Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I would like first and foremost to support Dr. Phil. statement that the biological mother of the daughter should be held to the full extent legally, emotionally, socially, financially, and any other relevant dimension to all of this problem. She betrayed her husband twice by cheating on him and by lying about her biological daughter, also she betrayed her daughter by exposing her to a life time lie. She was coward to face her first mistake by cheating on him so she covered her lies with more lies. She must and should face the consequences of her actions of being irresponsible mother and wife which I find difficulty using those two great words in describing her because she is anybody but a mother and a wife.

Also I would like to mention that the lawyer position is ridiculous and lawyers are known to twist truth to the best interest of themselves first and to their clients second. So her point of view is not creditable and just to provoke people and draw their attention by arguing the truth as it is not true-maybe to sell her book.

For Enrique, I think he was passing through a very difficult emotional trauma and he was not thinking right whcih pushed him to make Selina deal with adult issues and saying he is not her father. She had no guilt whatsoever and she is a victim as Enrique. Morally he could have done a better job but he was not obligated to do so. You can't ask a badly wounded injured person to act as a normal person. We are contradicting ourselves if we ask Enrique to be compassionate towards Selina and not towards himself.

I believe marriage qualifications is beyond what most people think of. It should be regulated, as if you are going to drive a car you must have certain skills or you will be denied the right of driving a car and cause damage to yourself and others. Marriage damages most of the time are beyond  repair and recovery.

I am a single parent who does not receive child support.  Unfortunately I made a poor choice in judgement in the biological father of my daughter (but when we started dating at 19 I wasn't thinking about kids).  He has spent all but 10 months over the past 7 years in prison. Our daughter will be 6 in January, and I have NEVER received one cent from him, and due to his incarceration, I can not receive one cent.  Yes, the courts have ordered him to pay $50 a month, however, while he is in prison all that $50 does is add up to one big bill he owes me.  When he is not in prison, he will not get a legit job.  His father owns a company and will allow him to work for the while being paid "under the table" so that I can not collect any of his pay.  I am TIRED of this.  Where is the help for us mother's out there that are working 2-3 jobs trying to make ends meet while these so-called fathers are living it up?!  I am blessed to have meet a man almost  2 years ago (we have been dating for 7 months now) who has stepped up to the plate and taken over the father figure roll that has been missing in my daughters life.  I'm thankful for him, but at the same time upset that her biological father has not found it in his heart (or pocket) to take care of his own flesh and blood. 

This is a subject  very close to me..My Husband and his11 yr old daughter.     There is more of this that goes on than people realize.  Women must be held accountable for actions such as these.  Men are very much descriminate against.

I disagree. A DAD may be made by actions.  You only have one real father, one biological father and you are stuck with them, no matter how poor of a "dad" they are :).

I can somewhat understand this situation myself. Both Gloria and Enrique are totally wrong and Dr. Phil was correct when he looked at Gloria and said that she caused this whole incident, even though I agree that Enrique didn't handle the situation correctly.

I'm a 38 year old female whom this day would like to see my "REAL FATHER" pay to this day.

When I was 10 yrs old my Mother told me that this man was my Dad in which till them I was told that my real Dad had passed 3 months before I was even born. I had 4 other siblings in which the Dad whom had passed was their father and not mine.

This relationship from my Mother and real Father whom had both committed adultry. I in turn collected a Social Security check in which I should of never received because the deceased Dad was NOT my real father and he was the one listed on my birth certificate.

Due to the fact that my Mother and Father had a weekend only relationship and my real Father had two other children in which he and I are the same age, I was completely disowned and to this day I still am.

My real Father never wanted me and he made that perfectly clear my entire life. He mentally, physically and emotionally abused me until I was 20 years old and I moved away due to my Mothers death.

I since tried calling the Social Security administration and tried in every way to tell them that my real Father is alive and I believe that he should pay them back for 18 years of S.S. checks due to my Father was alive and I should of never received the checks. They told me, even though I said I would take a DNA that they had no such law and could go after him.

My Mother passed when I was 20 and yes I fault her for this also, at lease my Mother told me because I was told for years by my father that my Mother should of never told me and that was the rule that she had crossed.

I feel that the real parent needs to pay for their own children and this is all there is to it. In my opinion there should be no acception to the rule in this law. No real parent should get off under no circumstances.

A man should NOT have to pay for a child that is NOT his. How dare this happen in America. Especially with DNA. What the HELL good is DNA if it isn't used to protect and what the Hell good is a law if it isn't obeyed ? It reminds me of all the illegals coming into this country, criminals profiting from the crimes they commit with books and movies , etc. 

It seems that laws just don't matter anymore. If it's not your child. Pay anyway. If it's not your country come here and get everything for free. For the children, etc. If you commit a crime write a book.

 All the "PROFESSIONALS" have lost their mind. Professionals aren't  "taught" anything in college to get their degree, their brainwashed to get their degree and that  just DOESN'T fly with people much. When they say it's all about the CHILDREN that tugs at everyones hearts and they know that.

If it's NOT about the money and the father and child now have an emotional tie. Prove it by making the mother pay the support back and let the "father" continue being a "father" for FREE.

If it's all about the children how about you professionals footing the bill for my grandchildren whose father was burned really bad several years ago and they need financial help. For my GRANDCHILDREN ?

Of course this won't be mentioned or even addressed because that would put a mark on your WONDERFUL reputations.

I think Gloria Allred listens to herself way too much and is DUMBING DOWN as she ages ?

I feel a DNA test should be done during every birth.  Not for financial reasons but health reasons for the future.  I feel that men that do pay child support should be given receipts for what they money goes for.  The money is for the CHILD not the MOTHER.