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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 11:20:02 am
Author : dataimport
Have you read "Self Matters" or become familiar with the process of uncovering your authentic self from watching the show? Share your story here.

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September 6, 2005, 4:01 am PDT

Hi Pal,

Quote From: ritehere

I used to keep a private journal, and discovered that my husband was reading it, being a snoop. I was angry at first, but I understand him pretty well. He came from a controlling set of parents that were in every aspect of his life until I came along. This was his example in life. I began to write things aimed at him, things that he would never ask me, but that I thought he should know. After a couple of years, I let him know that I was aware that he was reading my journal, and that I wrote much of it for him. It brought us closer together because I decided not to let it tear us apart. I put his sneaky behavior to good use. When I had a need to journal to get out anger or anything that would hurt someone, I would destroy it afterwards.

There's something about the act of writing your feelings that helps you to get to the bottom of what is going on.

I must admit that reading your post made me laught. So much wisdom in your way of handling the matter. This is what i call make the best of a bad situation, but in the same time it must have been devastating when you found out. Bravo you you dealed with it the right way.Linda you impress me. 

  

Hope everything is find with you 

  

Amitie sincere Lyne 

 
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September 6, 2005, 6:42 am PDT

Thanks Lyne,

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I must admit that reading your post made me laught. So much wisdom in your way of handling the matter. This is what i call make the best of a bad situation, but in the same time it must have been devastating when you found out. Bravo you you dealed with it the right way.Linda you impress me. 

  

Hope everything is find with you 

  

Amitie sincere Lyne 

But really, when you're married, that's what it's all about. Living together, learning together, forgiving each other, getting along. It can be an extremely long haul, or a process of new discoveries with an old friend, take your pick.

The day you move in to your new house is almost here!
 
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September 6, 2005, 7:49 am PDT

Hello Everyone!

Hi! 

I'm new here. 

My name is Sara and I come from Sweden. 

I'm a HUGE fan of an english pop singer called Gareth Gates. 

He is my EVERYTHING!!! 

Hope to chat with all of you soon... 

Take care, 

Love Sara 

 
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September 6, 2005, 8:15 am PDT

Labor Day Weekend

Hey everybody, this is one of the places I went over the holiday weekend. This is Trailridge Road in the Rocky Mountain National Park. The poles on the sides of the road indicate how high the snow gets in the winter. The elevation here is about 11250 ft. and they close this road in the winter.
You're looking at Long's Peak, one of our more popular 14er's. Remember when I climbed Estes Cone awhile back? That's it to the left, the little cone with the small rainbow above it. It looks so tiny next to Longs! Couldn't help throwing in a little perspective here, forgive me.
 
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September 6, 2005, 8:25 am PDT

Elk herd

The elk were out in numbers. Caught this before they got nervous with all the tourists snapping pictures and moved away. It was a beautiful day. Sometimes the weather can be unpredictable and very cold or snowing. The old-timers are predicting  heavy snows this year.
 
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September 6, 2005, 8:28 am PDT

Grub, this one's for you.

The ravens were flying fast in the face of a storm coming up, but I managed to snap this one. We saw some hawks, and some turkey vultures too but couldn't get a good picture of them. It was getting rather cold up on the top, so we didn't spend alot of time outside the car as we didn't bring enough clothes.
We didn't do any hiking this trip, but we would like to some other time. Our National Park is one of the most spectacular mountain drives you can take. Anyway, that's what I was up to this weekend. Hope you all enjoyed the pics.
 
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September 6, 2005, 10:45 am PDT

who is Author Unknown ?

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Hello, where I live I spend weekends doing things at my family's place, I have access to the internet, I buy bargains and there is lots of places for a dip (short swim), it was a place of rain when I first came but so much drought seems to have ended this.  The week days I live in a place that is difficult at times, and yet I find time to learn a little more Japanese, read Gothics or similar stories, maybe enrol in a course, attend appointments and know a few people, at least until things change,  I had to adapt to change growing up, changing schools in the middle to the school year and being learning to become settled, or contentment quickly, has become a kind of extreme perception, as well as other things like work, going outdoors what I want now, just seem a bit tough to do, as school is and just keeping up the appearance of doing all the things I'm supposed to be doing, is a bit of a preoccupation from childhood, that has had a countereffect, people not understanding me etc. 

  

I write a bit more a bit later.  With deepest of affection, 

Taemanai 

  

  

    


here's to these authors who wish to remain....unknown...



You Still Have Hope

If you can look at the sunset and smile, then you still have hope.

If you can find beauty in the colors of a small flower, then you still have hope.

If you can find pleasure in the movement of a butterfly, then you still have hope.

If the smile of a child can still warm your heart, then you still have hope.

If you can see the good in other people, then you still have hope.

If the rain breaking on a roof top can still lull you to sleep, then you still have hope.

If the sight of a rainbow still makes you stop and stare in wonder, then you still have hope.

If the soft fur of a favored pet still feels pleasant under your fingertips, then you still have hope.

If you meet new people with a trace of excitement and optimism, then you still have hope.

If you give people the benefit of a doubt, then you still have hope.

If you still offer your hand in friendship to others that have touched your life, then you still have hope.

If receiving an unexpected card or letter still brings a pleasant surprise, then you still have hope.

If the suffering of others still fills you with pain and frustration, then you still have hope.

If you refuse to let a friendship die, or accept that it must end, then you still have hope.

