Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

The story is working out a few things, which is helpful.  So far, so good, on that front.

I'll definitely be picking up the book again.  We'll see how that goes.

I've noticed what a group of commited you all are.

This is supposed (horologically) supposed to be a good year for commitment.  I think this means that the commitment is blessed.  (i'm guessing that one)

I'm glad you've changed Marcia, your not the only one.  I've found my organising and self-worth (in what I keep) has vastly improved.  Good luck in your endeavours, Marcia.

Good luck, Linda.  One day you'll come to Australia one day and I can only say that if you're going to, put your e-mail on line (if you can do such a thing). 

As never know when someone might turn up in the same place on the same day.  It happens!  (i've got a bit curious about the differences between the on-line personality and the real person, so I thought I'd at least attempt to find out what that is)

Be back in a week.

Good luck

Belinda

PS. My psychological advice for the week is never be afraid.  Especially if you intend to change and move.  As then at least, you've changed enough, never to return.  (I hope to do this also on line, show changes that people will remember)

Marcia, their will always be "stuff" to work with  for all of us, And we have to work with this along on the side of moving on and living our lives.

I so the movie "In her shoes" which gave a lightbulb-moment that even if I were and is not responsible for the harsh circumstances that have been and is in my life; I can stop beeing a victim and be responsible for my own growth/development. I have often made excuses for myself (my dad and mother has tought me this well) as an excuse not to move on in my devlopment so I can be a victim. It has been so much more safer and comfortable to put the responsibility on someone else. I SEE THIS IN some of the patients in the psychiatry care.

Thanks Marcia, for inspiring me to star a time-schedule to organize my life. I've been drawn to the tv to much and got stuck there all evenings. Now I've started to organize my life-patterns so I can be more effective and get to where I want to be. THANK YOU!

It's great that you write down goals. I am working on my goals.

You have a good week off ... and yes, facing your fears is the key to this healing process. It brings up the pain and feelings of OH NO!  yet, when you face them and step thru them, it takes you to a place of calm ... and as you continue to face them, they slowly recede and you no longer have the same fears .. just new ones that resurface until you are ready to deal with them.

My mom used it as a babysitter for us when we were growing up.  We actually had a TV room!

My current note on my bathroom mirror says to do something different when my shows aren't on.  I used to have cable -- paid $100 a month for it .. then the box broke right after I read 1-2 articles about how TV Addiction was hurting me ... I took it as a sign and a month later cancelled it.  I've been with it since 2004.  I'm doing so much better!  I'm down to a couple of shows and I'm working on doing while the TV set is still on ... my goal is to one day just turn it off and just be with me.  And even with my show still on, I'm sewing inbetween commericals.

Goals was hard for me ... I had to learn to adapt them and then use them to help me SEE how far I've come along ... my TIME LOOPs are complete that way ... whatever I was experiencing when I last experience the TRIGGER returns full force. And with my new understanding about DOPALIME and habits, I now understand how easy it is to lose all the good work I've done for me.  (got it from an Oprah article in her magazine) ...  I wrote some stuff down and I'm using it to help me work thru my how I can stop me.   And I'm using it to help me to build up new pathways.

Anyway, for goals for each of your major life patterns right now, just figure out what's important and from my personal experience, you need to just focus on 3 and allow the others to sit.  It will be hard because you are so focus on whatever is HAPPENING at the moment. 

I still haven't picked any top 3 goals right now.  but then again, I've returned to exercise (1st week), I'm focusing on rturning to eating 3 meals, 2 snacks a day; and I'm still working on finishing up the xmas presents -- that's allowing me to work thru all sorts of PUSH PUSH thinking and it's working.  Next year, it will be different and I'll be at a whole new place -- a safe place; however, a much better place.

We're finally getting my partner moved into her new room.Ever since we've been together, almost 8 years now, she's had the smallest bedroom in the house, and we're finally getting her into a decent-sized room of her own.  Now that all my kids are upstairs, the downstairs belongs to us.

I'm almost finished with sorting through the outbuildings for garage sale stuff, and we're setting a tentative approximate date for somewhere around the middle of March for the sale.  As soon as we get my partner moved, I'll have to start painting the dining room and living room, but I hope to find time to finish the last few boxes of sorting and get it over with.  If I take frequent breaks during the day, the aches and pains let up a bit; and I'm taking something my mother suggested for the joint problems and it seems to be helping.  Little things are popping up, emotionally, but I've been able to find ways to handle them, which is good.

I'm still job-hunting.  But those things can take time, I know.  I'll put in more applications next week.  This weekend is reserved for heavy lifting.  :-)

Valoren