Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I was apalled at what I saw today on the show. How dare Maria expect Enrique to keep paying child support after knowing that her beautiful daughter was not his? Maria is the one that needs to find the REAL DAD and make him pay!! Not Enrique!!!

I do not understand how the father of 10 years to this child could have the heart to do what he did. Once  you have bonded a realationship with a child for 10 years I feel at the moment he must have been heartless. At this point it should not have matter to him. However I do think the mother and mothers in this position that knowing that there is a possiblility that more than 1 man could be the father should be held responbile for  letting everyone involved know. If the mother does not and it comes out later that the biological father has no idea- I believe that the mother should have to pay the child support back with interest  and or serve time!! I After all this is fraud and taking money under false pretense!! I also think that the child has a right to know the truth but in a proper manner.

But the main concern in all of this is the well being for the child and you need to be  very careful how you bring the truth out so that it does not the damage the child in a way that affects her ability to trust. But as for me after being a parent to a child for 10 years of their lives I would always consider myself their parent and nothing could change the love for that child!! My heart and prayers go out to this child and any others that may be out there.

Sincerely,

Jackie

I am so disgusted with todays events that I had to write.  I am embarrassed to be a woman and a single mother.  Of course, the child's best interest should always come first...but, Dr. Phil...give me a BREAK.  The female attorney is a complete disgrace to our gender.  I would give anything to take her on.  If she wants to fight for the children...then do it and quit using them as a guise to rake innocent men over the coals.  (fyi...I am also disgusted how that man treated his daughter).  Not only should this so called mother get a job and pay him back ALL of his money, but she should also go to jail for child abuse and neglect.  Let's call a spade a spade.  I hold mothers to a high standard.  We are the greatest gifts God gives our children.  It is our job to nurtrure and protect.  The child is the victim, but the mother is the perpetrator.  As far as that female attorney is concerned....SHAME ON YOU.  I have never written before and watch everyday.  ugh.  I am FURIOUS.  Would love to hear from you Dr. Phil!!!!

Believe it or not my husband is going through the same situation. His ex wife has a now 14 year old that isn't his. He found out at 13, and on top of things she told him (the child) the truth along with introducing him to his biological father. Why a year later is she attacking my husband for money again after he stopped payment? He never once ever thought about exiting the childs life in any way shape or form. Her way at getting back at my husband is by making things worse in many ways. She is applying for post secondary education, because the divorce decree doesn't state it, she is also asking for an increase in child support. Why? That is the bad part about it. She should have been the bigger person and sat down with my husband and the child and told him together, or leave it like it was for a year. No pay for the child and everything can go on as normal. My husband was still picking him up with his real biological child, talked to him on the phone when he called, along with birthday and christmas gifts. He didn't even have to do that, but he was going to be there for him emotionally. She obviously needed the money going into a new house and a year later took it upon herself to file for back support for the year not paid. Now it is a non stop battle in court.

I cannot believe that anyone wouldn't see this as fraud!  HOW COULD THIS MAN HAVE POSSIBLY KNOWN THAT HIS WIFE WAS CHEATING WITHOUT HER ADMITTANCE? 

I am in full support of the fact that he should not have handled the child the way he did.  However, I see no reason he should be financially responsible for her unless he chooses to be.  The mother should be held liable for finding the biological father...the one who should be responsible!

Also let me add, there is a Father out there somewhere that has no idea he has a child.  Who is to say whether or not he wants to meet his daughter!

This woman is unbelievable!  It is people like her that make men afraid of good women!

Boy you sure make it difficult to be able to send a message?  Why is it necessary to register.  I only wanted to make a comment.

Good Grief.

I think the entire thing is rediculous. The mother should be ashamed of herself! Unfortunately its the child that ends up getting hurt the most, however i could only imagine how devistating it must have been to find out that the women you loved betray your trust, and duped you into fathering a child that was concieved during an affair. The biological father should be hunted down and made aware that he has a child. The biological father should be held financially responsible. However the man who raised the child should be held emotionally responsible for the child. Meaning he should continue to love and care for the child emotionally, but should NOT be held financially responsible.

How rediculous is this notion to begin with. Why should someone be punished for anothers descretions. If you cheat and become pregnant, you owe it to your spouse and yourself to be honest from the beginning. But more so you OWE IT TO YOUR CHILD to tell the truth! No matter how ashamed or guilty you feel, it can only get worse when the truth reaches the surface. And by then its too late!