Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

"The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind." 

--Dr. Wayne W. Dyer 

Thank you Lynn 618 for this weekend's quote. 

Thanks Ritehere, appreciate it.   

This is for everybody:  

( source http://flatrock.org.nz/topics/environment/beautiful_baobab.htm ) 

We all travel the milky way together, trees and men... trees are travellers, in the ordinary sense.
They make journeys, not very extensive ones, it is true:
but our own little comes and goes are only little more than tree-wavings - many of them not so much. 

- John Muir 

answers, we all want them, at any cost, 

intellectually - poetry is a delicate art, filled with what's going on around us, often the magnitude is enormous, we can't quite express, usually all of it, but some of us are more open (inner-road), I'll give you that much.  Your poetry did seem that way, but I think truly universal poetry, of issues we all relate to, on the other hand, is a bit obscure, from issues that had complications, but not too many. 

impulsively - a first responce is not always the best articulated, when I look back at what I write, what I've articulated , I see it as a ring of truth to find first-most within,  that it is like we pass the same difficulties but in different directions, we are like vehicles on the high-way of learning about ourselves, and so true understanding is a reflection of many truths, many understandings and illuminations.  In otherwords, any responce is better than no responce, and might just enable thinking. 

Taemanai 

a state of mind, I wonder what isn't. 

Taemanai 

I think we all know things that seem to have no proof.  I think that we have created systems so that our life is the way we want it and that is to an agreed reality, like law and order.  Avoid an orderless society, the majority, has an agreed if not absolute truth, we can't live with.  So therefore what is unknown to us, is like this also, even if the truths that make it so, is hard to understand.   

I do agree with the who entering and exiting of this world, for reasons of order, I assume.   

I suppose these things could show us for how really indecisive and unaware, when it comes to the obvious. 

Taemanai 

yet like trees, we are all attached to some place.   

Taemanai 

Coming on-line for the answers I seek, 

What do I decree, 

That each and everyone has thought about a topic such as 'better clarity'. 

That each and everyone has no gloomy thoughts 

Because life is for living and giving;  

For some, singing and kind words 

Others, living is enough and everything falls in place in time or with effort, 

Sayoonara 

Taemanai 

I know how it feels Kim.  For years I've been working up the nerve to finally step forward and tell my mom how hateful she is to me and that she shames & embarrasses me when we meet with people.  There's a whole list of stuff that's wrong with me that she doesn't like. 

Yesterday, she admitted to me that she's HATEFUL to me. but her script is so well written that she's not going to be able to stop it.   I'm rather glad that I've read self matters because I understand where she's coming from and that she does love me - she just doesn't know how to be nice to me.  It was how she was treated as a child - it's what role I play in her life. 

I would suggest that you sit down at the computer and write her a letter -- actually maybe a couple.  the first one has to be a dump. Just let everything out.  It may take you 2-3 letters before you can peacefully sit down and write her a letter explaining WHEN YOU DO ________, MY REACTION IS _______.   Sit down and write the boundaries you are setting up. 

Let your husband read the letter before you mail it out.   If you decide to handwrite it, then you need to make a copy of it before you mail it out.   

I know how hard it is to finally step forward and begin the process of building boundaries that enable you to bring closure so you can move on to a healthier life style.  Right now, my bathroom mirror is filled with post-it notes -- one says " I KNOW WHAT TRIGGERS MOM - I CAN STOP IT".  I'm choosing to take the role because it's what I can control.   

And if you were like me, wanting a MIL-DIL relationship that you see others have, well, welcome to my world.  I can accept that my mom loves me.  I can accept that I've become the adult in the relationship while my mom has remained the child. 

I ordered Rhonda Britton's book (CHANGE YOUR LIFE IN 30 DAYS) - I'm hoping it can help me with dealing with the "DYING FEAR" symptoms.   I finally am able to brush aside the "I'm dying" tape and replace it with truth.  Now, I'm finally able to experience/feel/name the emotional shutdown I have been experiencing since May when I first began to bring closure to my long time goals/dreams.  I actually was hyperventilating so bad that I felt I could collapse. 

Today, I wrote down how it felt to me and some of the side effects -- that will help me to remember it.  I'm going to transfer my words to my MEMORY book so that I can pull together a plan to handle it the next time.  It does get easier and easier. 

Marcia