Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

This is my first time posting a message on the Dr. Phil message board but I was utterly disgusted by the conduct of Maria on your show.  It is unfortunate that this lady made a case against her ex husband as being an unfit parent because he does not pay child support.  How does this woman after all she has put these people through still complain and say he should pay for a child that is not his.  Is her daughters well being and her own self respect worth so little that she is willing to make another person's life miserable?  As a Hispanic woman I am ashamed and deeply saddened that this woman represented herself as a gold digging ex wife who speaks only to complain and point out others flaws.  It is unfortunate that Enrique can not be involved in Selina's life but it is understandable how this child is a reminder of such a bitter and difficult time in his life.  I wish the matter is resolved in Enrique's favor and although he is not Selina's father he should make an effort to make amends for informing her of the situation in such an abrupt way.  Hopefully Selina can one day grow up and see how difficult it was for Enrique to be duped and used in the way he was.  Wish all those involved the best but it is easy to see why Maury has so many paternity shows and men are so skeptic to take responsibility for children if the law is in anyway like Ms. Alred thinks.

After watching todays show via my DVR, I am disgusted with the "main character" Maria in this mixed up story.  I truly feel for Enrique.  Although it had been 10 years, the wrench the negative DNA test threw into his life could cause a person to make bad decisions, like walking away. 

I wanted to reach through my plasma screen and wring that hooker's neck when she, Maria, was saying that he should have asked if he wanted to know she was screwing around. 

The slippery slope comes with the pro-choice movement.  Where is a man's right to choose? The woman's TRUE right to choose comes with choosing an appropriate mate, and having children with them.  If she doesn't have enough judgement to at choose (and be faithful) to a responsible male, she needs to keep her legs crossed and stay home alone.

Although I don't often agree with her, I am thinking of Dr. Laura's "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and the idea that "A good man is hard to find, not hard to keep."  How can a reasonable woman temporarily walk away from her marriage and sleep around and then slide directly back into normal mode?  This woman is lucky that her ignorant choices didn't alienate her daughter from her. 

On another note:  Mia and Chris should get over themselves.  They married people with a TON of baggage.  Enrique can speak for himself.  Chris should get out while he still can.

Amen! I agree!!!!

My husband married a woman that got preganant believing he was the father.  After years of her committing adultry they divorced with two children.  Last year we filed for custody of the two children age 15 and 11 becuase the children were unsafe and in an unstable envioronment.  My husband was awarded custody of the 11 year old and the maternal grandmother was awarded custody of the 15 year old becuase she refused to live with us.   She refused to visit in our home on her scheduled visitation and the Judge would not make her visit.  We have not seen the 15 year old now 16 in over a year. This July the mother contacted a man telling him he was the 16 year olds father (he was going through a divorce).  They had a private paternity test in July and guess what my husband after raising this child and supporting her is not the father.  We live in a very small community and heard this through the grapevine.  My husband contacte the father and he confirmed everythign and gave him a copy of the test.  The mother has not even had the deciency to tell my husband what is going on.  We hope to get the child support stopped this month when we go to court.  It is like someone has died in our family.  What do you say to people when they ask about your daughter?  And I cannot even imagine how the child feels.  It is so scary that a woman can hold the card and play it whenever she gets ready!  It destroys peoples' lives!