Topic : 12/25 Parent Trap

I completely agree with you here.  The sad part to me is that the fathers feel forced to go to the courts and ask to sign off on their legal rights in order to not be punished for x amount of years in paying child support for a child that is simply not theirs.  It is ludacrous that there are no laws to protect the rights of the children AND the innocent fathers.  If there HAS to be a court order in place, it should be for visitation so that the mother cannot use the child as a pawn.

In my case, I know that my ex would have stayed in contact with the daughter he raised as his own.  However, he didn't even make enough money to support himself.  He dropped out of college to marry and support the girl that he "thought" he got pregnant so he was working blue collar jobs.  He also started going back to college, which is extremely costly.  After years of suffering and barely getting by, he should be allowed to move forward with his own life.

The ONLY way possible to get out of the child support was to sign over rights b/c the mother would NOT allow us to see the daughter anymore unless we PAID.  The thing that makes me sick is that EVERY time that child came to us, she had clothes that didn't fit her.  The mother spent every penny on herself and going out partying every night.  I literally got sick when I was giving her a bath one night and she was wearing a size 5 panties...she was ACTUALLY a size 8.  The band was cutting into her skin.

If we could have had the money to hire a top lawyer and fight for full custody, we would have in a heartbeat.  We showed that child more love and support and attention than her own mother did.  She told me all the time that she wished that I was her mother b/c I paid attention to her.  It broke my heart.

People need to understand that it is NOT easy for the father to walk away.  It is absolutely devastating.  My ex became so depressed that he often thought about taking his own life.  His purpose was ripped from him.  He still continues to battle depression.  The mother is the one to blame for everything.  It is a crime and it should NOT pay.

That attorney that was on Dr. Phil made me SICK SICK SICK.  I wanted to just slap her face she was making me so mad.  She has no clue what these fathers go through.  Yes, it is sad for the child, but let's get a legal system that says to a mother: YOU CANNOT DUPE INNOCENT MEN INTO PAYING FOR YOUR CHILDREN OUT OF WEDLOCK!!  Wouldn't that stop the problem?  Then, if a man found out he wasn't the father, he would have the choice to be there emotionally and physically for the child.  How can a man do that if the mother is threatening jail time for nonpayment of child support?  It is absolutely insane that women get away with this and there are no laws protecting the innocent father.

I am so sorry my posts are so long.  It just makes my blood boil and I could go on and on and on....

What would posess Enrique's new wife to interfere in that little girl's life.  Could it be the money that her

new husband was forking over.  i don't condone what the ex-wife did but it was over and done with.  The only one that stood to be devastated was the child.  As a man's new wife, i would have kept my suspicions to myself.  What good could come of it ?  Obviously, none.  The new wife as much as admitted that her husband defers to her so I think she masterminded this to divide his loyalties.  I'd watch out for this wife if i were him--he obviously didn't with the first.  He seems easily led.  I hope only good things for both of his daughters.  Enrique needs to do his own thinking and re-establish a relationship with both of his daughters.

  I ive in the state of oregon and i have posted my story on here twice now.  I have read i say half the posting on here and can say about 9 out of ten say we need laws to protect fathers against paternity fraud.

Myself i am a victim of paternity fraud!  my ex-wife knows the names of the fathers to but do to the legal system she is protected,  The only state that i have found in my research is OHIO.  They just passed a law there is no time limit for a father to petition for DNA and once its proven that he isntthe father.  They release the fahter of all financial responsibilities.

I Think every state should have this law in place!!!!!!

currently in the state of Oregon you have two years from date the child was born.

THe fact is that Men like myself dont find out until they go thru a divorce and the mother lies an get support. Spousal support/child support and deamed so child care which is added on.  You think that once the children reach 18 its over.  NO NO NO  they continue on to college and your still obligated to pay support until they are out which in most cases is at the age of 23.

in today age thye use DNA to get innocent men proven guilty for crimes they didnt commit out of jail.  WHy can't the use DNA to get Father's out of this sentence he didnt commit

FIRM believer if the GEnes dont fit you must acquit

 You could not have said it any better.I was compelled to come to this message board for that exact reason! We have a blended family.I have raised my step daughters for 12 years.Regardless if I was divorced tomorrow.These are my daughters,along w/my bio,they are my FAMILY.My love for them is never changing.I agree w/the financial part BUT truthfully I would help support these children to the day I die.Money is Nothing when it comes to love.

 My heart was crushed for this beautiful child.I felt so much anger for what was done to her.My personal assumption,which could be right or wrong,but I personally BELIEVE new wife had alot to do w/that as well.Remember she quoted how he follows what she SAYS & DEPENDS on that.SO where was she to lead him in the RIGHT direction.To heal his relationship w/Selina & make her feel loved NO MATTER what a piece of paper says.Saddening & shameful....

It is so ridiculous how far we think we've come, when we keep going backwards.  I feel like I should say that I am a woman with these views.

Nowadays, women have so many rights that men can't even fathom.  They have the right to choose: Abstinence, Birth Control, Adoption, Abortion, or they can choose to have the baby. Men have no rights whatsoever.  In cases where they never wanted the child, they are forced to support it.  Of course, this brings up multiple arguments, such as they never should have had sex, etc.  It is all irrelevant to this issue.  Both parties agreed to engage in sexual relations, and only one of them can choose the outcome. It's time for change.  We need a more balanced scale here. 

The fact that a woman can lie to a man for years, look into her daughters eyes KNOWING that the man she calls Daddy isn't really her biological father... It's despicable.  It is the epitome of deceitfulness.  That man has absolutely no financial obligation to pay child support for another man's child.   He be able to make the decision to stay in her life, but he shouldn't feel forced to pay her way.  I do feel that he also should be able to get the mother for fraud, because when everything else is washed away, that is all this is.

Again, it's way past time for some change: more equality, and consequences for the actions of mothers like Maria who make the rest of us women, including upstanding fathers look bad. 

Go back and read ALL my posts on this. I NEVER said that I agree with Maria or what she did to Enrique wasn't terrible. What she did and how she acted on the show was despicable. I still feel that what Enrique did in telling Selina like he did and abandoning her was and still is WRONG. She was a CHILD and he was supposed to be an ADULT. He handled it all wrong. As for all the remorse he has shown well it's just too little and too late. Funny how YOU as a mother choose to ignore Selina's feelings and keep on railing about how unfair it is to Enrique. Lady, life ain't fair. But it's how you choose to handle  the unfairness you have been dealt that shows your true character. We all know how Enrique handled it, don't we?

As for Carnell HE SHOULD have asked for a parternity test as soon as that baby was born. So he had sex with the mother, that didn't make him the father now did it? Why should he have been able to take her word for it? I surely wouldn't take the word of an EX.  Point being, PEOPLE DO LIE.