Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

Mia is not an outsider and will you pick a side and stick to it.  You say the law is right in assuming that a child born of a marriage is presumed to be a child of that marriage regardless of who the actual father is and yet you mock the other guy for not requesting a paternity test.  You yourself said that "Every man has a right to request paternity test" but if he is assumed to be the father than whats the point of the test since the husband, although not bio. father is assumed to be the father since he was legally married and will still have to pay child support.  No the laws are not there to protect the best interest of the child since that child will never know his actual father and will only receive the full anger and resentment  of the ex-husband for having to pay child support that he should not be paying. 

   Iam currently paying childsupport on a child that I don't think is mine.  I have had this question since he was born and  I have asked his mother for a DNA test and all she can tell me is what does it matter.  She also told me that this is the only way I can keep you around.  My mother told my that she would disown me if I press it.  The chid is asking his grandmother why his dad is not paying child support and she is telling him  he is and moma is telling him, if his dad was paying child support they would have money.  I just think if it's not  your kid than you should not pay child support.   Than maybe  that is one way to keep these women from pening this on anybody the want.

I just wanted to say, that woman had an affair and shows no feelings toward her children what so ever. 

Your Lawyer friend, is a tipical woman first thing they all worry about is the money.  (I am a mother, divorced with children)  This is more common then you would think, my friends uncle paid child support for a child for the 18 years, something happened and she need a blood transfusion and she was 23 then, and thats when he found out he wasn't her father.  He tried to get his money back, but of course money is more important.  That is what our country has come to.  I feel that if you could go to jail for not paying child support, a woman should be sent to jail for fraud.  I know that she knew she just sat there laughing and smiling, she don't care about her daughter, she just wants the money.  I am surprised that her daughter even talks to her, I would be upset at my mom for ruining my life with her selfishness.  Also, just to inform everyone, because they kept say he should of asked, you know that any woman for one thing will denie and another thing they would freak out, and when your married the man doesn't get the option for a DNA test, they just put your name on the birth certificate.

Dr. Phil, I watched the show yesterday and it upset me very much....I have heard of this happening to other men and I think it is grossly unfair....The Mother should be held liable for the fraud and forced to pay back any child support that was paid after the fraud was disclosed...She sat through the whole program looking very smug and self-righteous with a sneaky smirk  on her face....I feel sorry for the child but the blame needs to be placed squarely on her Mother's shoulders for her deceit..She should be forced to divulge who the father really is to the daughter and should go after him for future support.  It is unfortuneate that Selena and Enrique have to suffer because of her lying and cheating...I wonder how she sleeps at night.........Incidentally, I feel that Gloria Allred is a "joke" in the legal profession...she is always grandstanding and irritating.  Thanks for a great show. 

This certainly has been a passionate topic.  There has been a lot of anger aimed at the right people in this matter but I think that Gloria Allred is not one of them.  She was on the show to explain and defend the law.  She is a lawyer and Dr Phil is not. Who better to explain the law than a lawyer?  Maybe the laws need to be tweaked to include our latest scientific gains in DNA testing but, she is right when she says that the laws reflect the best interest of the child. 

 

The man that the child grew up with as the father, loves as the father and looks up to as the father has rights in this case too.  I think he should go back to the courts and demand a relationship with this child.  The laws protect the father too with regards to visitation and the bonds that were established. 

 

Should he pay?  That seems to be at the heart of everyone's passionate responses.  Maria did not help matters sitting on the stage enjoying all the pain and anguish that she wreaked on her ex.  She was certainly not a likable character on the show.  She was so outlandish that the best interest of the child seemed secondary.

It was so sad to listen to the young girl talking about her dad (the only one she's ever known) telling her he wasn't her Biological Father.  Well, unfortunately the X-wife was VERY wrong with what she did BUT the relationship with Father/Daughter had already been established for years...How could you put a price on that?  How could you possibly STOP that loving relationship for the sake of the Almighty Dollar?  Sure, be mad as HECK at the EX but don't take it out on that sweet little daughter.  That just wasn't right ,in my opionon. 

Thats exactly what she is!!! She prays on weak men.  And she found  him!  One of her comments before a commercial break was something to the effect of "...If he only had the balls!" Unfortunately there are alot of men out there that don't have it in them to fight for there rights therefore we will continue to have people like Maria.  What we need is men like Carnell Smith who didn't  settle! Granted it was a long fight but he won.

 

Maria is selfish, self centered and inconsiderate individual.  She needs Dr. Phils help NOW!!!!!!

 

As for Enrique. There is plenty of blame to go around.  Was he so blinded by love that he couldn't see the obvious? My goodness look at that girls hair texture, skin color, her eyes and the rest of her features! Isn't it obvious she is mixed with something other than Latino blood!!!!!

He needs to learn how not to  be so dependent on woman. This was his fight so why was his current wife doing most of the talking?  Yes he was victim in Maria's scheme but he needs to stop acting like one!

 

As for the childsupport? He shouldn't pay and I hope he sues Maria for Paternity Fraud. I hope there is a great attorney out there who is willing to take on this case and let this be the example for those gold diggers!  If Maria is so desperate for support then she needs to pursue Selena's biological father.  From her demeanor she has no remorse for the grief she has caused to Enrique let alone her daughter.  What a pitiful excuse of a mother!!! We all  know kids learn by example and what a "great"  example she has set! To be deceptive, liars, predators and cheaters!!!!!!!
We all agree Maria is to blame for the deception and sadly the one that has paid and will continue to pay the high price if proffesional intervention doesn't occur will be Selena. 
I hope Dr. Phil offers his services to all parties involved and if Maria doesn't take advantage of the opportunity to fix this huge mess that she is responsible for then its obvious what she will continue to be. 

Like the black widow we all saw she captured her next victim......

Enrique must have been having sex with Maria, or he would have known the child could not be his.  If you are married, the child is presumed to be the husbands.  If this child is so OBVIOUSLY  not his that his second wife can tell with one look, surely he should have questioned it iin 9 years.  It is totally selfish for him to treat the child this way after being the only father she has ever known. Legal issues aside, I would not trust a man who could trat his child this way.  He should be grown up enough to work this issue out with Maria.  And his current wife should stay out of it.  I didn't see much that she contributed except to call Maria names.  Maria certainly knew that the child might not be his, but his issues with her should be separate from his treatment of the child.

LOOKS like you are making there situation yours. Just because you had that experience doesn't mean this is the same thing, Maria should have been honest with her own child but the $$$$$$ was to good. !!!

Ordinarily, neither do I.  But then what do you propose?   Since the biological father is nowhere in sight , do you propose we endorse that the only father she has known abandon her financially (like many here suggest)?  Who really has more to lose in this terrible situation?  The daughter, or the adult?  It is about choosing the lesser of two evils.  Life's choices aren't always black and white, nor are the choices necessarily good for ALL involved.  This is why there is a CHOICE to be made at all.  Neither choice is fair to both father and child simultaneously.  Nevertheless, I feel strongly that the MORAL decision (which the father in this case should have made WILLINGLY) is to continue loving AND financially supporting his daughter, rather than make her pay for what that awful woman did.  Love the child more than you hate the mother...  That's the lesser of the two evils in my book.