Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

When I saw the topic of todays show I was so happy.  My husband and I are going though the same thing right now.  My husband is paying child support for two kids and one of them is not his.  His child's mother has went into court may times and told the judge "no this is not his child, but I still want the money."  The Attorney General says that they want whats best for the child and they do not pick sides.  That is not the truth. When we walked in court the representative for the Attorney General went up to his child's mother and told her she had nothing to worry about it was to late for him to do anything.  I feel not only are we being robbed, but our kids are being robbed also because the court is taking money from them that should go for them.  What about the welfare of my kids that are my husbands?  Not only do you have to fight the child's mother, you have to fight the court, and the Attorney General.  This is a crime within itself. You also have to keep in mind if you are a victim of this crime you have to pay a lot of money to fight this battle.  I thank Dr. Phil for bring this to light and showing that there is another side of child support that is not right and should be looked into.  Why isn't there a law that go after women who do this?  There also needs to be a law that let the men of this injustice be able to be a father figure but not have to pay for the child and sue the real father for the money that they have already paid.  I feel taking the money out of the situation  and letting the men that is proven not  the father to still be in the child's life would be in the best interest of the child. 

DId you even watch the show, Enrique and Maria were married, the child he raised is not his biologically'

the mother had 10 tens to deal with this, he says he regrets the way he re-acted to the news but make no mistake he  too was a victim, the only one 100% responsible for this situation is her,

Women who entrap men should not only be ashamed but should do jail time.  Plenty of men do.  I've paid child support all my life.  2 sets of my boys were taken from me by women, court assigned lawyers (to her)and courts.  I once went to court to raise my child support and the judge asked me what I really was doing in his court.  He wouldn't believe me.  Never have I had the pleasure of a judge that really cared about a child but was just interested in moving me in and out as quickly as possible - all in the best interest of the child.  I don't buy it.  Too oftern too many hide behind the term "in the best interest of hte child".  The likes of Gloria Allred are not interested in the child.  They're clearly interested in the money and, in some cases, demonizining all fathers.

Until the courts and all else who hold mothers unconditionally sacred, wake up and deal with accountability on all sides, not just the money making (father) side, the best interest of children will never be served.  It's just too convenient to assign blame to the side that the majority of the time has had his childern legally stolen  from him.

As a mother of legitimate children from my ex-husband I am so sick and tired of these sorry women

who just have child after child by this man and that man and naming random men as the father's!

It is so sad that mother's of legitimate children who can't get child support from their bio-dad's

because they have better lawyers or because they work under the table and don't pay taxes...

women like me are forced to take care of our children the best that we can ...working multiple jobs

and sacrificing so much to give them what they need.... I agree 100% with these men and I believe

that they are victim's of lazy sorry women who make a living doing this to the "good guys" and

it just irritates me to no end. This is exactly why men are so scared to commit to women that already

have children and won't give decent women a chance...they hear about all these slackers that are

laying on their backs and banking !! It is truly sad !  To all the decent men out their that have been deceived.... Their really are good girls out there...don't give up !!! Just protect yourself!!

In the United States, we legislate how people should deal with these type of situations after they occur, but we are not proactive.  If mandatory DNA testing was required, these situations would not occur.  When I was growing up, I heard the quote mommy's baby - daddy's maybe.  This should not be the case.  How easy would it be to solve this issue within moments or months after a child is born.  Any man today who does not take this into his own hands and sacrifice the money for testing is a fool.  The child support system for some has become the new welfare fraud.  It is not fair or morally right for the child to suffer either way, but it is also not right to deny a child the ability to know his/her real family.  If mandatory DNA testing occurred at birth, signing your name on a birth certificate would be a voluntary decision.  Not like in this case a fraudulent one.  Additonally, it would provide a real means to identify the parties truly responsible.  Fraud is fraud.  One man has been lied to and is paying for at a minimum 18 years of resources which could support his family, and there is another man and family out there who's child has been stolen; because he possibly was never told that he had a child.  Everyone needs to realize not all men want to avoid their responsibility.  In this case, the mother did what was convenient for her (period).