Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

dittos!!

I am so surprised that all of the messages that I've read so far are about the adults w/ Selina on the side....didn't anyone listen?  Or don't you understand yet that life is not fair, that sometimes you just have to deal with an injustice to yourself and put someone else first.  It's a lesson that kids learn early on, or should, that sometimes things just aren't fair.  Ok the mother lied, it's done.  NOTHING can change that it sucks.  It seems to me that Enrique and his new and obviously immature wife, and that crazy other guy with his mouth running off, need to get past the fact that they aren't going to get their money back, and they can't punish the mother now.  There won't be justice for them, at least in that regard.  Now on top of Selina's mother messing things up early on they've made the whole problem worse and look worst than her now.  They perpetrated a crime against the child, much worse than the lie to the adult.  So they need to move on.  Better to have stood up and done the right thing by the child, "turn the other cheek" for the sake of the childs heart.   Damage has been done to this child that is forever.  As for that guy who is running around freaking out that he had to pay support for a kid who's not his...well, I think whether he's right or wrong, each case is individual and can't be generalized.  He's bitter, angry, I categorize him with Tom Lykas, (the worlds biggest pig), he's rude, and if he really had justice and dignity in mind he'd at least let other people have their say.  A prince never has to say they're a prince....let alone get in my face and demand I acknowledge it. ;)

Dr Phil,

 

Why didn't you ask that Lady who the real father is?  That is the question all the watchers want to know and to hear.  I also don't recommend bringin Gloria Allred out just to promote her dang book!  She was on her soap box about parents not paying child support.  Totally off topic and should have been stopped by you.

 

ASK THAT WOMAN WHO THE REAL FATHER IS.... IF SHE EVEN KNOWS!

Everyone is ignoring the most chilling possible ramification of DNA deceit.  If these people had stayed married, this child would have always believed in false information.  She could conceivably have met, and dated, someone with whom she had a blood connection.  

 

Dr. Phil, you mentioned the word biology only once or twice but never elaborated.  This issue deserves more air time than it was given.  If her mother will not address her birth father--you should help this young lady find him and put her biology to rest.  She is an innocent party to this adult mess.

...should be required at the time of birth, regardless. This HAS GOT TO STOP!

Shocking that someone would put money ahead of a child's welfare. The new wife is witchy and responsible for the injury to the child. Her focus was to do damage to the ex-wife and get finished paying child support. Awful person. I can't understand why the audience was clapping for her. Are they as insensive as she is?

SOLUTION:

A) I think it that a DNA test should be included in the birth fee package so that the test is AUTOMATICALLY done at birth.

B) The same applies to a child support claim. All claims MUST have a DNA result attached to make it a complete claim. ( The man is obligated to comply)

These are my reasons:

1)This way no 'Parent Trap' can be set, which is a huge problem in the United States!!
2) When someone is in love they dont think about questioning if the baby is theirs or not. Then several years down the line it shouldnt be used against them. (why they didn't have a DNA test done before)
3) I can imagine that it is offensive for a woman to hear that her man wants a DNA test done especially if they are deeply in love. This solution will avoid this, besides I stongly believe that if anyone is innocent then they have nothing to hide.
4) This solution will allow parents to make critical decisions from at the beginning, while the child is still at baby.

5) Overall the DNA test at birth will just will just start things on the right note, not cards unturned.

Dr Phil and others please respond !

I read your response to todays show...Parent Trap and I fully agree with everything you wrote. But taking the thought just a bit further I have to say, yes he was deceived in paying child support for years for a child that was not his but if he truely loves this child like he says he does then why is he so upset about it? If it wasn't for him who knows what kind of life she would have had.

He should not be held responsible financially any longer for Selina but he owes her love. She is the biggest victim in this whole mess. And I also believe so long as Mia is calling the shots here there will never be any reconcilliation between Selina and this man she grew up calling daddy.  I wouldn't be surprised if she has the other daughter tested as well.

The mother is a criminal and the fact that she could do this to a man she loves, is to me, a clear indication of a deeper problem, That being one of the heart.

Having said that...for a man who supposebly loved this child to take her to the play ground and break her heart tells me his heart isn't any better.

Who knows.... Maybe they are a match made in heaven after all.

 I am divorced with children and I was so disturbed by this story.  The Mother is totally at fault here...she lied and still expects her Ex to take responsibility...you know in a second she would play the DNA card if he wanted full custody of if his role in her daughter's life became inconvenient to her.  The Father should not be financially responsible for this child however should have handled it completely different and still maintained a relationship with Selena.  i can understand the shock he had and that he reacted to it but he should have stepped up once he saw clearly.  I do feel the Mother should have helped her daughter through this better knowing it was completely her fault.  I hope they can work it out and Selena can have the Dad she has been missing for so long.

I agree with you and especially what you said about Allred.