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Created on : Thursday, July 07, 2005, 11:20:02 am
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Have you read "Self Matters" or become familiar with the process of uncovering your authentic self from watching the show? Share your story here.

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September 19, 2005, 5:23 pm PDT

Teri, You Warm My Heart

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I just wanted to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers.  Today is much better than the last two days.   

  

As an update, the two baby goats were absolutely not harmed.  I admire the adult goats for doing such a fine job of protecting them.  They are afraid.  I am sure the smell of the dogs still lingers in the pens, and that must be traumatizing to them.  They also seem to not understand why the big boys can't come out to be with them...it is sad.  We are trying to spend lots of time with the babies to comfort them...I have even been letting them suck my thumbs again.  It seems to comfort them even though they are weaned.  

  

The two surviving adults are in really bad shape.  Salsa, the brave soul who lost his life, is very missed.  Taco and Snow are struggling.  Snow has only two visible injuries, yet he cannot get up...we suspect he has something internal going on that we don't understand.  No vet will come out here yet and they are in too bad of shape to transport, so we are unsure of what to other than love him and make him as comfortable as possible.  Taco is the worst off.  There is really only one small spot on his head out of his whole body that is not bit and torn.  He cries when he gets up, but he gets up to relieve himself, which is a good sign.  The bad thing is on his hind leg he is mangled.  There is so much bone exposed that I don't know what to do other than wash, medicine, and love.  He is in a horrible amount of pain yet makes it clear he intends to live right now, which makes me admire him even more.  The babies really want to see him, so I let them "talk" to him at the barn door, as we have put the injured ones inside.  For the babies we have built a pen that should keep them safe in the event the dogs come back before we find them.   

  

We have an idea of the direction the dogs live.  We are going to put an ad in the paper and canvas the area to see if anyone's dogs came home bloody.  We have also made it clear that any dog we see on our property will be shot at this point, as we cannot allow our goats to be hurt like this again.   

  

The prayers and thoughts have been so appreciated and welcome.  I don't think I have ever felt so powerless and angry and broken hearted like this.  Today I have hope, I am not sobbing, and I know that I am doing the absolute best I can to care for my friends.  I do not feel powerless.  

  

Side note:  Brenda, Erv, that is my boyfriend/mate, and I think your idea is great and would love to try to set a date.  We really need lots of planning time because of school/budget/ and the clients we care for.  We are willing to do this, and think it is a grand idea...so even if it takes a year, let's plan it and follow through.   

  

Thanks again everyone!  Your loving responses have helped me, lifted my spirits, and Ritehere, thank you for your supportive thoughts, we are sure now that it was dogs as someone actually saw them, and your level, thoughtfulness is so wonderful!  Thank you... 

  

Teri 

I was truly saddened by your tragedy. You sensitivity and loving care for these little ones who are still struggling and can’t fend for themselves is a testament to the uniquely special human being that you are. I’m sure that those sweet little ones are finding comfort and solace with you there to tend their wounded bodies and hearts. I just love who you are!!! 

That’s why I’m even MORE excited about getting together to meet see the show, have lunch and spend more time getting to know each other even better!!! I know that you have a lot on your plate right, now. When you get an opportunity to discuss with Erv what time you feel would be good for ya’ll! Then we can try for a long range target date! 

Keeping You in my thoughts and prayers! 

Brenda 

 
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September 19, 2005, 6:11 pm PDT

This is so GREAT! As Good as it gets!!!

Hi, All, 

As many of you have read, I made a suggestion that we all try and set a long range goal to go to be a part of the studio audience at a taping of the Dr. Phil Show. Thus, far Teri, Lynne and myself are in and Ritehere has indicated an interest. The spring of next year has been identified as a good time and Ritehere mentioned February as a beautiful time. I am completely flexible so maybe if everyone could start by identifying a best time for them we could probably begin narrowing down a date to go see the show meet each other and get to spend time with the special folks that we’ve been sharing with!!!  

According to this site they tape shows Tuesdays, Wenesdays and Thursdays, August thru early December and January thru May. They tape two shows a day when taping. Well, all of this information can be found under ‘Be in the Audience” under “Shows”. 

I’m going to start looking for hotels in the area that are affordable and that have a shuttle service or other options for getting to the studio. 

I am just getting so excited!!! I want to meet you all!!! 

