men as the possible fathers, and they just choose the one who makes the most money or has had a steady job the longest to go after for child support?  Whether they have the highest possibility of being the father  or not?  I think that men have every right to ask for a paternity test before they start paying support, or if in doubt, get a test to END support.

Mothers do not get held to the same standards as the fathers does, if a mother does not take care or provide for the child they dont blame the mother, the blame the father, she does not have to go to court, she does get in trouble and there are alot of prigrams to help woman so that they can provide for the kids, and thesome fathers have taken care of the kids since they were born and should not have to be in a system like Child Support. The facts should be known first before anything or any Child Support is Handed out.

Although I understand the frustration this man must feel, I think it is very unfortunate that he does not continue to pay for his daughter. He was a father to this girl for 10 years, and now he has turned his back on her completely.

Although women who do this give women everywhere a bad name, I think this man should continue paying for this child. What is a child supposed to think when a man says that he is still her father,  but won't be supporting her financially anymore. Isn't that all part of being a father? How is this child supposed to trust someone who says he is still her father, but when it comes to let's say going to college, she cannot even approach this man for money for books? If this man is going to continue to be this child's father, then he needs to do so in every sense of the word. And yes, that means money.

How can someone say to a child, "I love you unconditionally, just don't expect me to help raise you financially?". I think that what this woman did to this man and this child is horrific, but it is done and everyone needs to get over it. Now the only question should be is what is the best way to handle the situation that is in the best interest of the child.

my opinion? - yes, I agree child first money second.. HOWEVER< I disagree strongly that any man should be forced to pay any money. for support if the child is not his.  That's just common scense.  in the example on today's show.  The woman chose first. That led to the road on which that story is based and led to a bad ending.  If that man decides not to pay, I agree with him.  If he chooses to pay, I agree with him.  Child is first emotionally.. .. but when it is not his child he should not have to support that child.  Let the mother find the real father and force HIM to pay or accept that she is the sole provider like millions of other women do.

This whole thing is just unfair AND unjust to many a man!  It is an outrage!  I

~jmo

Who are you to play God? You had no right to swab anyone's mouth with or without your husband's permission or his former spouses permission. If you never tell your husband that is as bad as lying to him yourself because what you have done is equally dis loyal. If you can't trust your spouse then who can you trust?