Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

information coming out at the moment.

 

Many different things to help - from parenting assistance, fish-oil, a machine that moves a person around & so somehow changing balance or something, plus the ideas that most grow out of it, whether on medication or not.  Hormones can also play a role - so it doesn't hurt to have a male role-model around.

 

It's worth looking at some of the on-line stuff. 

 

 

I too have been diagnosed with ADD .. it's a strange way to live because we don't naturally fit in the world around us ... and that's okay with me.  My loved ones and friends just like who I am.

I'm glad you finally stop being superwoman and got help for everyone ... and now that your daughter is out of the house .. chaos will settle down to liveable. Good going on getting your hubby's meds taken care of ... many times if they're too strong, the user can't tell .. but family & friends can.

Hope you can continue to post and let us know about your progress.

There seems to be no end to my negative thoughts about myself.  I am constantly going over and over conversations I've had with people that I come away from thinking that I said the wrong thing or they must think I'm stupid. I've had people put me down all of my life and now it is starting to affect my marriage.  I'm always asking my husband if he's having an affair or if he still loves me or does he still think I'm attractive (7 years and a baby later) I don't know how to stop and just accept that he loves me and I deserve to be loved.  I miss my confidence that I had when I was single. I do not have intrests or many friends that I still talk to. everything I start, I quit. If there is any advice out there, I'm all ears.

Welcome to the board,

 

If you don't mind me asking:

 

How old is baby? and also... How long have you felt this way?

 

Sometimes the ups and downs of life can make things seem very hard and lonely, some are harder to deal with than others...  You are not alone even though you feel that way. There are many sources of help.  I hope you stay to talk this through here.  This is a good place to sort out you thoughts and feelings.

 

Mary DownUnder

Back in 2003, I realized that I was really doubting everything about me ... my work, relationships, me!

When I picked up SELF MATTERS I was able to learn cognitive therapy and begin the healing process. It's a wonderful tool to teach you how to listen to what you are saying and challenge yourself.  I highly recommend it.  If you are in therapy, you can ask them to teach you it.  It's not hard.

Hi Guys;

I have been struggling with something for a few weeks now and dont know what to do.

I thought maybe I could get some outside unbiased opinions. Sorry; if it doesnt belong here

but I dont know where else to ask this.

I have been hurt and betrayed by a very dear guy friend whom I have known and trusted for

a few years. I found out through various sources about who he really is and not the person

he portrayed to me. He doesnt know that I know about his true self.He is two faced and a phony

and he hid it really well.

Should I confront him and tell him i know all about him or should I just let it go?

 

You don't have to confront him but when he comes to you with something let him know he needs to find another person to lie to because you are on to him and excuse yourself. 

 

If you find 5 friends throughout your life you can trust you've done well.  You don't need people like this around you and of course he will act suprised and not know what you are talking about.  Whoever told you things are just not true.      PLEASE..............................................

what you say makes sense and I am hoping for that opportunity but I might not get it.

He is a coward and most likely will never get in touch with me again since last time we did speak

I told him that I cant relate to unhealthy unstable people anymore and that was it.I didnt tell him he is a liar which I will do next time.

I am frustrated because I really didnt get the chance to really say what I wanted.

anyway;

There might be one thing he contacts me about and that will be my chance to tell him he is a liar.

he will do it on email and not call because he hates upfront confrontation.

You are right though. I will wait for the right opportunity. It will come.

Thank you

 

Hello to everyone on the Messageboards, and to everyone on the Dr Phil Show.

I just want to tell you a little bit about myself, and my journey to find my authentic self.

My name is Kristen Jugueta, I am a 27 year old woman, and I live in Mornington, Australia. Just over twelve months ago, I started on my journey to finding my authentic self. This required me to be honest with myself, take responsibility for my life so far, and figure out what had gotten me to the point that I was with my life at the time.I wanted to figure out what would make me happy, and work out what I want ed to do with my life. I wanted to enjoy my life. I wanted to make a significant contribution to people around the world. I wanted to be remembered for doing something positive, and be a positive role model for other people. I wanted more for myself than working a 9-5 job for the next 50 years, and just being remembered for working hard (not that there's anything wrong with that.) The thought of having to live my life like that would make me depressed.

Prior to the last twelve months, I felt isolated and alone and I had no friends or a partner. I had a fish odour (now I can control it) and suffered from Social Anxiety Disorder. Other people didn't want to be around me because of my odour, and working with, being around and doing things with/in front of other people became a debilitating fear for me. The doctors couldn't help me, soI had to live with the odour. I didn't think that I could do anything about it.I had no goals or plans, and I got to the point where I wanted to commit suicide because I couldn't handle how things were going in my life, or put up with other people's comments anymore. One day I made a decision to work out on my own what was causing my odour. I was tired of living like this. It was stopping me from doing so many things that I wanted to do.

I did my own research, both online and in textbooks, and started a process of elimination to try and get rid of my odour. I finally worked out what caused my fish odour, and now I just have to take alfalfa tablets, and reduce foods in my diet that trigger off my odour. I was then able to help my mother and aunt to control their odour problem as well.

Working this out then enabled me to work on my Social Anxiety. I now have a wonderful, supportive partner that I met online. I never thought that any man would possibly love me. It is my first serious relationship, and we have been together for about 10 months now.

After high school finished for me in 1999, I continued singing and practising, but I would only sing at home, because of all the difficulties that I was having in my life at the time.

I have only just started singing again in 2008. I have been able to work on overcoming my Social Anxiety, with some success. I have had some singing lessons, and I am now in a choir. I love singing in the choir, and I would like to become a professional singer. When I wake up in the morning, all I want to do is sing. I couldn’t imagine doing anything else. I want to be able to sing whatever style of music that I like, and not stick to one particular style, even though that may be frowned upon. I know that I could sing and perform many different styles of music, and sing them well with more practice. I’m getting better every day.

I have written my blog. It is on my website http://www.kristenjugueta.com. It is about me, and what has happened/is happening in my life. I was only going to write all of my history, symptoms and diet so that it would help others with body odour and halitosis,but once I got started, I couldn't stop. I started writing about my whole life as well. I found that it was very therapeutic to write about my life, and share it with others.

I have posted my video clips on Youtube, which can be accessed on my blog if any of you get a chance to read it. I hope you like them. You can also view them on Youtube. My username is kjugueta. Any feedback or contructive criticism would be appreciated. It will help me grow as a performer. I know I have a long way to go, but I’ll get there.

I also want to do the Bachelor of Science or the Bachelor of Biomedicine, if I can get into either one of them. I want to major in Genetics, and become a Medical Scientist. I want to be a part of any current research and do further research on the FMO genes (Liver). I want to work on getting my own diagnosis for Trimethylaminuria - Fish Odour Syndrome (FMO3 gene), and find out why I am also very sensitive to drugs, pesticides and industrial chemicals, which might be related to the fault in the FMO3 gene. I’m then going to use this knowledge to help other people who suffer from Body Odour and Halitosis, and offer support. All I know so far is that the fish odour I have is genetic, because my mother and aunt have it as well.

I now have plans, and goals for the future. I am the happiest that I have ever been, and I hope it continues. I hope that all of you can find your authentic self, and do what makes you happy. Life is short, so make the most of it.

Kristen.