So throw in your ideas! (i.e.best times for everyone, worst times for everyone, any other ideas, thoughts.) 

  

Let's get started!!! 

  

Brenda 

 
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September 19, 2005, 6:11 pm PDT

Alright!!

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 Hi , You are on - next spring ! Talk to you soon ! Lynne 

I am delighted!!!  

Brenda 

 
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September 19, 2005, 9:45 pm PDT

Defining Your Authentic Self

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   I feel so bad for you and for what happened to your poor goats.  When I was growing up in Iowa one of our neighbors had 2 goats, a bunch of chickens and some rabbits.  When he started working full time he let me take care of the animals.  I loved it and would go and milk the nanny goat every day.  I have always loved animals and to hear of such a senseless thing like what happened to your goats really makes me mad.  Just last Thursday i had to take my Mothers cat Sharp and have him put down.  She wanted me to do it for her while she is out of town because it's always hard for her to lose one of her pets.  I cried like a baby when I took him in.  I knew it was for the best because in cat years he was well over 100 and could hardly walk.  That didn't make it easy though because he has been a part of the family for such a long time.  I really feel for your pain and will pray for both you and the goats.  I believe God hears prayers for animals too.  Barb

you're that person with the boy who's afraid of death right? how did your son take it? 

 
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September 20, 2005, 6:08 am PDT

You might get a discount for airfare...

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Hi, All, 

As many of you have read, I made a suggestion that we all try and set a long range goal to go to be a part of the studio audience at a taping of the Dr. Phil Show. Thus, far Teri, Lynne and myself are in and Ritehere has indicated an interest. The spring of next year has been identified as a good time and Ritehere mentioned February as a beautiful time. I am completely flexible so maybe if everyone could start by identifying a best time for them we could probably begin narrowing down a date to go see the show meet each other and get to spend time with the special folks that we’ve been sharing with!!!  

According to this site they tape shows Tuesdays, Wenesdays and Thursdays, August thru early December and January thru May. They tape two shows a day when taping. Well, all of this information can be found under ‘Be in the Audience” under “Shows”. 

I’m going to start looking for hotels in the area that are affordable and that have a shuttle service or other options for getting to the studio. 

I am just getting so excited!!! I want to meet you all!!! 

So throw in your ideas! (i.e.best times for everyone, worst times for everyone, any other ideas, thoughts.) 

  

Let's get started!!! 

  

Brenda 

Brenda, there's a hotel & airline that Dr. Phil uses for his show -- if you can find out what it is, you could probably get a discount on both by making the reservations as early as possible. 
 
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September 20, 2005, 6:16 am PDT

Picking myself back up....

I've discovered I'm in my UNHEALTHY DISTRUCTIVE pattern again and it's such a nasty place to be.  Once again, I've been focus on one thing and have allowed myself to slide back into my unhealthy life style behaviors & habits.  I'm really tired of it.  This has been going on for years and years.  I really do want to live the healthy life style - I just get side swiped by life events.  The last one was when I named PIG PEN.  And as usual, I put all my resources into the naming and handling. 

  

I'm facing about 4-5 FEAR SYMPTOMS right now.  I don't feel FEAR like PIG PEN; however, I know that it's time to have a heart-to-heart with myself and ask myself about the script I'm living to. 

  

Did any of you who have read SELF MATTERS ever use the list on SCRIPTS to ask yourself what your life script was and what you were living to?  I've done it a couple of times and discovered I didn't like what I was writing about me.  Now, I have to do it again.  And it's more complicated with the knowledge of FEAR and how it affects me.   and my discovering that I had written FEAR scripts that are strong memories within me.  Its' not something I want to do - I just want this phase of my life over.  On the 27th, I'll begin my 14th year of living and I'm still dealing with my past.  Oh sure, signs have begun to surface -- it's just something I wish I could figure out quickly and snap my fingers and be there! 

  

At least I know I can behave myself to my healthy life style - I just have to pull myself together and get back on the path.  hmmmm  I'm just so tired of this!  And I also know, I've written this before over and over again.  I'll do it.   

  

who knows maybe this time, I'll just discover a year from now that I just did it and forgot that it was a goal!??  Good thing I've seen it happened all year long -now I can motivate myself to move forward. 

