Topic : Defining Your Authentic Self

Hi, dears

My name is Waseem Aldakhlallah, Im 22 years old, Ill tell you my story and I really hope to help me because I need someone to help me I did not find this someone but you.

Im so interested in your show, and because of your personality which makes any one loves you, and I was one of the millions who love you and your show.

Well, my problem has a broad range in our Arabian world; anyway, my story starts since I began my studying at university in the English literature department when I met a girl who I hated her for the first time I have seen her, on the opposite of the proverb or the say which is about the love from the first sight, well, I studied the first, second, and the third year when I saw her again, but this time I was changed my opinion about her, especially when I sat and talked to her

After two or three times of sitting with her, I really began to care about her, and I did like her so much, yet I started to think about her and I could not go out to anywhere unless she would be with me, and unfortunately she did not feel that Im really do care about her; and after that, in the worst day I lived in, I knew from her that she is  in relationship with somebody, and here I wished someone to kill me and not to hear something like so, anyway, I sat on the bed that night, and started praying to god, and I said: Jesus, if this girl, is mine, please give me a sign; and after that, she called me at 11 pm maybe

She was calling to ask me something about her relationship and she said: hi, Waseem, I want to ask you something, well, you know that Im in relationship with this guy, but I do not feel I love him so deeply, what should I do?, and here I felt that Jesus said to me: wake up son, I am with you, so I answered her: well, you have not to take my answer as a something is completely right, so you have firstly follow your heart, anyway, if you do did not see him for a week, would you miss him?, and here in a fast answer she said: NO, and here I said: ok, so think about another something, and wait someone to loves you and love him, and god do not forget anyone.

Well, may you will be bored of the rest, so Ill talk in summary, anyway, someday we made a frankly conversation on the phone, then we got out to a restaurant and there we talked, and then I have confessed that I love her, and here was the shock according to her, because I was someone who did not expect and she will not, but god wanted so

Three months later

We are in love, but here we started to face problems with her parents, because they knew about us, and they did not like me, and tell now she and I did not know why they do, i do not know why they do that may be because my financial circumstances which are do not help me to get married with her even after two years, and now Im studying and working at the same time as a teacher for the English subject, but that does not pay so much, so the monthly income is less than: 100 $, anyway we continued our road and we are till this moment together, but with no hope, and now I and she need your help, this is a serious calling to help us, especially after I saw that you helped so many people.  

Sorry for upset or taking your time hope you help me.

Sincerely Waseem Aldakhlallah 

I believe what I've heard is that he chose to give up his texas license as he's no longer living there.

And if you ever get the book about his life ... read it with a grain of salt ...  It contradicted itself repeatedly and the author didin't like him.  In fact, went looking for employees that got fired because they couldn't keep their mouths shut and was a little upset that current employees raved about working for him.

Rumors, truth, who knows .... and actually, I don't care.  He was human and his childhood was dysfucntional like so many others.  He spent years & years workign on himself ... he came up with some really helpful books (expecially Self Matters & Weight Loss Solutions) that really can change your life. 

And if your daughter ever gets a practice ... tell her to get Dr. Phil's certification which means they use his method ... and she'll never lack patients and she'll never have to work for an HMO.  I mean, there are so many people who are so familiar with his processes that getting certified to use it 24/7 will help ...  and we all know that you always use other works of help to help as well.

I am a long time fan of Dr. Phil's, from the Oprah days and I come here now, in hopes of finding answers to my misery.  I am familiar with Self Matters and a few of his other books and think that they are very insightful books; however, right now I have so many problems that I am overwhelmed with my life and spend much of my time depressed and crying.  Let me tell you about how 2006 has been the worst year of my life.  First of all, I left my husband (my third) of 4 years for another man (27 year old recovering drug addict and alcoholic) whom I fell in love with and felt an amazing bond with very quickly.  On January 1st I told my husband I was leaving him and moved in with my boyfriend.  On January 18 (right before my 39th birthday) my father (83 years old) died, after declining health for some time, but I chose for various reasons to not attend the funeral in Florida.  My sister, given the trust to carry out my father's wishes failed horribly and managed only to cause more problems within our family.  Then, in May, the most painful of all, my best friend and the one person I always knew I could depend on, my brother (51 years old) died unexpectedly.  That is the climax of my bad year, but my year of pain continued.  In July, I was fired from my job and have spent the last few months sending resumes and frantically looking for work.  Did I mention that I have horrible credit, no savings, and only debt and a small unemployment check to get me by?  I haven't even begun to describe the relationship with my boyfriend.  I am at a point in my life where I am utterly lost and now, with the loss of my brother, I don't have anyone who understands me or cares about me like he did.  I cannot express in words how much loss I have experienced but it has been the most devastating year of my 39 years and some days I just wish it was over.  My life has never been one that is meaningful, just a constant stream of scenes.  I realize that being married (unsuccessfully) 3 times says a lot about me, and I do not blame anyone but myself.  I am co-dependent and have been having these issues my whole life.  I would like to find myself, my true self, and make my life happier but I have so many issues in my life right now, that I am lost and do not know where or how to fix anything.  I think to myself sometimes, that I have nothing to look forward to in this life and the bad thing is, is that I know if I continue living like this that I will be right.

Hi,

     My wife and I emigrated to Australia 2 years ago for warmer drier climate for her arthritis. We left behind our family of 3 girls and son aged 30 to 191/2. Our son being youngest. 2 girls are here - 1 resident and one going through the process - which includes our 3 grandchildren - 1 Australian. Our youngest daughter is here for a year to see how she likes it  but our son, who was here for 6 months returned to Scotland and isn't doing too well. He is 21 going on 17! We helped our youngest daughter pay off the loan on her car and gave it to our son. I recently returned to Scotland to visit a sick aunt(93) and paid off some more debts for son and filled up his freezer etc. before returning. He hasn't got a job and has stopped going to college? I have told him that we can't give him more money because we have to retain certain amount as part of our visa condition. He has a good heart but no direction - possibly not a particularly high impression of himself. We love him and tell him all the time but worry about the fact that he is always in debt. I guess we are like many parents and maybe haven't severed the umbilical (purse strings) fully until we have had to. Whilst writing I am also thinking that maybe there isn't much for you to advise on, but writing and sharing helps a little. We would appreciate any comments you want to give us.