Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

    I think what both parents did was awful. It was horrible for the mother to lie about who the father was and it was just as horrible for the father to abandon the child he had raised for 10 years just because he found out she was not biologically his. He created a bond with that child and has a moral obligation to continue that relationship. Maybe not a financial responsibility, but I can't even imagine how devastating it is to a child to have the man she considered Dad to just walk out of her life because she's not his blood-related daughter. The children should be the focus here, not what the parents did. Both parents made horrible mistakes but this child should not have to suffer because of them. Yes Mom messed up big time and created the situation, but Dad should still maintain the relationship he's always had with his daughter, whether or not she's biologically his or not. If you raise a child for that many years I believe then you are a parent and need to stay in the child's life.

While I feel very sorry for the children caught in the middle of these unfortunate circumstances, I don't understand why a man who has been tricked into parenting another man's child is held financially responsible simply because so much time has passed.

As a woman, it is my right to choose rather or not to adopt another woman's child.  No one can force me to do that.  What these women have done is force a man into adoption.  They were never given a choice.  While I hope that the majority of men will continue to love and have contact with the children they have raised, they should be under NO obligation to continue financial support.  The mothers shouldn't look at this as "lost child support".  Instead they should count all they years they hid the lie of paternity as an undeserved financial windfall.

Hello Dr. Phil and Robin (love your name)

I was adopted by two wonderful parents, both of which loved me very much, though when I was six they separated, and when I was eight, they divorced.  I looked like my father (a good lookin' man I must say) though I was not biologically his, but would that have given him the right to not pay child support?

I know it's a totally different level of discussion then what your show was, but in the same realm.  He paid child support until I was 18. 

I couldn't believe my eyes when I started watching Maury's show on how many woman that knew in their heart that they have slept with another man or many men and blamed some man for being the father of their child ,and when the results come back that the man is not the father, they go running off the stage crying, and screaming! It makes me sick and even embarrased to be a woman sometimes! There should be a law in place, if she tells you that she is pregnant, someone with a paternity test should be present and it should be manditory that both parties take it! This should cut out the welfare rolls, all of the lies and the B.S. Any woman that would stoop so low to keep a man, or to get money through child support should be ordered to pay that money back to the man, get jail time and maybe get the child taken away from you b/c you are not a mother, that makes you a golddiggin' h--!! And it's not about the child, if he IS NOT THAT CHILD'S FATHER, then he SHOULD NOT have to take care of it! It seems to me that Selena was relieved to know that that man was not her father, he probabaly did not let her do what she wanted to do and this stepfather seems more like he's trying to be her friend, instead of a father figure! I feel as though she will get over it! And to the mother, she needs to sit her child down and tell her who her real father is and go find him! Nasty A-- women make me sick!!  I agree with you to the lady that wrote this: Women like her makes it bad for a dam good woman like me!! I fought in the gulf war for my kids!!! Get a job and stop laying on your backs!! From A real woman!!