Quote From: lessonslearnedI'm outgoing, confident and a chatterbox to everyone. But I have a problem with feeling bad for people when they come to me with their situations. How do I become someone that will tell them like it is? I really have a hard time with this. I look at it as having a good heart which I really do but know it has hurt me financially, and mentally being this way. I'm writing a book and someday hope the world reads it and learns from it. I'm currently reading self matters and enjoying it. However, applying is the key. That is where I need help. Any suggestions????
When I read Self Matters the 1st time, I had so much "OLD CRAP" in my head that I finally just said read the book and then come back and re-read it. It allowed me to see the entire process.
Then I selected a safe area in my life that I had been wanting to do ... sewing or dancing .. both of them enabled me to write down a list of TO DOs. I choosed sewing and then with book in hand, I began to re-read the book, journal what I was doing, and gained valuable experience with the entire process.
It was really cool cause sewing has been a dream of mine since I was 13years old. When I did this, I was 51 years old. I'm still not a great sewer, however, I've spent valuable time and energy and dealing with my negative, abusive self-talk and have gained valuable skills and strengths.
Is there something you've been wanting to do that you can easily work on? like learning how to swim or sew or take a college course even ... whatever triggers your negative self-talk would be cool.
Dealing with how you handle people is going to take time to learn and practice. So start with something easy and allow yourself the time to gain the experience.
