Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

That DNA would not matter if you were on death row. I wonder if that statement you said know that DNA means nothing has changed in your mind know,

I am a mother of  2 daughter's that survived the "divorce train"!!  I, also, had to constantly fight my ex husband for every bit of help for my daughters, but....I think this part of the law is not set up for anyone's benefit not even the children.  That has given the mother's too much legal power , and not  much thought to the children's welfare.  I think the injustice of the mother's not either admitting who the father is OR keeping the truth from everyone is worse than abuse.  So if this lie is a degree of mental abuse to the child, should they not get jail time for the abuse and be "labled" child abuser.  Maybe a mother might think twice to keep a secret like that if they thought jail time could come from this horrible lie!!  Doesn't it also teach the children that if you lie about anything that effects a child,(that effects anyone, it is okay?  I grew up in a small town and I know that a women naming a man that was not the real father happens a lot!!  It did in our town and I often wondered what would happen if as thses child (who ended up being fathered by the same man)  wanted to date as they got older, what would the mother do knowing they were really brother and sister!!)  A child finding a truth about thier on genes and background, a truth about who they are cannot be a bad thing.  I really think these mothers have committed the true crimes

There isn't anything that hurts as much as a child in pain.  Why do the children have to suffer and no one tells them WHY...I spent the last hour crying for Selina and also for a grandchild of mine.  This last weekend my son was to have his two daughters, ages 5 and 8.  Their mother (recently remarried) and her new husband refused to let the 5 year old come.  They have recently told the 5 year old that my son was not her real daddy.   My son was there when she was born and knew immediately  she was not his biological. He signed the birth certificate and brought her into our home and into our hearts.  He has been the only daddy she has ever known and she worships him.  Like they said "YOU DON"T TAKE A KID TO THE PARK AND SAY BY THE WAY GUESS WHAT".  The 8 year old is hurting too, this is the first time she didn't have her sister with her here.  He pays child support and hospitalization on both children.  He too recently remarried and has a new son.  Now they have contacted the REAL father and he never wanted to be her dad as he is married.  How can these precious children be kept in the right homes where they are so loved and wanted.   There are so many other things going on too, as I am sure you suspect.  How do we protect these children that are wanted.

     I agree with you in that the child should be the first consideration. I agree with the female lawyer that Enrique should have handled the matter quite differently, especially confirming to Salina, that their relationship will not change, express his love to her to re-inforce that bond they had made. Then in a different setting, with a witness, inform her of the truth of their biological relationship, all the time letting her know, that this situation involves him and her mother, and that he wants to continue their relationship. If in fact it was proven that he was not the biological father, then there should be no mandatory child support enforced by the courts. The child support at that time should become voluntary by the parent. It should remain voluntary, and when the mother re-marries, it terminates.  The mother should not be allowed to terminate the child-parent(adult) relationship even if the child support should stop, again re-inforcing the primary concern of the child.

I was furious after watching todays show.  The only thing I could agree with regarding the California lawyers were, that first and fore most the child is what's most important. She is totally wrong if she feels that after a paternity test that the father who by DNA is not really the biological father still is responsible for  child support. That man can continue a relationship with the child if all agree but should not be liable for any money unless he feels he still wants to on his own free will. The mother  that falsly tell someone they are "the father" when they knowingly had more than one partner should be totally liable. I feel they should be held accountable by being responsible for a DNA test if they are had more than one partner before telling anyone they are the father! I feel so strongly about this that I would say it should be illegal! And on the other side of the coin, men should be smart about this too by wearing a condom!!!!!!! It was stated on your show and was 100% correct. Why can DNA get you off from being accused of murder but not from being falsly told "your the father"! Makes no sense at all!!!!!!!!  There are many many cases of  lazy dads that do not pay child support, I agree. But that does not mean you find someone, anyone, that will!!!!!!!!!! I am a divorced mother with 2 children and they have a great father, so I'm one of the lucky ones. I think women who participate in this kind of man trap should be put in jail!  Hold them 100% responsible for DNA test. If they do not have the test and tell someone they are the father and that person pays the child support and at any point a DNA test is done and that father finds out they are not the father, that father should get all his money back and the mother should be arrested for falsly accusing if she never bothered with the test.

sweety you r not wrong in any way here if I got pragnet and my husband asked me if it was his kid I would tell him I wanted a divorce. This is so wrong and if a person feels their relationship isn't working than get out of it . But don't cheat on someone.Thants just wrong  Good for you on your opinion

I don't know where you are getting that from.  I have NEVER said on the show or otherwise that I want Enrique to toss aside this child.  NEVER!  I'm not sure where you are getting that from.  I will go on record here, once again, I believe that he should have a relationship with the Selina.  I love my husband and only want to be supportive of him.  Who would make a choice to be in this situation?  There are so many other positive things in this life that someone could have put my energy into.  I chose to support my husband and I'm proud of that fact!  You are entitled to state your feelings but I know you're wrong and that's all that matters.

Mia Terrazas

I do agree with you on this.  My nephew as a son that he found out was not biologically his when the child was 2 yrs old.  As far as I know the real father still does not know and the child does not know who his biological father is.  I can almost bet the mother knew from the start and was asked several times about this and she lied every time.  It does not mean we love this little guy any less than the biological children but would have been nice to know the truth from the beginning.  As far as child support, my nephew has to pay until this child is 18 because his name is on the birth certificate (which i do not agree with).  I feel the biological father should have to pay child support and my nephew continue to treat him as his own, to love and cherish him every day.   As far as the child knows, my nephew is his dad.