Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I believe the mother on the show should be held responsible. I also believe that her ex-husband, Enrique, should have the right to sue her for at least 50% of the child support that he has paid over the years. However, the mother should have the right to find the biological father and hold him responsible. If the biological father knew he had a child with her, he should be forced to pay. If she victimized and deceived him as well, he should only be forced to pay for the next few years of child support, when his daughter is 18.

I was sorry to see attorney Gloria Allred take the wrong side on this issue. I normally agree with her on issues, but not this one. She was wrong. The victim was Enrique and her daughters. The mother victimized her entire family by deceiving and lying to them. Unfortunately Enrique didn't handle the situation well after he found out the news, but that is another matter altogether.

I am sort of in the same situation. My wife had an affair while we were married and had a child by that man.

I found out about my son Adam when he was none months old. I divorced his mother, but I never turned my back on him. I did not pay child support but I raised him as my son his whole life. He is now 14. He knows the truth and rarely sees his biological father. He goes everywhere my son Andrew goes with my family. Vacations, cruises, disney World and everything. Nothing will ever stop that. He has always called me Daddy and I will always call him my son. I love him just like I do Andrew. They both get the same treatment.

I hope that Enrique can get over all of this and eventually spend time with the daughter that he obviously loves and misses very much.

As in most other cases of false accusations, the accuser can't get off scott free. Being a father myself, if I were to find out that I was tricked into paying child support or raising a child that wasn't mine, I would think the legal system should hold the mother financially responsible for reimbursing me through the same methods that I would have been subjected to if I had not paid my child support.

Depending on the age of the child and the length of time that I was under the impression that I was the father, it would be difficult for me to just walk away. My attachment would be too great to just walk away and not think about what would happen to that child - who now, through no fault of their own will think their father deserted them. I would have to continue treating that child as mine, for their well being and mine. However the mother would have to be financially responsible for reimbursing me at the same rates I was forced to pay her to raise my alledged child. She could of course go after the biological father herself, to whatever extent the law allows - but that is none of my concern. I was fraudulently duped into handing over money, emotions, fighting legal battles (only if visitation was being denied since I would have absolutely no issue in raising my child), etc.

As for Ms. Allred, I have never had any respect for her or her positions. The bottom line is that she thinks the man is always the perp, is always at fault and should always pay the woman.

Bottom line, I couldn't just walk away but the mother shouldn't get away with fraudulently taken my time, emotions and money. Heck, if any of the papers were served via the US Mail, she has also committed mail fraud.

The mother has the gall to say this 'father' doesn't have any balls but yet she can continue to deceive him even after the truth and extort money?  Please, let's get real here!  This woman deserves prison time for what she has done; not only to her ex but to her children as well.  This is where she believes she has the courts to protect her and she can continue to be a greedy (can't say it here) and act like she has no issues.

Let her rot in jail and preach to the other losers who believe a free ride is an entitlement. 

The father should stay in the child's life though; he should decide if he wants to contribute finanically.

Not one time on the show did anyone mention her biological father....the one that should be paying the child support! 

I think that the Mom was absolutely at fault.....the fact that he should pay for child support is insane! 

If it's not about the money, and just Selenia's feelings....then WHY DOES SHE WANT MORE OF IT????

First I would like to address something that Ms. Allred continuously stated...safety of the child.  How can a woman who lies about the father of that child to that child have the child's best interest at heart (if the child knew anything at all)?  Was the daughter in on this from the beginning?  A hoax to con a man out of child support?  When do the lies end?

Second, it was stated that the real problem was on how "men" do not pay their child support.  I am divorced, have been for 13 years and I have never missed a payment, so please do not categorize us with the real dead beats.  But for the last 7 years, one of my children chose to live with me, I still was ordered by the courts to pay child support for the second child, in which I did.  When my youngest decided to live with me 5 years ago, to go to high school with his friends, my ex-wife was ordered to pay...how much do you think the children got from her?  The last 5 months prior to our son graduating high school, he received nothing from her. 

Dr. Phil, Ms. Allred maybe a highly respected attorney, but within a few minutes of your show, I have no respect for her.  I wish it had been brought up if the child knew who her paternal father was, whom do you think that child would have been angry at, the "step-father" for not wanting to pay or the mother for lying?  Who is hurting the child the most?

It is tragic that any child should lose a parent, whether biological or not. This is especially tragic when that parent has CHOSEN to remove himself simply because the DNA doesn't match.  A father and a mother should be accountable emotionally and financially for a child whenever it is possible. But, a father should not be financially responsible for a child that isn't his. Also, a mother needs to be held accountable for being truthful about the paternity of her children. I think if a man pays child support and then finds out that he is not the biological father, then he deserves some compensation for the money that he paid. I think, however, that he should be provided with the opportunity to maintain some kind of relationship with the child. Unfortunately there are many parents who do not put their children's interests first and our current laws are inadequate to deal with this.