Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

No one should be  happy living a lie -the truth could have come out when Selina was having a medical condition that would have endangered her life and  the truth would come out then, when is there a perfect time to uncover a lie.

 - balls or no balls - what a strange statement....  (single mother too)

I found it surprising that it took the Carnell guy to say something about the true father of this girl. This isn't the first story like this that I've heard about. It always seems as though the true biological father is able to live free of responsibility while someone else pays for his child.

I think Gloria Allred made a good point when she pointed out that they're not doing what's best for the child. However, she's a complete moron to take the mother's side. That mother is a lying narcissist who obviously believes she's above any wrongdoing. She lied. It's as simple as that. Yes, both parents hurt this child, but the mother is more to blame. As the second wife kept pointing out, she was the one who lied from the beginning.

Furthermore, if keeping a relationship with this girl as a father figure is what's best for her, then by all means he should. Why should he pay her mother for that relationship though? He's no different than any other non-relative man (like a preacher, youth pastor, coach, etc). No one would dream of "charging" those types of people to have a relationship with her (which is, essentially what that child support is all about: he's paying for a relationship).

What an absolutely heartbreaking mess!  This show ought to be required viewing for every young person in high school to show what the long term effects of  deceit and promiscuity eventually lead to.  The lesson here is clear:  when mistakes are made and covered up, they just lead to more mistakes and bad choices.

Even if the mother had never been found out, the lie was still there and had to have affected her  relationships to the other members of her family.

Taking the "easy way out " of a bad situation rarely works. And that goes for both parents.

Dear Dr.Phil

I watched your show about the father that had abounded  the 10 year old girl that he thought was his for ten year. As I watched this program I had many emotions, sadness, anger, just to mention a few.

I was really surprised with the arrogance shown by the mother. She was just as much to blame, if not more, for the child's confusion and hurt . Nothing was said about the father of the child ,or if the wife has tried to contact him to let him know he has a child.

I was angry at the mother for deceiving the man she was suppose to have loved for so many years. I feel the mother of the girl has a greater responsibly in hurting the child then the man that thought he was her  father.

I agree that the the husband should have handled the situation differently concerning telling his "daughter."

I do not agree that the husband should pay support for the child because the child is not his.  He was admittedly lied to and manipulated by this women .

The father should not have discarded his "daughter" so quick.

I feel the husband should charge his  ex wife with fraud because that is what is was.

I was surprised that you and the lawyers  did not say more to the ex wive about her lies and infidelity. I felt like slapping the smug look off  the ex wife's face.  She did not show any remorse, nor did she take any of the blame for the whole situation.

If I was the man I would talk to the girl and tell her he is sorry for the way he handled it. I am sure she would forgive him as long as the mother doesn't spoil her mind.

If I was her current husband I would be very carefully that the same thing doesn't happen to him.

When I watch your show I sometimes wonder what our world is coming to.

Then we wonder why our children are so mixed up. If the government and the parents that are in charge of the world and the children cannot get it right,  and cannot give the children a Strong foundation it is no wonder the children of today are the way they are. They are only living what they see.

 I will pray for the girl and hope  that the greed of the mother and the failer of the father will not affect any aspect of her life.

Thank you for allowing me to express my opinion.

Rose

I am so upset with the way these trifling  women are  playing  this game with  the kids and men and think it's ok.  Then try to play victim when truth finally does come out.  But by then it to late because the child has to deal with the emotional feeling of who am I.  And the man having his rights taken away from him.  Then  he consider the monster  if he wants to leave or stop paying  child support.  And everyone look at him like how come you didn't t know, why did you get a test sooner.    I know this because it was a part of my life.  My husband has a 16 year old daughter and 1 year ago we found out she was not his.  But 11 years ago when he asked his ex if she really was his daughter because he started hearing  rumors that she may not have been, the ex threaten to take her( the daughter) away and he wouldn't see her again. So he let it go.  Now the daughter heard about rumor and found the man that is her bio-father.  And the first thing her mother says is that he should have known and it's not her fault.  So now his daughter is blaming my husband for it now  too.  This make no since.  Because every woman that has had a child knows when she got pregnant, knows who she was with and knows that possibility of if there is more then one possible father.  But they decide that I'll pick this man and hopefully he will be the one or so in love with the  child that he won't care.  And i don't care what that lady attorney says this does go on  a lot. And it won't stop until these women are held  responsible for their actions, for their lies.  Something  has to be done.  Because then it does take the focus off the real dead beat father that know the kids are their that just don;t want to pay child support or spend time with their kids.  We are held responsible for lying on our taxes, job applications , or  any other kinds of forms. Why can these women keep getting  away with lying on  these kids birth certificates that will  follow them for the  rest of their lives.  So the same way the  law goes after the  man, it should start going after these women. 

I understand that the child's feelings should come first.  But think about this scenario.  If the biological father found out that this was his long lost child that he had no idea existed, then decided to come foreward and try to have a relationship with the child, he wouldnt be able to do so.  Because legally the courts wouldnt allow it.

If your dad wasnt your father, wouldnt you want to know?  I know I would.