Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

I've trained myself to new behaviors/thoughts just by posting a post-it note on my bathroom mirror so I read it 2x a day (when I brush my teeth) and throughout the day when I wash my hands.   

  

Self-honesty is about truth.  You always know when you lie - you become conflict. 

  

However, with yourself - that's a hard one.  For me it came when I did the list of values in Self Matters.  Do the exercise again.   

  

Look over the 1st list and highlight everything you wish you were.   

  

Then come back and tell us what you felt, what happened...  what were your experiences. 

  

Then I'll give you a 2nd step. 

Thanks. 

  

Just a comment...That sounded really smart. (no sarcasm) 

Hi Marcia! 

I'm not sure if you remember me??? 

My name's Tiff.  

I was in here just browsing around and saw you were here. I thought that I'd wish you a Merry Christmas! Also, did you know that it's Melissa's birthday today? (on the true friends board?) Do you know Melissa?? Well, anyway, just in-case you did. I haven't seen you for a bit. Do you like to brows too? I mainly stay on the true friends board, but I do mingle from time to time. 

Well, anyway, 

Have a happy holiday! 

Tiff 

Season Greeting everyone!  

I'm new to this board, but just thought I'd wish everyone a happy holiday weekend! 

~~~~smiles!~~~~ 

Tiff 

Hey You know what song I really like that brings hope and sometimes even realization of how near sighted we are, but in the end all is good. The song Seasons of Love by the cast of RENT. Its something that can lift you up. It tells you how precious each moment is and life is too short to dwell on the past or let fear control us. How do you measure one's life? How many days or mintues? Or how much he/she has accomplsihed? The way that they died? Measure his/her life in Love! 

  

Merry Christmas everybody!! 

  

Jenny 

hmmm   Wow to be born the day before x-mas ... how neat ... presents 2 days in a row ... that's really neat. 

  

I'm not sure I do remember you ...  Tiff, however, that's okay.  I might have meet you when I was still living in that crazy abusive pattern cycle for ... hell since I was 8 years old.  I'm not living it now.   

  

I am mainly look at 2 different boards ...  DEBT and this one.   I did do a diary back in September to help me focus on answering WHERE AM I?  It was my "planned" method for remembering and it worked!!   

  

And I hope you are enjoying your holidays! 

Cause I have to learn differently so I can remember ....  I wrote something like that from SELF MATTERS, pg 25, starting at the 3rd line from the bottom: 

  

Whether all of this takes a week, a month, or a year, that precious and limited time is going to pass whether my are doing something about your life or not.  I (Dr. Phil) promise me at this precise moment next year, my life will be better or worse than it is right now. 

 

It will not be the same -- the choice to improve it or let it decay is wholly and undeniablty mine. 

 

This was one of my very first post-it notew I put on my wall with my candle.  I read it every morning when I lit my candle, when I blew it out (I never left it burning when I wasn't there), and whenever I walked by candle / altar. 

  

Thank you 

Anyway possible of sending your cookies thru the internet. 

  

Rog 

I really wished I could.  I believe we were the only ones in about 3-4 families that actually make cookes ... it was really sad.  It's what I was telling sister/friend.  We both are creating a new tradition ... now I want to bring in 2 nieces and a sister.  Wouldn't that be neat!!!

Wow, goals do work ... and the weirdest thing is that I started teaching myself to do goal work that was simple for me to remember and I am doing it.  And when I started goal work in Aug. 2004, I didn’t think January 1st of any year was going to be where I actually practice my very first WRITTEN DOWN goal for 1 year practice.  However, it is!!  It’s just so way strange ...

  

 

For the last few years I’ve wanted to make xmas cookies.  I wanted to discover what it was like to bake with a friend or two. This year, I got my present and it was the greatest!  My sister / friend & I got into some really nasty yelling matches.  She & I battled and I came out with some wonderful GROWING UP.  I told her I was really tired, I was exhausted ...  making cookies was horrible!  Imagine the very worse!!!  Someone who couldn’t sit down and plan even what type of cookies she was going to make until December.  Then couldn’t even remember what it took cause it had been so long.  REMEMBERING is what’s its all about.  I got plans in place for next year!  Best of all, we changed our relationship completely and she’s going to make cookies as I plan it.  Like we didn’t even sit down and figure out who we were making cookies for – she had been sick for 2-3 weeks in her holiday blues ...

  

 

Every time I felt sad ... unhappy ... hearing my nasty tapes being set off ... I apologized and we fought ... some more later.  Together we spent 2 afternoons just shopping for supplies and I wouldn’t go on the 3rd afternoon. However, I learned all sorts of neat stuff ...

  

 

My goal for next year:  learn to make cookies on my own and see how it goes next year.  Determine if this goal is something that makes me feel good or something I just want to do only once to see if I like it or not to continue to do it for the rest of my life – which could be another 40 years.  Hmmmm

  

 

Goal for 2007:  Xmas “cookie” day ... bring the women together ... maybe have a family baking day with 1-2 people in my family. 

  

 

(I already got THANKSGIVING notes and now COOKIES/XMAS by creating a plan for next year.  It’s ready to go in my goal notebook.  I still have 1 more holiday to go yet!  Then it’s EASTER and I can see how COMFORTABLE I AM with the idea of 40 years.)