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Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 11:20:02 am
Author : dataimport
Have you read "Self Matters" or become familiar with the process of uncovering your authentic self from watching the show? Share your story here.

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August 12, 2005, 9:47 pm CDT

CBS???

Quote From: hitechgirl

Howdy Dr. Phil, 

  

I just wanted to say that you are really helping me and I am so glad I finally started REALLY LISTENING to what you are saying.  I have used all your shows and all your guests to figure things out about my behavior and misconduct.  It seemed like I could relate to all of your guests on all over your shows,,,in different ways.  I would use all the information you would share with each guest and digest it as if you were saying it to me.  Even this OCD show i can learn from. 

  

I just checked out your book Life Strategies at the library b/c I realize that I really can change my "patterns of behavior" to really improve myself and the lives around me.  I am a LONG WAY off,,,but the insight you have given me through your simple explanations,,,will and can change my life.  I think i was already on to your way of thinking, but i could never get my mind wrapped around it.   

  

Thank you for being on tv.   

  

I appreciate it. 

  

RG 

  

p.s.---what do you think about the fact that VIACOM is the #1 contributor to pornography?  Does Viacom still own CBS and how do you justify being apart of a company that exploits women and allows girls to be recruited to the porn industr???  (I am referring to the Diane Sawyer newscast I saw recently about Viacom and CBS). 

  

Thanks DR PHIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

  

Isn't Dr. Phil with NBC?  In my home town, he is not on CBS, except for specials, when he is on either ABC or CBS.  Leave him alone, silly, he only has just so much power and he doesn't own the world (although sometimes I'm sure it would be a better world if he did).  I think sometimes we feel that a powerful or popular person has more power and more responsibility than he really has.  But doctors do bleed, cops do cry, and I don't think Dr. Phil owns Viacom.
 
August 13, 2005, 12:05 am CDT

Reply - the contemplation

Quote From: ritehere

 I thought, at the heart of it, it sounded sad and wistful. Are you currently sitting on a fence, contemplating the other side? Go for it, you can always go back through by the gate.
Have you gotten very far on your ancestor search?

Yes Ritehere, I have.  I know back a few generations now.   When in a restrictive situation, like with schools etc, I guess going back is in so many many ways that would resolve a lot of things for me, like not exercising for a long time, in order to learn mentally. 

  

Going back through the (education) gate for example, I guess is to separate myself from negative/restrictive social hierachies, to exercise and find balance, and like going to a school-reunion (don't know of any yet).  So I learn to see these situations fairly and with out prejudice. 

  

Family history has also had such a slant, because one side came from overseas.  That the other side has been given more importance over the other side.  In some ways, my own behaviour has reflected this.  Identity was a vital issue that I learned about in my Arts course, where students are known for not being on the usual side of social normality. 

  

  

Nice to talk to you all. 

Taemanai 

  

  

 
August 13, 2005, 12:15 am CDT

thinking about others too much

I found, just one of those things, a misanswered question, upon somebodies work-sheet, inside a book/tape. (not related to it).  The question was: 'Should someone go on their first date, with a group?'  This student said 'it was more fun to do this'.  I'd like to know what others think about this.  (I don't know what the correct answer was) 

  

Taemanai 

 
August 13, 2005, 12:26 am CDT

Hello Lynn

Quote From: lynne618

Thought I would drop in and say Hi and Thank you all for your thoughts & prayers through e-mail and also here on the board . You all have been wonderful support here , Thank - You !! Husband & I are hoping Doctors have more answers for us on Friday . I will post ; let you all know when we find out . It the waiting and not knowing is really getting to us both . It is very trying time . We will pull throw this - I hope . Thank you all so much for all the prayers and thoughts . Lynn

I like your general outlook, like no seas are too tough to cross.   

  

Just saying 'hi'.   I'm surprised that noone seems to write just this.  Hope the world has been good to you. 

With admiration and respect, 

  

Taemanai 

  

  

 
August 13, 2005, 12:35 am CDT

CAUTION living is best when in doubt: there are many fools in theis world but

Quote From: retreat3

Isn't Dr. Phil with NBC?  In my home town, he is not on CBS, except for specials, when he is on either ABC or CBS.  Leave him alone, silly, he only has just so much power and he doesn't own the world (although sometimes I'm sure it would be a better world if he did).  I think sometimes we feel that a powerful or popular person has more power and more responsibility than he really has.  But doctors do bleed, cops do cry, and I don't think Dr. Phil owns Viacom.

