Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

i think it is wrong for men to have to pay for children they did not conceive, i think there should be a bill passed that before a man is summoned to pay childsupport there must be a paternity test prior to judgement.  if a man is not proven to be the biological father he should have the choice to assist with monetary needs, if he wants to still have a relationship with the child it should not be forced it should be voluntary, if he wants to take the child out for some icecream fine, if he wants to take the child to an amusement park, or buy the child some clothes fine, but to beexpected to pay however much money per month tosupport a child that is technically not his is unfair,  for all we know the only reason the man stayed in the childslife for so long was because he did trust what the woman said, we do tend to be very convincing. 

I feel that there should be laws that protect men  from paternity fraud.  Women that know that men are not the farthers should be held accountable for their actions such as  repaying  monies spent.

Why is everyone blaming the guy, who willingly, and UNKNOWINGLY raised this little girl, payed the bills for this little and did everything for this girl. He FOUND out that the girl isn't biologically his!! I mean come on here, its easy for anyone and Dr.Phil to be the Monday Morning quarterback and say "well what you did was wrong." etc. etc.. I mean anyone can sit back, after the fact, examine the situation and say what they want.. Any person or pee brain can do that!!!

But for him to be there at that moment, have to deal with the truth, think and decide what to do and then have to deal with it, isnt easy. I mean sheesh its not even his kid! that he's been raising for the past number of years... I dont blame that guy for 1 second to decide to tell her the truth, she would find out at shome point anyways and if its 10 yrs later it could easily be more painful, hurtful then finding out now...

SO I mean Dr.Phil or whoever can say, well she was abandined, etc...Once he found out that she is not even his kid!!! I would probably do the samething.. Who wants to raise a child on their own, who isnt even of their genetic make-up!!!! I mean its not at all his own child!! How about grilling the mother for being such a useless, peice of meat! Having unprotected sex with many,. many men.. How come SHE's NOT MENTIONED ONE DAMN TIME!! NOT AT ALL!!! SO they attack the one indivudual who actually did take ccare of her! and hes not even his child!!!!!!!!!!!

IF ANYTHING, that child and the trash can mother, should be LITERALLY GRATEFUL that his man took care of this kid so well for so long!!!! None of the good things seem to come out but yet just the easy negative stuff which isnt fair to him!

Ask this ONE SIMPLE question! Where would this little girl be today IF THIS GUY wasn't in the pivture, wasn't so willing to take care of her, wasn't so willing to pay the bills for her, wasn't so willing to do whatever it took to make them happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This MAN should be applauded!! for what he did!!! Not knowing the facts of the situation either until a lter point in life..................

What the biological mother did was not fraudulent but definitely unethical. However, in the law of our nations, what is unethical is not necessarily illegal (sad but true). As you had continued to focus on in the show today, what matters most is the child and what happens to her. Considering that the father was unaware that his ex-wife had withheld information, he for 10 years he had assumed the role as her biological father. By telling her that he is not her biological father, does not change the role he assumed for so long. As a result, by law he is still considered her father.

The man who said that “Enrique should voluntarily be involved in his daughter’s life” had the right intentions but not for this particular situation. Since Enrique had been a father to Celina for so many years, telling her that he will take on the role of the father without any financial involvement is contradictory. A father naturally is financially obligated to their child.

We all agree that Maria withholding information was unethical and immoral. However, we don’t know her situation and sad to say, at this point (that is, 10 years down the road) it is irrelevant. What matters is the well being of the child, and who is going to be her father.

Every situation is unique. Bringing the biological father into this picture will complicate things for her more. It should really be between Enrique and the Maria’s new husband. If Enrique wants to re-assume the father role, he should take on the role completely (both financially and emotionally). If he is not willing to do this, he should let Maria’s new husband adopt Celina so he can take on the father role. Enrique needs to realize that he can’t have it both ways- he can’t be the father by name and let Maria’s husband pay for the obligations a father has.

To finalize my perspective, I want to re-emphasize that at this point in time, it is completely about Celina and her well-being. The adults have already made mistakes- hopefully now they can make the right decisions as to not complicate the situation further.

What the biological mother did was not fraudulent but definitely unethical. However, in the law of our nations, what is unethical is not necessarily illegal (sad but true). As you had continued to focus on in the show today, what matters most is the child and what happens to her. Considering that the father was unaware that his ex-wife had withheld information, he for 10 years he had assumed the role as her biological father. By telling her that he is not her biological father, does not change the role he assumed for so long. As a result, by law he is still considered her father.

The man who said that “Enrique should voluntarily be involved in his daughter’s life” had the right intentions but not for this particular situation. Since Enrique had been a father to Celina for so many years, telling her that he will take on the role of the father without any financial involvement is contradictory. A father naturally is financially obligated to their child.

We all agree that Maria withholding information was unethical and immoral. However, we don’t know her situation and sad to say, at this point (that is, 10 years down the road) it is irrelevant. What matters is the well being of the child, and who is going to be her father.

Every situation is unique. Bringing the biological father into this picture will complicate things for her more. It should really be between Enrique and the Maria’s new husband. If Enrique wants to re-assume the father role, he should take on the role completely (both financially and emotionally). If he is not willing to do this, he should let Maria’s new husband adopt Celina so he can take on the father role. Enrique needs to realize that he can’t have it both ways- he can’t be the father by name and let Maria’s husband pay for the obligations a father has.

To finalize my perspective, I want to re-emphasize that at this point in time, it is completely about Celina and her well-being. The adults have already made mistakes- hopefully now they can make the right decisions as to not complicate the situation further.