Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

Enrique should have left the child out of it and continued visits.  However, he shouldn't have to pay child support for a child that is not his. 

The most prominent thing I learned was to not ever hire Gloria Alred as my attorney.  I pray I will never need anyone like her for legal counsel.

You know what? I can not help feeling sorry for the  The biological father too. What if this man became unable to father children after this for some reason? It seems a great crime to keep this from him. My X (while having an affair) convinced me to get "fixed".  Then questions were raised when I caught her cheating about it not being the first time. I am simply too afraid to get tests done. I can't afford to have the procedure reversed (and it's not even close to 100% reversable anyway, i think it's 50% to 60%?). But deep down inside, I know I would want to have more children if I found out my son or daughter was not my biological child. I would love them no less, but I would still want to have more children too.

OK. Lets say up front that the mom was completely wrong for what she did, now that we have that out of the way. I know that her ex-husband was hurt but his anger was so misguided that I couldnt believe it.

Be grown about it when there are children involved. You dont have 2 be  biologically conected to be a MOM OR DAD. It takes Love and nothing more.  I started dating my husband when the kids were almost 2 & 5

Their biological  "Father" was never a "Dad" He chose insted to be and act  in a way that was fitting to him.

and was only around for a hot minute......That really hurt the oldest. He didnt get it for a long time but as the years have passed both of the kids call my husband "Dad" because he is the MAN (I use that term only with respect to the real meaning) who has raised them with love,protection, and guidance in life.

When they do speak of the person who walked away, which is not often. He is refered to by the name given to him by his mother. So you see the Mom in the parent trap case was wrong, but the girl who was left behind by the person she honored enough to call Dad, well $$$$ cant fix what he did when he left her.

WAY 2 GO!!!

I have a great idea. Put the "child support" money they are fighting over now in to a trust fund for the child.

Let the mother "pay back or return" the child support from the last 10 years the non-bioloical father paid. However, this money should not really go to this biological father, but should  be put into a trust fund for Salina's college. It is too bad this happened, but we are where we are. The child is the real #1 victim, although the biological father was the first victim, but is now the 2nd due to the child moving up to the priority victim. An awful situation.

I agree the  mother did wrong when the baby was conceived, but the father did an awful thing to another human being. So he and the wicked mother should make an agreement to give that money to the child (because the father is feeling really hurt and the mother doesn't want to lose the money). Then money issue is over. Find and file on the real father. In the mean time, this biological father and child should be in each others lives.

 I can not understand how we as adults can be so careless with the emotional well being of a child.  The mother was wrong, so wrong, to put her daughter in this position.  The mother was selfish and immoral in her decisions from the moment that she decided to have an affair to the deception of the paternity of her child.  As for the father, while I agree that he was deceived, this little girl believed that this man was her father since the moment she was born.  There is no way that you justify raising a child for 10 years and take them to a park and say that you can no longer be their father.  While I do not think that he should pay child support he has a certain emotional obligation to that little girl regardless of the situation.  He should be a man, not take out the betrayal of his ex-wife on a child and feel fortunate that he was given this beautiful person to be a part of his life.  As for the Ex-wife, she should be ashamed that she has put her daughter in this position.  She should discontinue her pursuit of child support and  encourage a relationship between her child and the man that raised her.