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November 14, 2005, 3:05 pm PST

What do you do for the holidays?

I always looked forward to the holidays when I was a kid. There was Thanksgiving with all the relatives at my Mom's house. There was always lots of food and laughter and just plain fun. Christmas was always a time of decorations and caroling and presents and again time with relatives. Each one would come by the house and spend some time with all the rest. All of them are gone now and for the last few years I have just spent the holidays alone. I am not sad or depressed about it. I just need to find some balance between the past and the present. 

  

How do you celebrate the holidays? Do you have traditions that you follow? Do you look for something different each year? What makes it special for you? 

  

I always look forward to Dr. Phil's holiday specials. It has been my holiday for the last few years. In some way it reminds me of the coming together of all the people when I was a kid.  

  

Om Mani Padme Hum...LS  
 
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November 14, 2005, 3:53 pm PST

Looking for help

This seemed like the best message board to come to for help. I'm 19 and I am going to college. Most of my life I hid in a corner and remained quiet. Now it's gotten to the point where I'm sick of being the passive-aggressive 'shy-girl'. How do I change this?
 
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November 14, 2005, 3:59 pm PST

Defining Your Authentic Self

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I always looked forward to the holidays when I was a kid. There was Thanksgiving with all the relatives at my Mom's house. There was always lots of food and laughter and just plain fun. Christmas was always a time of decorations and caroling and presents and again time with relatives. Each one would come by the house and spend some time with all the rest. All of them are gone now and for the last few years I have just spent the holidays alone. I am not sad or depressed about it. I just need to find some balance between the past and the present. 

  

How do you celebrate the holidays? Do you have traditions that you follow? Do you look for something different each year? What makes it special for you? 

  

I always look forward to Dr. Phil's holiday specials. It has been my holiday for the last few years. In some way it reminds me of the coming together of all the people when I was a kid.  

  

Om Mani Padme Hum...LS  

maybe you could try to recreate some of those memories with kids of your own or spend it at one of those kitchens for the homeless or something like that where you can be with a lot of people and share your memories of joy.
 
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November 14, 2005, 4:00 pm PST

Welcome back Longstory,

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I always looked forward to the holidays when I was a kid. There was Thanksgiving with all the relatives at my Mom's house. There was always lots of food and laughter and just plain fun. Christmas was always a time of decorations and caroling and presents and again time with relatives. Each one would come by the house and spend some time with all the rest. All of them are gone now and for the last few years I have just spent the holidays alone. I am not sad or depressed about it. I just need to find some balance between the past and the present. 

  

How do you celebrate the holidays? Do you have traditions that you follow? Do you look for something different each year? What makes it special for you? 

  

I always look forward to Dr. Phil's holiday specials. It has been my holiday for the last few years. In some way it reminds me of the coming together of all the people when I was a kid.  

  

Om Mani Padme Hum...LS  

 I'm very fortunate to have many sisters and brothers. They, and my parents, are all still here, something I'm deeply thankful for. We try to get together whenever we can, even though we are scattered from the very northern-most to the southern reaches of the great plains. Last year I hosted Christmas at my house, with 10 guests staying over and 4 more dropping in all day. With us it was 18 people for Christmas dinner. I loved every minute of it. We played games and laughed and joked non-stop.

This year I'm having Thanksgiving here, but it will just be me and hubby, our kids, their kids, and possible my son-in-law's mother. Last year we had Thanksgiving at my hubby's sister's and her family. We all tend to trade off and travel to each other's.

One tradition that I've always wanted to start is going to the Parade of LIghts in Denver, but seem to always be busy at that time. There are school programs and the employees parties to go to.
 
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November 15, 2005, 6:15 am PST

There are little things...

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maybe you could try to recreate some of those memories with kids of your own or spend it at one of those kitchens for the homeless or something like that where you can be with a lot of people and share your memories of joy.

