Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

 I think a lot of this paternity fraud, could be eliminated if it was simply the law that if you are going for child support, you know there will be a DNA test.  There was a time, when you had to take the woman's word for it, but that time is long gone.  The laws have to catch up with today's science.  Paternity fraud is one crime that is completely preventable.

i was so mad at this subject..i wished i could call in and give my opinion..the mother should not have lied to enrique..she knew it was not his baby..if it wasnt about the money then why did she file for child support..she is accusing enrique of being selfish when he asked for a paternity test when she was selfish from teh beginning in not telling him the truth and asking for child support when teh relationship ended.. if enrique knew the truth from the beginning then he would have acted differently. he might have stayed with maria and fathered that child..or he could have left , which he totally would have the right to because maria cheated on him while they were married. then there wouldnt have been tehat attachment for 10 years..it is completly marias fault that the child may grow up to not trust anyone or have a father figure. and while she was oln teh show she was smiling and laughing as if this is a joke and i could swear she looked liek she was proud of what she did..i dont theink she is fit to be a mother..she has 2 daughters and she ahs set many bad examples. such as cheating while married, and lying to the government..those are the two biggest  sins religioulsy and by law...the government has penalties  if the aplicant lies on teh birth certificate application and in christianity : thou shall not commit adultry, or lie for that matter. this lady should not be a mother..she got me so mad. when i filled out my sons application i was scared filling it out in case i spell something wrong , whcih is not a crime.  but she intended on lying on the application, she  did it willingly which is horrible. she is a horrible woman and her smile should be wiped off her face because this is not a funny matter. she is the root of the scar in her daughters heart.  

First off, just to get this out of the way as a lesser concern, Gloria Allred came on this show ONLY to promote her new book.  Anyone notice how many times Dr. Phil promoted it himself?  Even the show itself describes her as a "feminist attorney".  So please, I implore all of you not to take anything she says seriously with regards to this issue.  Obviously, she sides with the mother and wouldn't give anybody with a different view the time of day. 

As for the more important issue, the father was made out from the beginning to be the bad person in this situation, and that is just so sad.  As a father myself, I know I'd be heartbroken to find out that I wasn't my son's father after all this time.  What Allred and the mother would make you believe, is that the father had the RESPONSIBILITY to test this child from birth to prove he wasn't the father in order to get out of paying child support.  What a crock and hipocracy at its best.  Men who would do that would end up on Maury, and called a dead beat dad!  That's what I meant by the subject of this post, that feminist attitudes have to stop being accepted.  Men have rights and feelings too, and should not be told by the courts that they should financially support a child that isn't theirs.  As for the emotional aspect, maybe the mother should put herself in his shoes, and imagine that after 10 years that she wasn't her mother.  He felt hurt, betrayed, and utterly embarrased and humiliated feeling like he got dooped.  And that's exactly what did happen too, in that he got "tricked" into this, because if I ask any woman out there, they KNOW if there's a chance that more than one man could be the father.  What separates good decent women from deceiving vicious women like the woman on the show is if they tell the man from day one that he may not be the father.  If a woman doesn't tell the man, then she's a liar and should be branded as such, and pay the penalties incurred with that.  With that said, this is definately fraud, and should be pursued not to hurt the child, but for PRINCIPLE to teach women who would do this to other men that it IS wrong, and you won't always get away with it, and if caught, you face a HUGE penalty.  I believe that penalty should be comparable to men who don't pay child support.  Only seems fair, and that's what this show should have been about.  No injustice had to made to the mother, only the daughter and the man who thought himself to be the unquestioned father for 10 years.  That's the biggest injustice of them all.

The child should come first, money second.  Enrique should continue the relationship with the child.  That relationship is crucial.  As far as providing child support that should be his descetion.  The biological father should be sought out and provide.   Relationships are more important then money.

It was definitely interesting to have Gloria Allred on the show. What I found most interesting though is for a hardcore lawyer, she didn't stand up very well against all of the other "non lawyer people." It seemed like she was basically BSing the conversation and trying to confuse the people into thinking that the point of the issue was something other than what it actually was. I know that is what lawyers do, but I think that everyone else argued their point better than she did. She also made some bad points like saying that this type of situation is rare. I think that saying that about anything is a pretty naive way of thinking, especially for a lawyer.

I also thought that her basically saying that she knew more about the system than the paternity fraud victim and that basically he didn't really have right to debate with her because of this wasn't a good call. Arrogance is never helpful and I found it funny that the largely female audience was more strongly behind the paternity fraud guy than the feminist lawyer.

Thats just my three cents

-Suzanne