Quote From: sgrodgersHello I too think that it is selfish to hide something so important as paternity. Our non bio child has a series of health issues, and this was one thing that alerted her father that she may not be his. None of the problems she was experiencing was coming from him and the mother said it was him not her.
Bottom line, the lie will never get better even with everyone trying to hide the truth. As the word says the truth will set you free.
God Bless!
Hello! I am so sorry you have had to go through this. Your story was so similar to what my boyfriend is going through with his non-biological daughter. He married a pregnant woman, whom he loved very much at the time, took on the baby as his own, never knew who the biological father was for years. The woman had told him she was raped. He and this woman got divorced after 6 years, he paid child support and got his visitations, but not without a fight.
I started dating this man 5 years ago, and one of the first things he told me was this part of his life. I told him he needed to tell his 20 something daughter the truth before she found out from someone else. He said he and his ex had discussed this when the baby was born and they had decided that when the time was right, they would sit her down and tell them together. Well, prior to moving back here, from her mother, to find work, 5 years ago, the daughter called and asked her dad if what she found in some papers of her mothers was true, that he was not her biological dad after all. He told her that it was true and that he wanted them to sit down when she got back here and discuss it all. Well, she came back here and they had a talk. She was and still is very hurt by it all. The mother has not told her the truth that she was not born out of rape. The mother is taking the victim stance. It breaks my heart that her mother had something written down somewhere for her to find out the way she did. She looked up her biological father, he wants nothing to do with her, he is married and had other children, but her non-biological dad still thinks of her as his and wishes to remain in her life. He loves her with all his heart. He trusted his ex to do the right thing by not letting her know like that, they would do it together. The ex once told him that he would never have his daughter and since the daughter let the mother back in her life, he doesn't. I have since have taken myself completely out of the situation cause every time I bring it up to my boyfriend's side of the family, they say she left them, and it is up to her to contact them first. I totally disagree with them. I have gotten know this daughter quite well with her even crying on my shoulder and I love her so much. She is very emotionally scarred from this. I miss her and wish she would seek some therapy and get to a place within herself to know she is a beautiful, loveable, and wanted person in this world, and so are you. She has two parents, that raised her and still living and yet feels she isn't loved or wanted. My heart breaks for you and every child on this earth that has or is going through this. God Bless You
(Original Air Date: 10/29/07) Fraud. lies. conspiracy. They may sound like the latest Washington scandal, but these are allegations of exes at war over child support. Dr. Phil's guests claim they became victims of the perfect crime when they were led to believe they fathered a child that was not biologically their own and were forced to pay. First up, Enrique says he was shocked and angered to discover he was not the father of his youngest daughter, Selina, and that she was conceived during his ex-wife, Maria's, adulterous affair. Maria says he raised Selina but then abandoned her to save money. Why does Maria say Enrique's current wife is to blame for the fractured relationship? Next, 13-year-old Selina speaks one on one with Dr. Phil. Will she decide to let the man she once called Daddy back in her life? Then, Carnell Smith, who uses the online moniker, "Man4Justice," suffered a similar fate to Enrique, and but he fought and won. He says he's tired of seeing women trap men and get away with it. A heated debate ensues between him and feminist attorney, Gloria Allred, who argues that men like Enrique should continue to act as the father ... and continue paying! Talk about the show here.