'There is no fool like an old fool' or 'do what I say not what I do' 

  

We all like and admire someone, until they get themselves into situations we really would hope we are wise enough not to do.  Taemanai 

 
August 13, 2005, 12:41 am CDT

We could all gain from thinking this way

Quote From: grub48

You have taken the first step in finding your authentic self by coming to the boards and asking the question.

 

For many stories have a look in the Archives - however the journey that I started to find my authentic self commenced 3 years ago and whilst I am now comfortable within myself and my world I keep finding new things about myself - the journey will continue for me for the rest of my life.

 

And I think that is what it is all about for life is a journey and happiness is not a destination it is a part of the journey.

 

Like most of those who come here I worked on Dr Phil's Self Matters and Life Strategies books - the work was long and exhausting but the result - which was me and my authentic self - was worth it.  Give it a try.

 

I think one of the main things to remember - is that you should not try to define yourself by what you do or where you live or what you have - the real and true definition of who you are lies deep within - not in superficial world.

Taemanai
 
August 13, 2005, 12:48 am CDT

Living in a precarious time

I experienced the hard, long slog of learning how to build a mud hut.  That is my experience,  I didn't build it, I probably only did a couple of bricks, but still know it is now something worthwhile for so many reasons, like that potential is endless, if you know what you are doing.  Taemanai
 
August 13, 2005, 12:51 am CDT

A clear mind

Quote From: ritehere

When my kids were small, I sometimes felt trapped. I loved them to death, but it can be overwhelming. My middle child was mistakenly diagnosed as ADD, no hyperactivity though. It was a mistake though, the teacher he had just didn't know how to relate to him. However, my sister's son was true ADHD, so I know what you're talking about. I urge you to get with some other parents facing the same challenges, support can make a huge difference. You are not alone, even though that's the way it feels sometimes.

That is what I think being clear of disorder is, even if it is not just from chaos of living, but is medical.  I saw on the tv a story about someone nearly cured of such things, because of the communication needing great simplification, boundaries being for the good (feelings) rather than a mental discipline. 

  

Hope this helps, 

  

Taemanai 

  

  

 
August 13, 2005, 12:57 am CDT

What is it like to just be

Quote From: smiles23

Hi everyone,

 

I am new to this message board.  I have come to the realization that I need to find my true authentic self and am not really sure where to start?  I would love to hear some of your stories!  Any advice would be appreciated!

These are the experiences that I feel people want to know.  An authentic self doesn't have to do anything but be what ever is most natural and feels the best, but many of us do not know what this is because we don't always know how, like sharing, for example.  Why I think I wrote about my sister, at one stage, on-line. 

  

What relationships do we learn this and what ones are steering us off course and into the swamp;  whose mental messages are too stagment, too confusing, too rigid.. 

  

Taemanai 

  

  

 
August 13, 2005, 7:52 am CDT

The past,

Quote From: taemanai

Yes Ritehere, I have.  I know back a few generations now.   When in a restrictive situation, like with schools etc, I guess going back is in so many many ways that would resolve a lot of things for me, like not exercising for a long time, in order to learn mentally. 

  

Going back through the (education) gate for example, I guess is to separate myself from negative/restrictive social hierachies, to exercise and find balance, and like going to a school-reunion (don't know of any yet).  So I learn to see these situations fairly and with out prejudice. 

  

Family history has also had such a slant, because one side came from overseas.  That the other side has been given more importance over the other side.  In some ways, my own behaviour has reflected this.  Identity was a vital issue that I learned about in my Arts course, where students are known for not being on the usual side of social normality. 

  

  

Nice to talk to you all. 

Taemanai 

  

  

I've discovered that we are bits and pieces of all that has gone before, and we are not. We are shaped by those that have gone before us, but we are unique beings also, able to go forward in ways that are ours only. I found a variety of "characters" in my past, ranging from possible nobility to cattle rustlers to some real shady ladies. But they are not me. I have the freedom, and the responsibility, and make my own mark in this world. I've gotten a later start than others, but that's OK, better late than never.
School reunions can be illuminating in the self analysis leading to discovering how we got to the place we are at. For example, when I went to my first one, I learned that many thought I was shy, stupid, or thought I was better than others. I was amazed! In my own mind, I was afraid of others, due to hearing problems and self esteem issues. I thought I was not as good as others, and the idea that others would come to the exact opposite conclusion was astounding. But there you have it, that was the facade that I presented to the world. The conclusions were incorrect but I could not hate them for thinking that way, just the same as I could not blame myself. It just WAS. It's difficult to realize that you've been putting your happiness in the hands of people who do not see you clearly, relying on their good opinion of you when their opinion is based on faulty conclusions. Self-worth, contentment, and happiness can only come from within. Once you see yourself clearly, others will be able to  also.
 
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