Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I agree that the mother has committed fraud and the crime should be punishable.  Women should be held responsible and not use innocent men. I think you should have a licence to have kids for more reasons that just this one! I agree with the reply that BOTH should tell the child, if they can agree on at least that.  Child support should not be paid.  Perhaps the trapped father should ask an expert on how to approach if the mother won't confess her sin to her child. I don't agree with Gloria - she sounds like she represents a lot of 'loser' women if she is sticking up for the mother.  It's pure logic:  The mother has an affair and gets  pregnant - the mother is accountable financially in addition to parentally.  I like the DNA test suggestion - that should scare some women into being honest women.  I don't have any first hand experience in any of this nor do I know anyone personally that has - I just have a firm opinion and am an honest, responsible woman. 

 Seems as though the main problem here is the money.  Everyone is going on about the child support and how Enrique is a "victim".  Yea he lost out on money paying support for a child that wasn't his however, money can be remade.  The man is in the medical profession so he isn't hurting by any means.  What was lost was the relationship between "father" and "daughter" and that may never be remade.  Enrique had 10 great years with a girl he presumed to be his daughter, she even picked up on habits and traits of his even though they weren't biologically connected they were emotionally connected.  Since when is money worth losing that?

The mother is to blame for this mess and that will be between her and Selina to deal with.  Enrique acted on emotion and as an adult he should have been able to put his pain aside for a girl he thought of as a daughter, you can't tell me that a DNA test automatically erases love.  That is between he and Selina to deal with.  People accuse the girl of being coached by the mother but how can the girl be coached about the actual pain she must of felt when she was told she wasn't his daughter and then abandoned while Enrique still carried on a relationship with her sister.

Maria is responsible for her role in cheating and lying but Enrique is equally responsible for how he dealt with it and treated Selina.  He CHOSE to push her out so he could show the courts that he wasn't emotionally involved so he didn't have to pay child support any longer to the courts.  I wonder how both of these people (Maria and Enrique) will feel about the money aspect if Selina developes emotional issues later on in life because of this.

I cannot believe the socialist views of Gloria Allred.  It is not the responsibility of anyone who is not the father or parent of a child to be forced to pay child support.  Mr. Carnell Smith was correct in that he shouldn't be obligated to pay.  Given what I saw of this man of integrity, I'm sure that his relationship with his "assumed" daughter would not end because of the test results.  In fact, he should be given custody and receive child support from both the mother and the real father.

 

There needs to be harsher penalties for such criminal acts to incite the correct behaviour of these women who are in affect stealing from these men.  Jail time would make these women think twice.  Bottomline our society is turning into a bunch of whining socialists who want something for nothing.  I believe that citizens of the US should be required to travel overseas to see why we are so lucky.  Those people who whine, can leave the US.  There is a difference between charity and government programs.

 

I cannot believe that  a woman could actually take money from a man who did not father her child and then try to justify it. He would not have been in this situation to begin with if she had been honest from the start. I do not think that he handled the situation right.  I think she knew that she would get more money from him because he is a doctor. I think that she should have to pay back all of the money that she has taken from this man.

You know the biggest problem isn't  just them take money for their kids and lieing about it....but what happens if the kid get sick and needs a kidney mom wont work so you go to the dad who she knows isn't the dad.....if she would have been honest from the start the child may have a chance but sinse the real dad was not made aware of the child til this has accured he's know were to be found.....

 

Look I'm a woman myself and I've found that the law really doesnt work for the men when it comes to kids and that's not rite...I have a son myself and I dont care what  it cost nor if he's married or not he will be tested (for any kids he's told is his) before he puts his name on any BIRTH CERT.  

 

That's the life we're in now.....SO SAD....

 

I feel that the law should be made for the kid when it comes to child suppot....meaning both parents should pay at the sametime........a percent should go to their household and personel need and the rest should be put in  a fund for that child when it turns 18yrs..... for school or them starting their life on their own....but it should be their decision....not everyone is made for college......

i have listened to all of this before, connection to the child, it's her fault it, the best interest of the chid. This

happened to me before. I took care of the child for 6 years. The mom forgot to inform me that she was seeing another man. We were living together, so silly me for not asking if i was the dad. In court the mom said i should never assume. Luckly i got out of paying child support after i found out. But the other 2 guys she claimed was the dad didnt get off so lucky...one still is paying. I still think the husband was right. it's wrong for him to pay for her lay.  and you know the old saying........momma baby...daddy's maybe

It is good that you won't date a man with children.  We never asked my mother or father to put us first or second.  We knew that they loved us and in spite of their divorce they were always there for us.  The woman that my father dated enjoyed our company as well.  She did not discard us as "out with the old and in with the new!"

 

I am 45 and my father is dead.  I am not a child.  I have 5 children of my own. They are our priority. 

i cannot believe she lied to her husband and daughter both all that time. she should be ashamed of herself, i cant believe she got another man to even marry her. what man in his right mind would even want a woman like her? she blames her ex husband for stopping visitation with selina but what the hell does she expect? she dropped a big bomb on him telling him she really wasnt his daughter. he is only human. it is all marias fault, all the pain selina feels and her ex husbands pain. maria said her ex husbands wife was evil, oh please, the only evil one i saw on the show was maria.

Mia is a trouble maker!

The leaders of this nation of ours called America, are very fond of saying that this is a christian nation.  "Christian", means 'followers of Christ', and using the 'Christ Consciousness'. Jesus The  Christ taught forgiveness.  Why not forgive all people involved in this debacle. That includes all of us who posted items bashing one or more of the parties involved.