Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

Don't you love it when a book can do that? :) I will look them up. Thanks. I do go to counseling and my new therapist is wonderful. Very clear and tough. I need that. lol I also have guilt, we all do to some extent, but it is a useless emotion if we don't change the things that have created it. Sometimes it means getting rough with people and being clear about boundaries. To me guilt is a motivator to do something different, and love is the lesson. :)

I agree that the authentic self was always there. I am finally feeling like I am coming home!

Onwards and upwards?

Absolutely!!

I am now reading the book Self Matters with great interest. Finally I found someone who can evaluate and present in a simple and straight forward manner all the information on self-emprovement and  take control of our lives techniques and methods.

However I had difficulty with the last few paragraphs in the section on the 5 pivital people. Why am I being asked to list myself as the number 1 pivital person on the list? That is taken for granted and implicit in all of Dr. Phil instructions in identifying the pivitol persons.

He goes to great length in the first part of the book to convince me to recognize myself as the most important person in my life. I agree that I am so it goes without saying that I am number 1.

I would have felt more comfortable if those last few paragraphs where phased in a slightly different manner. I prefer to feel that Dr. Phil was asking me to identify the 5 "other" pivitol persons in my life.

No big deal really but I chose my words carefully. I feel that the the manner in which the last few paragraphs were expressed could have been phrased better.

Anyway, I appreciate being able to express my opinions but I recognize that doing so is more for my own benefit than for the benefit of others.

Lastly, I admire and respect  Dr. Phil, his wife Robin, his family and  all the staff members connected to his organization. It's about time that we had a no-nonsense, tell it like it is, don't try to BS me professional on TV.

Richard

This book was wonderful. I wish I had read it 20 years ago! I came from a very screwed up family and they constantly sabatoged my life and relatonships. I eventually had a nervous breakdown.

That is when I started focusing on me. I am 49 and my heart just gave out on the operating table so now I have a new pacemaker/defibrulator. I know my poop health was due to stress.

I have to focus on myself now or die. That is my only choice.

I had to battle pain and violence and accusations for 20 years. I am on my third husband. A good one, and a kind one! Kindness ranks above all else with me. Not money or status or great ex. Just kindness.

Dr. Phil.  I haven't sent a message on this board for a couple of years now.  Since haven first read, Self Matters, for which I've re-read several times, I've been out lving my life and not sitting on the sidelines as I was beforehand.  I now realize that everything that I experienced before was destined to be.  I spent so many years sleep walking til I read, Self Matters.  I spent three weeks writting down all of my thoughts and I was amazed at what I thought of myself.  Instead of focusing on what was important to me, I was trying to please others.  I've been so busy in the last 7 years trying out new things and exploring new options in my life.  Many ventures failed but others flourished.  Relationships started and ended but it's what they made of me that enriched my life.  I possess an inner strength that I've never known in my younger years.  I'll be 44 next month, yet I feel like I'm 22.  I have clear thoughts and my body feels like that of a 24 year old.  I no longer drink coffee nor do I drink alcohol anymore, not that I drank much of it.  I've detoxcified my body and my mind.  I'm consumed with the thoughts of abundance whether than those of scarcity.  I've read all of your books and I thank God for giving you the gift of helping others.  Your books opened my mind to then get to know others such as Eckhart Tolle, Anthony Robbins, Dr Wayne Dyer, Caroline Myss, Dr Deepak Chopra, and the list goes on and on. 

God bless you and your organization.

Namaste......Daniel

I have been missing you and Linda SO-O-O-O badly!

I have a suggestion about posting on the new board. When you get to the list of message board topics on the new board (i.e. Self Matters, Talk About The Show, Weight, Teen Talk etc...) There is a 'Speak Your Mind' link there and when you click on that there is a 'Help' section just for the new board! Check it out!!! You can leave a message for one of the moderators about your problem!

Brenda :-)