Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

No, I didn't write or mean the same thing as you. And I wrote that you haven't understood it yet. Maybe you could read "Selfmatters" from Dr Phil or "Seat of the soul" by Gary Zukav to understand what I mean. 

I'm not here to put you down, I want to guide people to a "better place" for them. 

All the best. 

Feliss 

To add one more thing. what is your reason for writing this "message" on this board? Do you want to hear other peoples opinion's, or do you want to tell people that you are right, or what is your reason. 

How well do you understand your on feelings and how  well do you understand yourself? 

Many of us on this board are trying to work on ourselves, and to get to know ourselves better. 

As I written before, most of us is writing to this board to get support and different opinions so we can develop and get to understand ourselves and the world better. 

I wish you good luck. 

Feliss 

Hello everybody, 

I just would like to wish you all a very merry christmas, and that you are treating yourself good and with respect. Stand up for your core values with respect towards the people around you. And most important enjoy yourselfs. 

Take care, see you after christmas! 

Feliss 

Brenda, 

You are in my thoughts big time!  My wish for you is to be able to keep these goals you have set for yourself, such as walking the beach, being more active, and talking to your father about "feelings."  There is probably nothing wrong with saying something such as "Why do you walk away when we talk about feelings?"  Do it in a room with only one door out and you are in front of that door.  Put him in a position where he will want to answer and maybe you can help him unlock something.  Who knows... 

I am hugging you from here, Brenda.  Good luck! 

Teri 

It is good to realize that if love and peace can prevail on earth, and if we can teach our children to honor nature's gifts, the joys and beauties of the outdoors will be here forever."
-Jimmy Carter  

Taemanai, 

You made a comment that sparked some thought in me.  Why do I love the outdoors?  What is it about the outdoors that becomes so inviting, especially in cold weather, snow and such?   

My thoughts bring me to say this...for my whole life there has been a desire for me to see or be somewhere no other human has.  I like to look around me and see and hear no sign of man.  No power poles, no airplanes, no roads.  There is some peace  and solace in feeling as if Mother Earth is cradling me, holding me close.  The air is clean here, the sky is blue, not brown.  I hear the river flowing at night as I sleep, and it is the sweetest lullaby.   

Yes, the cold does bring out something warm in me.  I have pretty much always been a winter person.  I was born in winter, which I believe has something to do with it.  Priorities do become different.   

An observation I made when my boyfriend/mate and I went winter camping one year is every move counts.  Everything you do in the snow and cold must lend towards your survival.  If it does not, one could make a grave mistake and actually die out there.  It happens.  So, we had snowshoed up a hill, pulling our gear on a sled.  We had to get the fire going right away, gathering firewood.  Everything was work towards not only our comfort, but our lessening our exposure.   We smash down the snow so we have a flat surface to put the tent.  We make sure we are oriented.  Each of our movements are deliberate as we cannot afford to be injured out there.  An injury means only one of us leaves to get help.   

The picture I am trying to paint here is one of awareness.  The outdoors become a whole new place for survival, yet there is a peace one does not find in a city.  The urban wilderness is a dangerous one and I have yet to see one that is conducive to relaxation.  Maybe that is why the suburbs came to be...a melding of the two.   

Ah...Christmas sneaks upon us...the holiday breaks.  Sigh...I will be glad when things get a little back to normal.   

Warm smiles to you...as well as warm thoughts. 

Teri 

Dawn, 

You will get some of your memories back, in time.  One thing I have learned is we do block things, yet as we become ready, they do unblock.   

I had blocked much of my teen years for a long time.  As I worked on me many of those memories came flooding back, often in dreams.  Once I had dreamed them, or of them, the memories were available to me.   

It is like anything we have experienced.  We don't ever really forget anything unless there is brain damage.  What happens is we stop recalling it.  It is in your mind, you just need to unlock it.  Start writing.  Write what you do remember, and be patient with yourself in the process.  When it is time, you will recall even more details.  The idea of the exercises is to get you to change the way you are approaching yourself by applying old experiences to devalue yourself.  You don't need details to do this...yet they sure can be helpful.   

Relax, allow yourself to experience this process, and don't get hung up...just ask Marcia!  She has shared her experience with us here and I am one person who listened and did not get hung up...which has allowed me to continue to grow instead of still working on chapter 4. 

Teri