Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I have no idea who Carnell Smith or Gloria Allred is, but it sounds like both of them need to do what most judges and attorneys in Chancery Court need to do. (For those who are not familiar with injustice that means they need to get their head out of their crack.) I hope Enrique no longer has to pay child support to a child that is not his biological child. I hope the mother of that child has to return every penny of illegal child support she stole from Enrique. I hope the mother gets the child support her child deserves from the biological father, who should have been paying child support from the very beginning if he is alive and able to do so. Every man that has been paying child support to a child that is not his biological child should sue Gloria Allred and people similar to her to send a message that men who are not the biological father of a child should not have to continue the lie of being the biological father and they should not have to continue paying for a child that is not their biological child. Once a man has discovered that he is not the biological father of a child and he still wants to be a father to that child and pay child support to the child he should be allowed to do so of his own choice and he should be commended for doing an honorable deed. And that child should thank him for it and be grateful that he or she has a man like him in his or her life.

This paragraph is in response to the first 5 messages posted on October 27, 2007 by Princess1, lovthesand1, vixiex, joyklein and archladydi respectively. In some states the child can sue the biological father, after the age of 18 years, and get the child support money he or she did not receive. Be glad the biological father was not in your sons life and stop thanking god and thank your husband for being who he is and hopefully your son is grateful for having a real man in his life. In the real world and in America women do NOT have an advantage over men. Any man who is being "accused" of being the biological father of a child should immediately request a DNA test if he is in doubt. If he does not then he must want to pay child support for a child that is not his biological child. And if a man does not want any children, he can always get a vasectomy and prevent future children he does not want to be responsible for. I agree, fathers are more than a checkbook, but for those who are not fathers they can be good providers and the woman and the mans biological child should be grateful for that at least. If two people want a special bond to remain in tack, they will ignore that lack of biology and continue the love that was meant to be and be grateful for one another. Women do ask for DNA test. If a man truly wants to know if a child is his biological child he will take the DNA test or request it himself. Women who know that a man is not the father and just flat out lie should be legally prosecuted in some way. Maybe not jail, unless it is an absolute last resort, but punishment is definitely in order. And I hope all men falsely accused can some day find peace. Again, a man can request a DNA test and should if he feels he is not the biological father. I, personally, am sick and tired of hearing about the rights of mothers and fathers. I want to hear about the rights of children. No one is fighting for their rights. What do the children want? Who do the children want to live with? When will the children be listened too. The children should go to the parent that is emotionally capable of raising the child in a stable loving environment. If the child is happy where he or she is, leave him or her where he or she is. And the father should not get a free pass from his responsibilities. Lying and dodging responsibility is not acceptable from either biological parent.

I know I will miss a good show that day and I probably will not be able to read any more comments after today, but I wish you all well.

The truth is the mother probably did not know for sure who the father was but to protect her daughter so the daughter had a father she did not seek out to find out the truth.  The new wife pointed out because she could care less about the children involved and wanted the extra money!  If I were the little girl I would not want Enrique for my father as what he did was way worse than what the mother did.  Enrique did that to the child who was innocent because he did not have the balls to stand up to his current wife to tell her to mind her own business nor did he have the balls to stand up to his ex wife, he could only stand up to an innocent child, that is sick!!!!!

 I can not understand how we as adults can be so careless with the emotional well being of a child.  The mother was wrong, so wrong, to put her daughter in this position.  The mother was selfish and immoral in her decisions from the moment that she decided to have an affair to the deception of the paternity of her child.  As for the father, while I agree that he was deceived, this little girl believed that this man was her father since the moment she was born.  There is no way that you justify raising a child for 10 years and take them to a park and say that you can no longer be their father.  While I do not think that he should pay child support he has a certain emotional obligation to that little girl regardless of the situation.  He should be a man, not take out the betrayal of his ex-wife on a child and feel fortunate that he was given this beautiful person to be a part of his life.  As for the Ex-wife, she should be ashamed that she has put her daughter in this position.  She should discontinue her pursuit of child support and  encourage a relationship between her child and the man that raised her.

     The woman lied to the husband and used the system to gain financial support for 13 years.  The mother  now wants the man to continue to pay for the child even though the mother has total control of the child and since he is not the biological father can deny him access to the child.  -- (The girl being over 13 often limits the amount of time parents spend as they become more independent anyway...) 

     The man that raised and supported this child for 13 years did not/does not intend for the child to suffer, but just as in the case of divorce, the child will suffer.  Forcing a man that is not the father to pay child support for a child that is not his rewards the actions of the mother.  Child support is paid to the mother, not the child.  A father has no way of insuring that the mother provides for the child with the money that he pays.

     Doesn't the natural father of the child have the right to know that he has a child?  Doesn't he have any obligation to support the child that he fathered?  Too often children are "used" to provide money to the custodial parent to improve their standard of living while the child received little for the amount of money paid...  and as noted by others, the concern here (as often is the case) is about money...  nothing else.