Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

This happened to my husband. His ex-wife did not tell him he was not the biological father.  When she was 5 years old he decided to have a DNA test.  He modified the child support order and does not pay child support.  He has agreed not to tell the child the truth and continues to have a relationship with her.  However, we were lucky as his ex-wife agreed not to fight for child support.  The child is now 14 and does not know the truth.  I know one day she will find out the truth, and she will HATE her mother. 

The fathers and children are the victims.  How do we know that the women are not getting financial support from the real fathers?  I do not know how these woman sleep at night!  I think the women or the biological fathers should have to pay back all child support with interest.  Most men do not find out they are not the biological fathers until years later after they have developed a relationship.  This is once again the mothers fault.  They should be punished.

This paternity fraud is too common.  I think women who lie, omit telling the truth about a child's paternity, or falsify the child's birth certificate in any form or fashion should suffer a consequence.  I also think paternity tests should be given after every birth.  I believe the mother should have to sign a document stating it is a crime punishable by law to knowingly submit false information about the paternity of the child. (Enact laws if needed).

Paternity fraud especially hurts the  child and mis identified father, as well as members of his family i.e., paternal grand parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. I will never believe that a woman who slept with more than one man, could not tell from birth or very early in the child's life,  the biological father.  I don't know how these low life women can look the mis identified father and his family in the eyes.  

This has always been a delicate subject for me although I have no kids. What that man did was not right. He should have never broken off his relationship with the child BUT when that man found out that this wasn't his kid after all those years he was devastated and wanted to lash out the best way he knew how. After he cooled down he realized his mistake and wanted to make things right. The real wrongdoer in all this is that lying wife. She blames him for what he did but she was the actual troublemaker from the start. Shes a liar and a terrible mother. She and every other women who do these things should me made to pay back every penny of child support. It just pissed me off watching her laugh about it on that interview. I'll bet that if they start making the mothers pay back child support or go to jail that there will be a decline in this kind of deciept. Her husband should be very aware that if she slept with two men once while married theres a good chance she'll do it again. I guess I watch to much Maury but I just wanted to slap her in the mouth

It should be a prosecutable crime to lie on a birth certificate--this would deter this kind of thing happening

as well as some guy realizing he is the father of an adopted child and years later getting it back after being raised by others as well as preventing accidental incest(brother marries sister) Sperm and egg donors should have numbers

I watched the show today, I think Dr. Phil is right when he says that this show is very controversal.  I don't agree with the fact that all women that have said that to a spouse that their child is theirs, would do this knowingling.  A lot of women really think that the child belongs to that man, they are not trying to fool anybody or trap anybody.  And what about the men that accept from birth to take care of a child that he knows is not his, does he have to pay child support?  I think he does, since he accepted to take care of that child even though it was not his biologicaly.  I think it's terrible the way this man told his daughter that he was not her father after 10 years.  He really did not think of what he was doing when he decided to annonce this to the child.  My heart goes out to her, I really hope that this will not dictacte her life as an adult.  I am shocked at the mother's reaction during the show, knowing that she caused all of this pain for her daughter and she didn't seem at all upset at her part in all of this.

I think he should continue to pay child support and also try to make amends with her to get back to their relationship.  If things had not gone wrong with his wife, he would have continued to pay and take care of her, so why not now.  Just because of the money, that should be secondary if at all taken into account in this kind of situation.  The moral effect is way more important, then any monetary involvement.  The child should come first and never be put in a situation like this by what she thought was her father for 10 years just because her parents did not have what it takes to make things right. 

Boy some people just don't know how to deal with this kind of situation.  There is a right way to deal with this, there is a wrong way.  These two took the wrong way from the start, now the child is paying big time for their mistakes.

In my case, I am divorced with two kids.  Never got child support from their father, because he decided he was never to work a day in his life after I left him.  So even if I would have tried to pursue him for any kind of money he would never have been able to pay a penny.  I was lucky, I returned to school and got myself a good paying job and did not need his help.  But there are a lot of women out there today, that are not so lucky and it is always the kids that pay the ultimate price in the end...