 
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September 20, 2005, 7:34 am PDT

Our best time

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Hi, All, 

As many of you have read, I made a suggestion that we all try and set a long range goal to go to be a part of the studio audience at a taping of the Dr. Phil Show. Thus, far Teri, Lynne and myself are in and Ritehere has indicated an interest. The spring of next year has been identified as a good time and Ritehere mentioned February as a beautiful time. I am completely flexible so maybe if everyone could start by identifying a best time for them we could probably begin narrowing down a date to go see the show meet each other and get to spend time with the special folks that we’ve been sharing with!!!  

According to this site they tape shows Tuesdays, Wenesdays and Thursdays, August thru early December and January thru May. They tape two shows a day when taping. Well, all of this information can be found under ‘Be in the Audience” under “Shows”. 

I’m going to start looking for hotels in the area that are affordable and that have a shuttle service or other options for getting to the studio. 

I am just getting so excited!!! I want to meet you all!!! 

So throw in your ideas! (i.e.best times for everyone, worst times for everyone, any other ideas, thoughts.) 

  

Let's get started!!! 

  

Brenda 

Spring break for us during school is really the best time, as we plan a trip south then anyway.  We go to Lake Powell and Kanab to see Erv's parents.  If we are talking California, we would probably be traveling with our pop-up camper and our kayaks...We could look into reservations at Doheney Beach and do some surfing....hmmmm.... 

  

I don't know the exact details of where and such, so as we look and plan these details will evolve. 

  

Teri 

p.s.  This photo was taken of me surfing in a kayak at Cape Kiwanda which is at Pacific City in Oregon.  August 2005 

 
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September 20, 2005, 7:34 am PDT

girls just want to have fun

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I am delighted!!!  

Brenda 

Hi Pals, 

  

If the trip is in April or May count me in please. I would be so happy to meet you all. Hope this dream come true. 

  

Don't have much time to write will all i have to do with the new house but  you are all in my prayers. 

Talk to you soon 

  

Amitie sincere Lyne xoxox 

 
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September 20, 2005, 7:43 am PDT

The Nine Yearold's Mind?

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you're that person with the boy who's afraid of death right? how did your son take it? 

   First I would like to thank you for your concern for my son.  I made a big mistake the day before I took the cat in.  I tried to explain to Jose what to expect and that Sharpie (the cat) would be going to heaven to be with the other pet's and that he would be young and happy again.  He did not take it well, absolutly would not talk about it.  And he cried.  Alot.  I felt so bad and so stupid.  The next day I took sharp while Jose was in school.  After school when we got home he asked if Sharp was gone and then said he missed him but didn't cry about it any more. I just cant figure that child out yet.  He's a funny one. Thanks again for asking. Barb
 
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September 20, 2005, 7:46 am PDT

Defining Your Authentic Self

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I want to set my message-emote to something, but I don't really know what could describe my feelings at the moment. I remembered one of my defining moments yesterday and it left me emotionally exhausted...

I was surprised at what a little thing it was that has made me strive for higher and higher grades and never beeing pleased with myself. It was a summerday when I was about 7 and me and my childhood best friend M were picking flowers. Our mother's called and we ran over to the cars and M gave her mother the little bouqet that she'd picked. I watched confused when her mother became happy and smiled and thanked her. I had been thinking about having the flowers in my room, but I gave them to my mother. Instead of getting the same reaction as M did, my mother started telling me that the colours didn't match and that the length of the flowers were uneven. I was crushed.

When I came to think of this yesterday, I was crying and trying to get it down on paper... That such a little thing could have made me think "I am not worth it" I didn't think was possible. Then again, my mother has critisized me before and it could just have been the moment that I stopped expecting her to react - which hasn't stopped me from tring to prove that I am "worth it".

The words "I am worth it" that I've been telling myself the last month or so melted together yesterday and became "I am worthy"... I'm worthy of a different life, I'm worthy of being happy instead of having the best grades...

You guys here give me so much support and with out you I'd surely have been stuck on that chapter 4 forever. Thank you so much, once again and thousands of times more.

- Enzymbia.

Enzymbia, 

  

That moment you describe makes me want to cry.  I know how that felt, to do something so excited to share with my mother and to be criticized for it.  I felt crushed, too.   

  

I am so happy for you that you made this connection!  I am envious of your age, wishing I had these tools at that age for myself, yet so glad you do!   

  

You are worth everything anyone has to offer, especially yourself! You are worthy, precious and deserve only the best.   

Teri 

 
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