Quote From: kimbrem My husband responds that I shouldn't be concerned with the reactions of others. I am,mostly because If there is something I am doing, I want to change it. Between us and the responses here, I have come to the conclusion that I may be coming off as arrogant. I've decided to ask a few peers if that is a possibility. If it is, or not, I am definitely going to work on that. I know that things can not be obvious to us. When my glasses prescription was out, some thought I was angry. I didn't realize that the squinting and concentration interpreting things visually was making me appear perturbed.
I agree with you about the differences. I've always assumed that my grades would not affect anyone else's. I have always assumed if they were out of the mainstream, they would be thrown out as an anomaly and not considered on any curve. That's one of the reasons I couldn't be a good teacher or tutor to my fellow students. I sometimes lack insight as to other people's knowledge. I also have difficulties conveying ideas. Sometimes it's impossible, even very frustrating to pull the ideas out of my head and put them into words for others to understand. My husband finds it comical sometimes. It extends to me referring to "thingies" and "you know". He is an excellent teacher, and communicator. It's just one of the differences that leave me in awe of him. I am amazed and often in awe of the gifts other people have. I accept most things about me that are flawed or different as just part of who I am. I would love to be tall, thin, beautiful, red-headed, organized and relaxed. I would love to be able to read electrical schematics, play an instrument, cook well or be able to distinguish easily two feet or two minutes from twenty or two hundred. I would love to have sweet, normal, adoring parents or a sibling who didn't suffer from some kind of severe issues. I am who I am. I admire those things in others, but I accept what I have been given. I admire them so much, I married an opposite. My husband is incredibly talented and gifted. We don't share the same knowledge, hobbies, or gifts. He is the almost utter opposite of me, and his gifts leave me feeling completely inadequate and in awe. We mesh perfectly inspite of and because of our opposites.
I get what you are talking about with your son. I have always had a tendency to get wrapped up in learning things. I sometimes want to explain to my peers that they may have the same knowledge I do if they had read the PDR for the first time at five or six. To explain that reading and acquiring knowledge was my addiction and my way of escaping some things in life. It's one of the reasons I don't feel as "gifted" as some people see me. I know the number of books I have read in my lifetime numbers in the millions. I think it's only logical that my knowledge and abilities should seem out of place for a second or third year student for that reason alone.
Thanks again, it's so helpful and wonderful to be able to see as others. As a person who is deficient in perceiving others perceptions, it's especially helpful and useful and wonderful.
Kim
Kim, when I was in a class with a woman who was raising her 2 sons on her own, I used to hear her excuses on why she didn't do her homework or study for a test. Then 1 day, I asked her if she made her sons do theirs and she said of course, I then asked her why she felt that it was important for them and not her. What was she actually teaching her sons. Her mouth dropped.
Kim, sometimes people attack / say things that are digs because they themselves are not doing their very best and they lash out. Maybe they got into a fight with someone before class, and when you received the well earned pat on the back, they had to lash out.
I pray daily for the patience and understanding to ignore the remarks from people. When it's family, I lash out with a challenge. Like when I'm told that I'M LIKE THIS OR THAT - then I challenge them and say but I've been doing this & this haven't I? So is it true?
But you are learing to interept their behaviors / words - otherwise you wouldn't be posting here -- it's a form of listening / brainstorming. You post, you get responses, you read those responses, you compare them to the events, you write back with your thoughts, and eventually you work thru things. It's why I love posting here when I'm working on something and can't seem to grasp it.
In fact, just by writing you, I clear my internal thinking up or remember a truth that I needed to help me.
I'm glad you were able to get the help you needed - and you can always talk to the instructor about the "CURVE" - I found when I went to college, that most instructors actually didn't have 1. You were graded on the points received. That really surprised folks because we were always told up front that the points from homework, discussion, tests, & quizzes were counted. If the instructor felt we all were doing poorly, they gave us an extra assignment to raise our point average.
Here's a picture I snapped from the highway, this is the big climb hubby and I are taking this weekend. Yes, I finally set the date, sometimes you just have to let go and have a little faith. Each is over 14,000ft high, the trailhead starts just under 10,000ft. The entire hike, round trip going to both summits is about 8 miles, so it's not as far as I first thought. Longstory, sorry I didn't wait, but I felt the time was "right", if you can understand that. There's enough time to plan other hikes this year too, so maybe we can do another later. Thanks for all the support and tips everybody has given me to make it this far, I couldn't have done it without you, and you will all be with me in spirit as I climb.
