Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

First....Maria is dead wrong for what she did to Enrique.  I think that 's obvious.  But MIa will have to someday face the consequences of her actions.  I, too, am a step mother to children whose biologiical mom did some very hurtful things.  I could have easily started a war with the ex and tried to control the situation.  But the ONLY true casualty of that war would have been the children.  Mia had an opportunity to  be a healer, a peaceamaker, a supportive  stepmother, a compassionate wife, a DECENT HUMAN BEING. 

But she is SO controlled by her hate for Maria that she has taken a "win at any cost" stance.  Enrique is obviously a man who does not make decisions for himself, and allowed Mia to lead him into this battle.

After  the show, Mia may feel like she "won" because so many were mad at Maria (myself included). 

But after the cameras stop rolling and the national glare is off of this situation, her manipulative and bitter approach to this family crisis will probably have severe consequences  - for MIA.  if she and Enrique survive this scandal intact, it will not be because she took the high road...it will simply be luck. 

Had I taken the same approach as Mia with my step children and the ex.......I could not have held my head up and looked myself in the mirror (or gone on national tv).  As many, many times as I wanted to "destroy" the ex....I was able to keep my mouth shut and my heart open....and my step children are happier and healthier because I put their needs before mine.  C'mon Mia.......GROW UP AND THINK OF SOMEONE BESIDES YOURSELF.  that little girl deserves better than this........

I have no respect for any of the people in this mess.

The Bad Parenting Award for 2007 goes to Maria.  Seriously!    Bad bad bad.   Maria, please dont embarrass yourself any further.  Let it go.  You lied.  The gravy train has come to an end.  He doesnt need to pay anymore. 

But not to be upstaged in the bad parenting arena is Enrique!  WOW.  Is this guy for real?  He seems so spineless.  No wonder Maria doesnt have any respect for him.  There he is letting his wife do ALL the talking for him.  How dare you destroy that little girls life! What a vile little man!  He came to see one child and not the other.  Deplorable.   He is almost just as bad as Maria.  If not worse.

 And then there is Mia.  Please shut up and sit down!  This is NOT ABOUT YOU!  Why is she even speaking???  How can this woman live with herself knowing she instigated this atrocity!  That girl lived for more than 10 years with a Dad she loved, and then its all gone!  Im a grown woman and I dont think I have the tools to deal with that.  Imagine what a child must think?!  Mia got the ball rolling.  One must question her motives.  Does she want money, or is this a personal vendetta agains the ex, maybe a ploy to engraciate herself with her husband.  Who knows?  Sends chills down my spine!

I dont know who is worse! I wanted to jump thru the TV and strangle them all.   

One more thing, Mr Smith YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.  You were just asleep at the wheel.  If an ex tells you that she is pregnant and you go ahead and pay child support without the benefit of a DNA testwell, VICTIM is not the right word to describe you.  It is not the laws responsibility to investigate whether or not you have bad taste in women, or whether she is truthful.  That is your responsibility.  You had the right to request a DNA test.  If you didnt, lie in the bed you made. 

To drive a car you need to spend hours at a DMV, read a book, practice and get a license.  Just anyone can have kids! 

Two years ago we found out the almost two year old twin boys we believed to be our sons were infact not.  Our family was crushed, but felt it was best at their young age to end contact and hopfully the mother of the boys would unite them with thier biological father and his family.  That did not happen and the man we suspected to be their father has since died.  We do not know if his parents are aware they may have these grandchildren, but have made a family member aware.  Horrible.  It was horrible.   The only way our son was able to get out from under paying child support for two children for 16 years was  the man she ended up marrying adopted them.  DNA tests should be mandatory.  Our son have no idea there was a possibility they might not be his.  I am thankful they were young enough they will never remember us.  I hope their mother grows up enough to know it is in the boys best interest to not involve them with our family in the future, but I fear that will not be the case.  She still tries to use our sons insurance for them and claims he "gave up his paternal rights", not bothering to add the DNA test proved he had no paternal rights to give up, only legal rights he should have never had in the first place.   To those of you who have never gone thru this, it's like anything else, don't be so quick to pass judgement --- you don't know how you will react.  Not seeing the boys we loved - our first grandchildern - from the moment we knew she was expecting, helped care for, snuggled, sang to, rocked, cried over when they were born 9 weeks early (found out later it was 4 weeks), loved - loved - loved is heartshattering - life changing.  Just two weeks ago we met up with someone who had not heard and asked about them, so we had to explain it agian.   Don't you dare pass judgement on us, pass it on their lying wench of a mother.