There are little things that I do each year and you struck on one of them. I always volunteer at the local soup kitchen on Thanksgiving and at Christmas I volunteer at the local senior delivery center making food baskets for shut in seniors. It does re-create a sense of the holidays that I had as a kid. I have no children of my own to start new traditions with. Just something that the life I chose didn't have room for. There were times when I was overseas at the holidays and enjoyed seeing the different traditions in other countries. I brought back some things to remind me of other traditions and try and set them out each year. I guess what I miss most is the family and having the relatives around.  

  

Thank-you. 

  

Om Mani Padme Hum...LS   
 
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November 15, 2005, 6:35 am PST

You made me smile....

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 I'm very fortunate to have many sisters and brothers. They, and my parents, are all still here, something I'm deeply thankful for. We try to get together whenever we can, even though we are scattered from the very northern-most to the southern reaches of the great plains. Last year I hosted Christmas at my house, with 10 guests staying over and 4 more dropping in all day. With us it was 18 people for Christmas dinner. I loved every minute of it. We played games and laughed and joked non-stop.

This year I'm having Thanksgiving here, but it will just be me and hubby, our kids, their kids, and possible my son-in-law's mother. Last year we had Thanksgiving at my hubby's sister's and her family. We all tend to trade off and travel to each other's.

One tradition that I've always wanted to start is going to the Parade of LIghts in Denver, but seem to always be busy at that time. There are school programs and the employees parties to go to.

I could just feel the excitement in your reply. I don't know what I will do this year but, there is talk of going to Arches National Park for Thanksgiving. Might be some good pictures if there is snow on them. I am putting together calendars for Christmas gifts with my photos. Maybe that could be my tradition...making calendars from the photos I shot all year on my travels. 

  

Thank-you 

  

Om Mani Padme Hum...LS 
 
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November 15, 2005, 10:15 am PST

I want one!

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I could just feel the excitement in your reply. I don't know what I will do this year but, there is talk of going to Arches National Park for Thanksgiving. Might be some good pictures if there is snow on them. I am putting together calendars for Christmas gifts with my photos. Maybe that could be my tradition...making calendars from the photos I shot all year on my travels. 

  

Thank-you 

  

Om Mani Padme Hum...LS 

 Send me an order form. I would love to have one.

BTW, I love your icon of the the "Mitt".
 
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November 15, 2005, 10:22 am PST

I used to be "shy"...

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This seemed like the best message board to come to for help. I'm 19 and I am going to college. Most of my life I hid in a corner and remained quiet. Now it's gotten to the point where I'm sick of being the passive-aggressive 'shy-girl'. How do I change this?
However, I bombed out when I tried to answer that same question for Feng. All I can say is it's a mind-set that is tough to get out of. Mine was an interpretation by others from what they saw, it was not the real me. However, when I accepted the judgement of others, it became the way I described myself for years, so therefore, I became shy. Sounds complicated doesn't it? Sometimes we make things complicated for ourselves. I used SELF MATTERS to find the real me under all of the labels and faulty self talk, maybe it could help you too?
 
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November 15, 2005, 12:27 pm PST

Authentic self

 I am 35 married for the 2nd time, due to both of our idenities stuck in our past experience we struggle with Being our Authentic self. I am not even sure we even know who we are outside of our past hurts. I see a glimpse of who I think or maybe want to be, but I am afraid of it being taken avantage of or even stepped on. What do I do with all that?
 
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November 15, 2005, 1:35 pm PST

Defining Your Authentic Self

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However, I bombed out when I tried to answer that same question for Feng. All I can say is it's a mind-set that is tough to get out of. Mine was an interpretation by others from what they saw, it was not the real me. However, when I accepted the judgement of others, it became the way I described myself for years, so therefore, I became shy. Sounds complicated doesn't it? Sometimes we make things complicated for ourselves. I used SELF MATTERS to find the real me under all of the labels and faulty self talk, maybe it could help you too?
I'll try it. Thanks!
 
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