Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

After today's show, I am no longer a fan of Gloria Allred. 

The current wife and HER behavior are only going to compound this girl's emotional problems by the way she wants her husband to toss her to the side. This poor child already has a deceitful, manipulative mother and a father who walked out on her. She doesn't need this woman adding her 2 cents where it doesn't belong. She needs to butt out.

I am embarrassed that situations like this occur so often.  I agree with the gentleman, that has been acting as the father, that he shouldn't be forced to continue to pay child support.  I agree with the thought that the mother should be held personally and financially responsible for the current situation especially since she was aware that he wasn't the father.  I am not a lawyer and will not even attempt to try to argue those points but some single mothers definitly need to be held accountable for their actions.  I am a single mother of a 19 month old.  Her father has never seen her.  He has called me a total of 2 times since she has been born to inquire about his daughter.  And he does not pay child support, I never went after him for it.  I believe that biological fathers should help support their children but I also think that some women take advantage of the situation of children also.  I recieve no child support but I have not had to apply for welfare and yes its a struggle sometimes but I am raising my daughter and she is deprived of nothing.  I think some mothers need to think about what is best for their children and act accordingly. 

Who does Gloria Allred think she is?  I worked, in California, for family law attorneys and know and understand the family law codes, however, Ms. Allred, is off her rocker!!!  This woman who lied to her husband should not only be ashamed but be held accountable for her actions.  I understand that the father should have not acted with his emotions but should have found another way to deal with the sad situation.  But I find that mother sitting there acting all self righteous to be insulting.  I can not even express how frustrated that I am with this woman and to have Gloria Allred, of all people, sit there and tell the father how he has done all these things wrong and defending the actions of this liar.  And then to add insult to injury, she compaired this situation to that of those who are willing not paying for their own biological children.  It is time for Ms. Allred to relinquish her bar card!!

Side note:  As a woman who is owed $120k in child support and arrears (through Orange County, CA courts)I am blessed that my husband took myself and four daughters, without the benefit of child support , as his own.  We are currenlty raising our seven (of nine) children without the assistance of my ex-husband. 

Signed:  A San Antonio Woman who knows the paternity of her children

I am somewhat frustrated with our child support system.  If a woman lies about a man being the father of a child then he shouldn't have to pay child support forcefully.  He should be able to have a relationship with the child emotionally and if he chooses take care of the child financially.  Or, maybe we should make DNA testing mandatory.  This will cut out a lot of not knowing and letting the biological parents of the hook.  Also, if it's truly about the child then the mothers shouldn't care if money is in the equation if the man isn't the biological father.  It should truly be about the emotional.  I am in a situation now where I take care of a child along with her father and he's being dinged for child support. He doesn't have the financial resources to get a lawyer so therefore he's stuck even though she lives with him.  How is this a fair situation.  He should be able to walk in the office with proof he's taking care of his child and not have a lawyer just as the mother didn't need a lawyer to put the child support on him.  I guess what I am trying to say is the whole system needs to be evaluated.  maybe a recert every year just like we do the welfare system should be required for child support to ensure things or being handled correctly. The system shouldn't just be for women bout for both genders.

Thanks,

T

I think it is awful that a woman can be so rude to her child and the child's father by not being honest.  Everyone has a right to know who their parent is.  How dare he cut off the child!  These people have really messeed with this little girl's life!

I don't think that he should have to pay support, but morally,... how could he stop having a relationship with her?

My husband does not know if he is his oldest child's biological father, (from a previous marriage), but I think they should do paternity.  He pays support, but does not always get his visitation.  The child doesn't want to see his dad because his mom told him that he is not his father.  She also tells him that he's not paying support.  He is and my husband has offered to show him proof of this, but he says no, he knows he doesn't pay it because his mom told him.  This child has no father figure, and his mom screws with his head constantly.  the law is not much help.  Unfortunately, I think both of the parents have failed my step-cjild just like the parents on today's show!

i went thru the same thing in missouri.

i obtained dna showing that i was 0.0 percent the father and the court still ordered child support in the amount of526 per month.

i went back to court 4 years later to get it stopped as the child was over 18 and the lawyer for my ex wife tryed to get it coninued saying the child was being home schooled and should still be eligabile.

when that was overrulled he then tryed to get it coninued saying the child was disabled.

it is a shame that the courts in the land can make a person pay child support for a child that is not thiers

just by saying it is

at court i was told either pay or i would be put in jail