If you look forward to a time or place of quiet and reflection, then you still have hope.

If you still buy the ornaments, put up the Christmas tree or cook the supper, then you still have hope.

If you can look to the past and smile, then you still have hope.

If, when faced with the bad, when told everything is futile, you can still look up and end the conversation with the phrase..."yeah...BUT.," then you still have hope.

Hope is such a marvelous thing. It bends, it twists, it sometimes hides, but rarely does it break. It sustains us when nothing else can. It gives us reason to continue and courage to move ahead, when we tell ourselves we'd rather give in.

Hope puts a smile on our face
when the heart cannot manage.

Hope puts our feet on the path when our eyes cannot see it.

Hope moves us to act
when our souls are confused of the direction.

Hope is a wonderful thing, something to be cherished and nurtured, and something that will refresh us in return.

And it can be found in each of us, and it can bring light into the darkest of places.

Never lose hope !

~Author unknown~
 
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September 6, 2005, 11:20 am PDT

Taemanai

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here's to these authors who wish to remain....unknown...



You Still Have Hope

If you can look at the sunset and smile, then you still have hope.

If you can find beauty in the colors of a small flower, then you still have hope.

If you can find pleasure in the movement of a butterfly, then you still have hope.

If the smile of a child can still warm your heart, then you still have hope.

If you can see the good in other people, then you still have hope.

If the rain breaking on a roof top can still lull you to sleep, then you still have hope.

If the sight of a rainbow still makes you stop and stare in wonder, then you still have hope.

If the soft fur of a favored pet still feels pleasant under your fingertips, then you still have hope.

If you meet new people with a trace of excitement and optimism, then you still have hope.

If you give people the benefit of a doubt, then you still have hope.

If you still offer your hand in friendship to others that have touched your life, then you still have hope.

If receiving an unexpected card or letter still brings a pleasant surprise, then you still have hope.

If the suffering of others still fills you with pain and frustration, then you still have hope.

If you refuse to let a friendship die, or accept that it must end, then you still have hope.

If you look forward to a time or place of quiet and reflection, then you still have hope.

If you still buy the ornaments, put up the Christmas tree or cook the supper, then you still have hope.

If you can look to the past and smile, then you still have hope.

If, when faced with the bad, when told everything is futile, you can still look up and end the conversation with the phrase..."yeah...BUT.," then you still have hope.

Hope is such a marvelous thing. It bends, it twists, it sometimes hides, but rarely does it break. It sustains us when nothing else can. It gives us reason to continue and courage to move ahead, when we tell ourselves we'd rather give in.

Hope puts a smile on our face
when the heart cannot manage.

Hope puts our feet on the path when our eyes cannot see it.

Hope moves us to act
when our souls are confused of the direction.

Hope is a wonderful thing, something to be cherished and nurtured, and something that will refresh us in return.

And it can be found in each of us, and it can bring light into the darkest of places.

Never lose hope !

Author unknown

Hi - I did not write this - the person that sent it wants to be left as Unknown . Thank you for your thoughtful reply - I do understand . I am working on Life Strategies .- Yes again . Tell you where I am at next week with thought or two . Got a list mile long to get done this week . Let you know about that to . Until than - Enjoy Your week . ~ Lynn   

 
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September 6, 2005, 2:48 pm PDT

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Hi,

I'm 18 years old. I want to get emotional closure, so I will read Self Matters.
(I'm very serious about getting more control of my life)...  

   

There is something constantly on my mind:
Am I to young for this?
Should I stop with it? Or go on?


I mean, I don't control over the thing in my life like adults do...
Example: I can't chose where I life...I still life with my parents, it's not an option to chose for this option, bud I will chose to more freedom by getting a better relation with my parents...

I can't change everything I might need to get more out of myself.
Should I go on with analysing my moments, choises and people?

And if some of you do not recommand that I go on, which age do you recommand? Or which situation?

Greets,

Stefan

(sorry for my bad English, I'm from The Netherlands, Europe)...  

 
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September 6, 2005, 4:57 pm PDT

We've put out the WELCOME mat...

Quote From: ritehere

Just had to add my appreciation for your efforts helping the poor people that were caught in the Katrina disaster.

And did I catch some righteous anger a few posts back? About the complete WRONGNESS of making children responsible for everything when an adult caregiver is unavailable due to mental illness? Hooray for you, I caught no deflecting humor, (although I LOVE your humor!) And I caught no denial of what went on. You stated your worth to your sister. Bravo! That post moved me in so many ways.

And now, you're going to reach out to others in need. YOU GO GIRL! You're my hero.

Just a few survivors of Katrina have arrived in SC. I'm told that in the days to come we will be seeing more. I'm on stand-by. I'm ready! Ya know, America really came through for SC after hurricane Hugo!!!   

    

And, 'Yes!' that was anger or something remarkably like it! (My sister and I WERE our mother's primary caregivers. She was our sole extacurricular activity!)   

And, 'Yes!' had to get clear with my sister. Though, as I mentioned I was the one who probably set-up the need to clarify.    

    

Thank you for your support!!! I don't think I qualify for hero status, yet!   

I do appreciate you so much!!! I'm so glad to see you back on the board!   

    

I Love those WONDERFUL photos of the Rockies. They are so beautiful!   

   

Thanks, I look forward to seeing you on the board!!!   

    

Brenda   

 
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