Quote From: taemanaishow that the sexually abused are often morbidly obese or neglected in their home-life. Though I don't fit in this category as such. I think that family-members may have & this created a tight-kit family against such things, even though it was never openly mentioned. And again, this may be one of the reasons it happens in religious organisations. People who fit in the neglected group seek a better way, but not all can achieve this.
That sometimes, it is an unrealistic goal to have. And one has to see what is uncommon really very common in all areas of the community. ie. There is pedaphiles in all parts of the community. It's just that the tight-knit communities that would normally protect their young, sometimes couldn't. ie. Aborigines. And it was a slide downwards.
Cotton-woolling children is not a good idea as often pedaphiles aspire to do better, to have a better more stable life, and hopefully not follow past abuse but it happens.
I wonder if in the community, one should check the background of teachers etc., especially women, as abuse can be expressed in other ways, patterns children can learn. Or, one should be teaching people not to teach their bad habits.
It is excellent that in Australia, they are taking away the changing schools system because then any problems will be more noticeable. They also are rewarding more trained staff. Again, this is excellent because more training = more ability to recognise & handle problems.
Australia should not be a fair maiden to be exploited, or an Aussie bull-dog (bronzed aussie) but a community that takes responsibility & acts on it.
I'm going to be honest here. I'm more afraid of older children abusing younger children. I've worked in the childcare industry for only four years, and I've already seen some pretty inappropriate things. The first week I worked in a daycare, we had to discharge a 3 year-old boy for trying to touch another 3 year-old girl inappropriately. He was a very sexual child. We never suspected sexual abuse, simply because the managment knew this couple. They were very liberal parents. The kids slept in the same bed still, and they certainly didn't mind expressing their love infront of the kids.
My daughter still sleeps in our bedroom. She's going on 5. Clearly, I am on the co-habitat side of the debate. The only difference is, she has her own bed, and we have another bedroom for private things. We would never do anything sexual in front of her, even if she was asleep. I mean, what if she woke up?
McDonalds play tunnels are a nightmare for me. On two seperate occassions, I've caught 2 older boys trying to touch, or corner my daughter. I wrote McDonalds corp. and requested that cameras be placed in the tunnels. I actually screamed at one of the boys. I was upset....I was very upset. I noticed that he was cornering my daughter. He was very possessive over her, and didn't want her playing with the other children. I caught him looking to see if I was watching, so he could touch her. I totally lost it when I saw him grab her arm and try to drag her into the tunnels. I looked right at his grandmother and said, "My daughter doesn't like to be touched like that! That is inapproapriate!" He wouldn't let go of my daughter, so I looked at him, (since his Grandmother did nothing), and said, LET GO OF HER! NOW!" He stood by our table while I cleaned up. He didn't apologize. He didn't say a word to me. He just stared at my daughter. He would whisper to her, "Come with me. Come into the tunnel with me. Play with me." I knelt down and looked into his eyes and whispered, "No, she won't go with you. You shouldn't do that to little girls." He knew what I meant. He was embarrassed. His face turned red, and he walked away to find another little girl, I suppose. I doubt that one conversation changed his ways. Of course, his grandmother was staring out into space. She could care less.
