Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

Hi Teri,

 

Glad to see that your taking time for vacation, Vancouver should be a great place to kayak sights are wonderful down there . Hope it brings you a good rest and serenity for the goals still ahead.

 

Be good to yourself

 

Sincerly Lyne

 Hi there.. I just wanted to say that I love what you said in your post and how you said it. I keep reading it over and over.. Somehow it has just touched me. I am new to the board and I want to share my story with others and I want to meet good people that understand and are willing to listen. You sound like a very understanding person,and smart too. I wish you well and hope too see you around the board.
                                           God Bless.

Hi everyone,

 

I am new to this message board.  I have come to the realization that I need to find my true authentic self and am not really sure where to start?  I would love to hear some of your stories!  Any advice would be appreciated!

I think you can start by asking yourself "what am i not satisfied with in my life?"

Like Dr. Phil says: "You can't change what you don't acknowlegde".

 

Regards,

 

Jo

Well, it is true that you can't change what you don't acknowlede but when you look at the question, what am I not satisfied with in my life and your answer is nothing is ever good enough well haaaaaaa how in the world do I change that!!!  I mean sure I  know it's possible but well yeah I don't know what I am talking about.  LOL

You have taken the first step in finding your authentic self by coming to the boards and asking the question.

 

For many stories have a look in the Archives - however the journey that I started to find my authentic self commenced 3 years ago and whilst I am now comfortable within myself and my world I keep finding new things about myself - the journey will continue for me for the rest of my life.

 

And I think that is what it is all about for life is a journey and happiness is not a destination it is a part of the journey.

 

Like most of those who come here I worked on Dr Phil's Self Matters and Life Strategies books - the work was long and exhausting but the result - which was me and my authentic self - was worth it.  Give it a try.

 

I think one of the main things to remember - is that you should not try to define yourself by what you do or where you live or what you have - the real and true definition of who you are lies deep within - not in superficial world.

Dr. Phil's Self Matters Monday July 25

 

Your hopes and dreams are far more valid than your doubts and fears.

Yeah i know that it doesn't matter what the superficial world thinks and well with a lot of things about me in my life it demonstrates that i am like so what if you don't like it.  Then there is me who says you should have done better, that's not good enough, what's your problem and all those things that just say hey your not good enough you need to do better.  It can be over the dumbest things that i get so mad at myself for and then i have already reacted to myself so well then haaaaa yeah..

 I am so glad that I do matter but actually sometimes i feel kind of angry about it.  I think that is really strange but haaaaaa yeah!!!  Iknow that it is the me who is deep inside that defines me but i just have a real hard time seeing it no matter how many people tell all those things they see. 

Kelsie,

 

  Just curious what the jist of Self Matters is - is that the goal of the book, to help you find your authentic self??   Glad you posted this, I may just have to go out and buy it!! 

 

 

  Jen

 It's good to hear from everyone again. I missed checking in everyday, and getting LS's daily thought provoking quotes.  Haven't taken the big hike yet, but I think it's getting close. Everybody, continue to send your thoughts and prayers out to Lynn618, she could use them.