Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

Mia,

No condemnation...but how would you feel if someone came along and changed your child's life forever? You say that you spoke with your daughter before you had the discussion with your husband. I wonder if you considered talking to your spiritual leader? This type of decision should be prayerful and done with much consideration of all of the lives that would be affected.

Your daughter no matter her age is your child, she should not have been a part of this decision for you.

I wonder if you would do it all over again, if you knew how Selina would be hurt?

And as for Gloria Allred I have one question for her when does a woman do anything wrong?  What Ms. Allred is teaching all of the young women of the world, Is to be deceitful as long as you can get away

with it.  Wake up Ms. Allred Enrique  and Celina are the victims here, and that gentleman who paid 11 years of child support should be reimbursed by the woman who lied about his being that child's father and forced to pay back support to him.  Or serve jail time.for fraud and theft.

This is not a "stepchild" he's "taking on".  This was the daughter HE RAISED.  What does this say about fatherhood???  If we expect nothing from men as fathers, it's little wonder they deliver very little at times...

I'm sure NEITHER daughter considers herself to have had the role of "stepdaughter".  This is a crucial point.  Stop trying to solve the problem for the adults (father) in this case when it's the consequences that abandonment creates for the CHILD that you should be considering.  Adults are in a FAR better position to handle injustice than a child is.  There is no comparing the two things.  It sucks that Enrique got duped.  Agreed.  But this shouldn't color what the correct reaction on his part should have been, (to stand by his daughter emotionally and financially).  I'm not suggesting forcing him to do so.  He doesn't deserve her.  I'm merely trying to frame the problem for what it is today -- a problem of a child being abandoned by her father -- and how UNJUST that reaction was.

You are 100% right.  I'm very disappointed with Dr. Phil having brought that loud mouthed money hungry lawyer on the show.  There were two real victims here and not enough emphasis was put on that.  I know how hard adultary can be, how devastating and how it can destroy someones life. He should have made a better choice about continuing to see the child and  Dr. Phil should have offered the father and daughter some type of counsdeling to try and repair the damage, yet he offered nothing.  Dr. Phil, I know your an advocate for children and for women but when wmoen are wrong, they shouldn't be made out to be some great mother.

Dr. Phil and all I am angry,

My husband and I are going through the exact same thing. There is a woman who claimed to have his child 16 years ago. He found out aboout it 8 years ago when he was arrested for a child support warrant. He was declaired the father by default. He has NEVER signed the birth certificate, He has NEVER been in the childs life at all. His license had been suspended and he has lost his job before due to failure to pay child support. We have had our taxes taken, we have spent money on lawyers and have requested appeal after appeal. All with no avail. He has always maintained that this boy was not his child. The mother  of the child finally agreed to a DNA test at an independent lab. Sure enough the child was not his. We then filed a new appeal based on the new evidence and again we were denided. All the mother has to do is go to Juvenile court and stop this order. She refuses. She is getting free money  from a man that has a real family with his real children  and she does not care. I am angry, mad , pissed off and frustrated. Her son hates her for lying to him all his life. She made him think that my husband was his father and that he didn't  want anything to do with him. The boy has called our house and begged to live with us and would ask to speak to our children etc. beforfe the DNA test. The system does not hold women accountable. All the state cares about is recooping funds for walfare from men that have nothing to do with it. We need a better system. I get upset everytime i think about what we have been through because a heartless  lier. All that boy wanted was a father and his mother took that away from him with her lies.