Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

The surprise retirement party REALLY was a surprise!!! The gifts were Great.

 

I'm still hearing from people almost daily saying, "I didn't KNOW you were leaving!", wishing me well, while expressing concren about how thing will work if I'm not there. This is all very flattering, but I am wondering how much of this is about saying 'nice' things to someone who is retiring  and how much of this is actually based in reality.

The statements characterizing me as "Leader" and "Captain of the ship" are NEWS to me.

 

Thank You for your support!

 

I too was needing a 'Mental Health' Break!!!

 

 

 

Brenda 

Okay Brenda,

 

1. I take it you are calling them or contacting them - correct or are they contacting you?  No body called me but 1 person when I left.  That's because my broken record was so whinning that even I was tired to talking about it.

 

2. The people are telling you these words are liars and can't be trusted to tell you the truth?

 

I was a leader and trainer for so many people.  It was a mode of operation I worked in without even knowing it.  My AHA moment camed the summer I was a team coordinator for 3 different teams while we were working on developing a Reseach Technical Repository.  It was then I realized how well I could perform and that I was wasting my life energy working for an organization that feared my success.

 

How did you answer those 2 questions.

 

Marcia

Dr. Phil's Self Matters Thursday August 4

 

Look at yourself as someone who is reaching for healing, and at the complexity of what needs to be healed. Do not think that you exist alone without other human beings of equal complexity.

Hey Ritehere....

 

I am back from the hills of North Carolina (elevation a whopping 2500'). I am glad to hear you have chosen the date and are going for it. There are many trails ahead of both of us and I know we will meet on one of them someday. Go strong and keep putting one foot in front of the other. 

 

Om Mani Padme Hum...LS 

 Thanks, that's the "attagirl" I needed!

 I gotta get the book.

I was reading the story about the girl who got robbed and of course, I identified with what she was feeling. I started to feel very stressed reading her story.

I followed the links for the self-matters action plan  and went through the whole exercise. It's so weird, because I realized I have been telling myself that the hyper vigilant stance I have been taking is one I had convinced myself was necessary. In the past, it was. I realized, it's not now. Just the realization brought an instant reduction of stress. Kinda like the whole meditation thing. I almost can't believe that it's really NOT necessary now. I'm going to look at that excercise everyday. I don't know how long it will take to get through permanently, but I am amazed to have realized there is no reason to be so aware and ready for things to happen. There aren't any circumstances in my life right now that is going to predispose me to any sudden act of violence or aggression.

What is so funny is that when I started the excercise, I almost didn't finish it because I "thought" I knew how it was going to end up. I answered yes to the question, Is it really true at first. When I looked at it and thought about my life now, I was kind of amazed that it was ridiculous for me to say yes. It wasn't true, and it was obvious. I never thought I was the type of person to overlook the obvious... Wrong again! Boy, am I ever glad to be wrong!

Dr Phil's tip of the day was nice too. I have started taking stock of those things and I just gotta get the book. It seems so simple, but I guess I haven't really tested the things I have taken for granted since they became a part of me. Circumstances have changed, so should the way I view everything.

Now, I just gotta get that realization to stick. Does this mean my hair may stop graying?

Thanks for letting me ramble,
Kim

I'll be thinking of you too. My best to you and your family this weekend.

 Your eagle inspires me. As I climb the mountainside, with my feet planted firmly on the ground, I will look up and see the hawks, and maybe even an eagle, flying above. I know what it feels like to hear nothing but the wind whistling past your ears, and feel nothing but empty space and limitless possibilities all around you. I hope the frenzy has died down and you have caught your breath. We love to hear from you.

When I first came to this place - almost 3 years ago now - I had a vision that I wanted my life to be like that of the eagle - to fly and soar and be able to ride the winds of life with ease. That was my motivation for chosing the eagle.

 

The work I have done through Self Matters, Life Strategies and other things has given me the tools and outlook to feel as if I am approaching the heights that the eagle can attain.

 

Life seems always busy these days and when I reflect on it I find that it is the work that I have done that has created these opportunities for me to excel.  It is when you open yourself to opportunities that they really present themselves to you.

 

The mountains you are physically climbing are inspiring - one day when I visit the States again I intend to visit The Rockies once more and ascend some of those very peaks - don't know about climbing them on foot or by hand though!!!!!!

Yesterday, I purchased WLS for Teens (written by Jay) because after reading WLS for the 4th or 5th time, I just couldn't master Key 4, Step 2: Urges/Impulses.  The very first Key 4 exercise Jay asked me to do was to answer this question: WHAT AM I DOING WITH FOOD, EATING, DIEITNG, OR WEIGHT THAT I WOULD LOVE TO STOP?  I started on my list and when I got to 4, I went off track and discovered an answer to a problem that I have been having and didn't even realize it.   

  

I worked in the corporate world for years.  I was a team coordinator, a project clerk, personnel clerk, records management assistant, ISO 9000 auditor and Adminstrative Coordinator, etc. etc. etc.  I've even signed up for two classes in August to check out the Technical Writer career because that's what I have been doing for years and years.  

  

So, yesterday in my writing, I acknowledged that the truth is, I want a simple, mindless job.  Today, I put an application in at the neighborhood bakery to be a sales clerk.  There wouldn't be any meetings, or me taking home a briefcase of work cause I didn't have enough time at my 8-9 hour a day job to get it all done.  I want to just come home and have a life.  I want to be a home maker. 

  

I'm 52 years old and I just want to be a home maker.  I want to keep my home neat, I want to have time to sew, to practice my dance routine, and most importantly have the energy to be a part of my family's life. 

  

It's like a door has opened for me.  And it might be what's been keeping me from finally moving forward because I've not faced this decision in the past - but kept saying that just wait until September and then I'll decide.  Well, I've decided and this is my goal.  I'm not sure if this is my life goal, but after 30+ years of working in the corporate world, I just don't want to return to it. 

  

Marcia